BDSM 101, with Mistress Wicked

Get a foundational understanding of BDSM with a focus on consent, negotiation, and safety protocols.

We will cover the essential principles that guide ethical and safe BDSM practice. You’ll learn how to navigate BDSM with respect and clarity through an emphasis on communication, consent, and the importance of aftercare.

Whether you’re completely new to BDSM or looking to refresh your understanding, this class will help ensure that you have the tools necessary for a safe and enjoyable experience.

We'll touch on:

1. Quick overview of what BDSM stands for (Bondage/Discipline, Dominance/Submission, Sadism/Masochism).
2. Understanding that BDSM is about trust, communication, and power dynamics, not just physical acts
3. Defining informed consent: What it means to give, receive, and revoke consent.
4. Exploring the difference between active, enthusiastic, and ongoing consent.
5. Why it’s crucial to discuss limits, desires, and expectations before any play begins.
6. Covering the basic components of a scene agreement: What’s on the table, what’s off-limits, and what aftercare will look like.
7. The basics of physical and emotional safety in BDSM play: equipment, environment, and the importance of preparation. Understanding common roles (Dominant, submissive, and switch) and how each role may have different protocols and responsibilities.
8. The importance of aftercare: Emotional and physical aftercare for both parties involved.
9. How to check in post-scene and ensure your partner is okay.
10. The importance of respecting everyone’s boundaries, limits, and consent.
11. How to build and maintain a safe space where people can freely express their desires without fear of judgment.
12. How to identify problematic behavior (e.g., coercion, ignoring safewords, gaslighting).
13. Encouraging participants to feel empowered to speak up or walk away from unsafe situations.