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In this class, we study rope as a means of listening, understanding, and seeing each other. This kind of rope is an expression of curiosity about the other person. We have several hands-on exercises designed to get you thinking and feeling deeply about each moment in your ties, and paying very close attention to your tying partner. We all want to be understood, we all want to be listened to, and rope can offer us a lot in this regard, if we're present for it. But this class is not for the faint of heart - be prepared to be vulnerable with each other and potentially reach parts you haven't met yet.

Prerequisites:

No prior experience required. Suitable for beginners, with depth for more experienced practitioners.

Bio:

Sluttyhands (he/him) and Dancehalldyke (she/her) are San Francisco Bay based rope artists. Sluttyhands has been tying for eleven years, Dancehalldyke for eight. They both primarily tie in fairly traditional Japanese styles while working in dynamic transitions and emotional tension. Their tying together typically focuses on going to dark and vulnerable places and playing with strong emotions, ranging from violent and rough to creepy and distant, and occasionally even to sincere and loving.

To their rope classes, Dancehalldyke brings her past as a classical ballet person and 15 years of experience teaching collegiate math and physics, and is a student of Barkas. Sluttyhands brings in a martial arts background, a past as a math and computer science professor, and a love of fast-paced, restrictive, and challenging shapes and sequences. They have been teaching rope together nationally and internationally for 3 years, and have presented together and separately at Vox Body Studio, Temple New York, Dark Odyssey, Beach Bind, Northern Exposure Alaska, Birdhaus Toronto, The Jungle House Costa Rica, and more. Their performances have been featured at Twisted Windows, Seattle Erotic Arts Festival, Folsom Street Fair, SF Pride, Kinkfest, VoxBody Studio, and more.

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KINK STORE EVENT CODE OF CONDUCT - By purchasing your ticket(s), you agree to comply with the entire CoC:

Golden Rule

Treat one another with kindness and respect.

Consent

Consent is required for all touch and play at this event. It must be freely given, revocable, informed, engaged, and specific (FRIES).

• Never touch anyone without permission.
• Negotiate all scenes in advance. No up-negotiation during play.
• Do not assume anyone's presence implies availability.
• Do not join or interrupt a scene without invitation.
• If someone asks to be left alone, respect that immediately.
• Obtain explicit consent before photographing or involving others in your scenes.

Privacy and Discretion

What happens here stays here. Treat all information about attendees and activities as confidential. Do not "out" anyone regarding their identity, orientation, kinks, or attendance.

Community Care

Don't yuck someone's yum. This means respecting that others may have different kinks, interests, and ways of expressing themselves. What isn't your thing may be someone else's joy. Keep negative reactions, comments, or judgments about others' consensual interests to yourself. This is an LGBTQIA+ and BIPOC-inclusive space. Everyone is expected to show up with respect and care for others. We maintain a zero-tolerance policy for:

• Discrimination or bias based on race, gender, sexuality, disability, or body size.
• Harassment, intimidation, coercion, bullying, or unwanted advances.
• Non-consensual behavior of any kind.
• Misgendering, deadnaming, or invalidating anyone's identity.

Intoxicants & Altered States

We do not sell or serve alcohol at this venue.

We recognize that substances affect capacity to consent, and we prioritize everyone's safety. If you appear unable to give or receive clear consent, a host may check in with you privately. Continued concern may result in being asked to pause play or step outside. This is never a punishment, but a community care measure. Our priority is keeping everyone safe and able to enjoy the space.

Health and Hygiene

• Please stay home if you are feeling sick or experiencing symptoms.
• Be scent-aware: avoid heavy perfumes, colognes, or strongly scented products.
• Be thoughtful and considerate of all bodily odors when attending and throughout events. Come prepared, as personal hygiene is your responsibility. If you need basic hygiene supplies, please ask a host.
• Respect others' disclosed allergies or sensitivities.

Respect the Space

Treat staff, hosts, and the venue with care and courtesy. Return any equipment to its proper place and report any damage or safety concerns to a host immediately.

• Wipe down any surfaces where fluid contact may have occurred.
• If you need cleaning or disinfecting supplies, please ask a host.

Scenes and Play

• Be mindful of those in active scenes or aftercare. Do not interrupt, crowd, or hover.
• Respect established play areas, furniture, and equipment; ask a host before using anything unfamiliar.
• Any play considered edge play must be disclosed in advance to event hosts. This includes rope suspension, any form of breath restriction, electrical play, and similar high-risk activities.
• Allow adequate space between scenes and bystanders.

Safewords

Agree on safewords before any play begins.

• "Red" or "Safeword" will immediately stop a scene. Alert hosts if necessary.
• "Yellow" (or equivalent) indicates a limit or request to reduce intensity.
• If verbal safewords are not possible, establish a clear nonverbal signal in advance. For example, three deliberate head shakes as a "no" signal, or dropping a held object.
• Honoring a safeword is non-negotiable. Ignoring one is a serious violation.

Safer Sex

• Communicate openly and honestly about STI status when relevant.
• Safer sex supplies will be available when needed.
• Respect others' safer sex boundaries and practices without question or pressure.

Safety Monitors & Dungeon Monitors

Dungeon Monitors (DMs) and hosts are here to support safety and consent. They have final say and may stop any scene. Please:

• Inform DMs or hosts in advance of any edge or atypical play.
• Follow their instructions promptly and without argument.
• Seek them out immediately if you witness any consent violation.
• Be patient; they may be attending to another matter.

Phones and Photography

No photography, video, or audio recording is permitted unless explicitly stated otherwise for a specific event. Keep your phone stored and screens dimmed in play areas. Violations of this policy are taken extremely seriously.

Aftercare

Aftercare is a vital part of responsible BDSM play. Check in with your play partners following a scene. Be mindful that aftercare needs vary; some may need space, others physical comfort, or time to decompress. Hosts may have a designated aftercare area or resources available. Please ask if you need support.

Newcomers & First-Timers

We welcome people who are new to events like this. If you're unsure about anything, ask a host. No question is too basic. We encourage experienced community members to be patient and welcoming mentors, not gatekeepers.

Concerns and Reporting

If you witness or experience a consent violation or safety concern, please speak with a host or event representative immediately. All reports will be handled with discretion and taken seriously. You will be believed and supported. You may also email dusty@kinkstore.com if you wish to remain anonymous. We are committed to accountability and learning.

Consequences for Violations

Violations of this code of conduct may result in:

• A verbal warning from a host or DM.
• Being asked to stop a scene or activity.
• Being asked to leave the event immediately.
• Being banned from future events.

Serious violations involving non-consent will result in immediate removal and may be reported to relevant community networks.