AI Can't Tell You What You Want

A 4-week online Touch and Communication Workshop for Partners, based on The Wheel of Consent, by Dr. Betty Martin.

Picture it. A touch exchange between you and your partner. Two people. And if you’re like most people…probably not a lot of talking. Looks pretty simple. But under the surface, so much is happening.

What do you really want? Can you ask for it? What if they say no? What if you don’t want to do what they want to do? What if you don’t know what you want to do?

In any two-person touch interaction, there are actually four possible roles that we each could play. I think of them as Four Aspects of Desire. We all naturally gravitate to one role with more ease and comfort, and we can all build comfort and fluency in the other roles to expand our erotic capacities and the possibilities of what we can experience with our partners.

Join me for a 4-week online series to become fluent in the Four Aspects of Desire. This course, based on Dr. Betty Martin’s “Wheel of Consent,” is designed for you and your partner to take together (in the same physical location), to build the skills you need to connect more deeply, authentically and pleasurably.

The “Wheel of Consent” is one of my favorite tools. In addition to helping us to recognize our desires, this tool is a game-changer for sexual communication. It also has a phenomenal impact on quality of touch. Turns out, when we learn how to trust and value our own impulses, our touch feels better to our partners.

This class is for you if:

• you don’t know what you want
• you think you know what you want but don’t trust yourself or you judge yourself
• you know what you want but don’t know how to ask for it
• you’re afraid you partner will say no to your desires
• you’re afraid your partner will say yes to your desires
• you don’t know how to respond when you partner shares their/her/his desires with you
• you take it personally when your partner says no
• you want to give feedback and direction on touch with ease and confidence
• you want to receive feedback and direction on touch with ease and confidence
• you want to touch your partner with more skill
• you want to enjoy it more when your partner touches you

The course meets online via zoom on Monday evenings from 7:30 - 9pm PT, March 30 – April 20, 2026.

Portions of the class will be large group discussions, where I share information and instruction or we reflect on the experiences we had in the exercises, but much of the class will be an opportunity for you to explore the exercises and practices I offer with your partner one-on-one (privately in break-out rooms).

The touch exercises in the course are non-erotic, so you never have to worry about coming back to the large group for discussion sweaty and disheveled. :) We build capacity with the skills using non-erotic touch in the workshop, and they naturally generalize to erotic touch (on your own time) as your comfort and fluency increases.

In fact, if you’re not partnered you can take the class with a friend. (Heck, even if you are partnered, you might prefer to take the class with a friend!) We all need touch—that includes non-sexual touch!—and this course is a great way to reconnect to your body, connect to your desires, and increase connection and clear communication in all your relationships, regardless of your romantic/sexual relationship status. Perhaps you have identified that you are experiencing a touch deficit; this course is an ideal way to begin to address that.

Early bird registration for the course is $200 per couple. After March 8 registration is offered on a sliding-scale of $250-$300 per couple. (You choose your sliding scale rate.) [A "couple" here refers to you and a partner or you and your friend--whoever you are taking the class with in the same physical location, ie. you're in the same box on the zoom screen. :)]

So what do you think? Are you ready to enjoy sex more, connect more deeply with your partner, gain invaluable insights into your own eroticism and nourish your own need for touch? AI can't tell you what you want. But your body can. And this workshop will show you how.

Register at https://www.eventbrite.com/e/ai-cant-tell-you-what-you-want-tickets-1983807183689?aff=oddtdtcreator

About the facilitator: Shauna Farabaugh is a certified somatic sex educator who has been teaching professionally in a variety of settings since 2007, with certifications from San Francisco Sex Information, The Institute for the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality, the Somatic Sex Educators Association and the American Board of Sexology. She was faculty at the Institute for the Study of Somatic Sex Education from 2017-2023 and has been a teaching assistant at a number of Dr. Betty Martin's in-person Wheel of Consent trainings. Reverently irreverent, Shauna brings a profound sense of play to both her group classes and one on one work with students of all genders, sexualities, and sexual lifestyles…because sex really is supposed to be fun! Learn more about Shauna at www.sexualityintransition.com.

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