Sex-Positive Community | Holiday Happy Hour

Come celebrate the end of 2024 with community: meet friends, lovers, play-partners, event organizers, and consent geeks.

In collaboration with the Bay's finest communities:

Poly Happy Hour

Bonobo Network

Boundless

Normalizing Non-Monogamy

Beyond the Rainbow Events

Mission Control

Twisted Windows

Boundless

AfterDark

Stopgap

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Event Guidelines

We are joining forces with Poly Happy Hour and joining their Non-Monogameetups monthly event. Here are the guidelines from the host Allan Steiner:

• Respectful Behavior toward hosts and guests is required. Anyone who violates these rules may be asked to leave the event.

•No photography, video, or recording of any kind is allowed without prior verbal consent of all parties involved.

•Verbal Consent: Please be sure to ask and wait for a yes before hugging or initiating any physical contact, and encourage each other to speak openly about consent and personal boundaries. This helps foster a culture where personal boundaries are supported and attendees are empowered to speak confidently of their limits. (i.e. “Can I give you a hug?” “No thank you, but I would love a handshake.”)

•Expectations: Our events are about developing friendships and connections within the community. Check your expectations at the door. Being at this event does not signal sexual availability or indicate any aspect of sexual orientation. This is a no cruising event, in order to maintain a comfortable atmosphere for our guests.

*Look Out For One Another: Because our events are open to the public it's important that take extra precautions beyond what may be typical at other events in our community. Watch out for your and others' uncovered drinks, and let a host know if you notice anything that seems suspicious.

**What does "no cruising" mean?**

The no cruising guideline has a lot to do with intentions. Are you coming to this event specifically to go home with a bunch of numbers and dates on the calendar? We'd discourage that. But, are you wanting to come and socialize with other poly people? Great! And does that sometimes naturally lead to dates? Sure does! Just as one might end up dating someone they meet at a running club even though the running club is not specifically set up to be a dating event.

The main thing behind the guideline is preventing it from feeling like a meat market. This is a social event, not a dating event. We want the people who show up to feel comfortable. Having to fight off constant passes can be really uncomfortable, and is not what people come here for.