Open Community Potluck & Discussion September

Connect with non monogamous community in the south bay over a shared potluck meal and conversation.

Come share stories, build connections, and meet new friends in a welcoming space centered on authentic, intentional, open-hearted relationships in community.

This community values consent, honesty, authenticity, vulnerability, kindness, acceptance, and accountability.

You don’t have to be dating, or practicing any particular relationship style, to be welcome. If these values resonate with you, you’re invited.

OPEN COMMUNITY GUIDELINES

By attending this event, you agree to read and abide by these community guidelines.

DIVERSITY 🌈

- Expect to encounter a variety of relationship styles, orientations, gender expressions, and life experiences.

-Comfort levels around touch, storytelling, and boundaries will vary.

-What we all have in common is an interest in cultivating intentional and authentic relationships.

-You are invited to be curious—ask questions, listen, learn, and share.

HOLDING SPACE FOR EACH OTHER 🤗

-You are invited — but not required — to hold space for others and for yourself.

-Holding space means letting people speak their truth and exist as they are, without assumptions, judgment, advice, or pressure to fix anything.

-Sometimes this is the only place where someone gets to simply be.

-You are invited to listen with presence and empathy.

CONSENT ✅

-A “yes” means yes. A “no,” silence, “maybe,” or hesitation means no.

-If you hear no, respect it without needing an explanation.

-A yes now doesn’t automatically mean a yes later — ongoing consent matters and can always change.

PHYSICAL CONSENT 🤝

-You may see hugging, cuddling, or kissing—and people saying yes to some and no to others.

-Always ask before entering someone’s personal space. For example: “Would you like a hug?” or “May I sit next to you?”

-If you want, you can offer alternative connections: “I’m no to a hug, but yes to a high five or handshake.”

CONVERSATIONAL CONSENT 💬

-Some people here are open to sharing everything, while others prefer to keep explicit or personal stories private.

-Please pause to ask the people around you before sharing explicit stories (sex, kink, BDSM) without consent.

CONFIDENTIALITY 🤫

-Everything shared in this group should be treated as confidential and private.

-Do not share stories that name others without their permission.

-Do not greet people outside this group in a way that could out them.

-Do not take or share photos/videos without the clear consent of everyone who would be photographed.

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TICKETS 🎟️

An Eventbrite ticket is required to attend

If cost would keep you from attending, see the NOTAFLOF policy at the bottom of the description.

RSVP ON PLURA

You are encouraged to RSVP on plura. It’s not required, but it lets everyone know you’re attending, adds you to the event chat, and helps make connections.

REMINDER: Plura RSVP does not hold your spot — Eventbrite ticket is needed for each attendee.

LOCATION

This event is being hosted at a private residence in Sunnyvale, CA. Address will be shared in the confirmation email.

Do not share the address without permission from a host. Direct all address requests to Rose.

HOSTS

Rose, Erik, Brad

ACCESSIBILITY

There is a step up to the front door. This is a 3 story apartment unit, with 2 flights of stairs. The first floor is the garage, with a bedroom/bathroom. This first flight of stairs leads to the main gathering area, so this staircase is unavoidable to access the main gathering space, and there is no elevator. The stairs to the third floor lead to bathroom and bedrooms that are optional/not required in order to use the space.

PETS

No Pets living here. Service animals welcome.

WHEN ARE THINGS HAPPENING?

If it’s your first time attending, arriving on time for the opening circle is essential. If you’ll be late and miss the opening circle, please reschedule. Returning attendees, let a host or others know if you’ll be late.

7:00 – 8:00 PM | Socializing & Potluck Dinner

8:00 – 8:15 PM | Opening Circle (Community Agreements & Topic)

8:15 – 9:15 PM | Small Group Discussions

9:15 – 9:30 PM | Closing Circle

9:30 - 10:00 PM | Freestyle Socializing

After 10:00 PM – “After Hours”

The host often invites folks to stay past 10 PM. The vibe becomes more cozy, touch-friendly — think cuddle piles and consensual massage between adults. If you’re new or prefer to avoid PDA, we recommend heading out by 10 PM.

DISCUSSION TOPIC

TBA - WILL BE UPDATED

Have an idea? Let us know. We're always taking suggestions ;)

POTLUCK FOOD

This is a dinnertime potluck—please bring food or drinks to share. Home-cooked or takeout is welcome. Gluten-free and low-sugar options are often appreciated, and wholesome, filling dishes are always a great choice.

Please write in the Plura chat what you will be bringing in the days before the event.

PARKING

Street parking, and parking across the street at Muwekma Park. Come early for easier parking. Parking is also accessible in the nearby neighborhoods. Check San Simeon, San Rafael, and San Colusa streets if Muwekma park is full.

DRINKING/SMOKING

No smoking. Alcohol is BYOB and should be consumed responsibly and in moderation, as it is not the focus of the event.

DONATIONS

If you would like to support to the organizer beyond the price of a ticket, here are two additional options:

1) Purchase a donation ticket for the amount of your choosing, instead of the default paid ticket.

2) Click this link to buy me a coffee. I prefer Boba Milk Tea, but you get the idea

NOTAFLOF POLICY (No One Turned Away For Lack Of Funds)

If the price of a ticket would keep you from attending for any reason, including "I don't feel like paying for a ticket today", use the promo code FREE at checkout for this event or future events - no questions asked.