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Bonobo Network presents: Kiss and Tell Second Bass (April)

  • Hosted by Bonobo Network
  • Oakland, CA -
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Bonobo Network presents: Kiss and Tell Second Bass

Friday, April 26, 2024 7pm - 3am

GET TICKETS HERE: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/bonobo-network-presents-kiss-and-tell-a-sexy-second-bass-party-tickets-876820913957?aff=oddtdtcreator

Agenda

7:00 PM - 9:30 PM - Doors open

NOTE: No entry after opening circle without permission from hosts. Email info@bonobonetwork.com if you think you may need to join late.

7:30 PM - 8:30 PM - Playshop: Blindfolded Contact Improv with Candice Holdorf and Gabriel Diamond

Blindfolded Contact Dance is a slow and gentle experience—for both beginners and experienced dancers alike. The constraint of the blindfold invites dancers to explore other senses to find connection, expression, pleasure, and safety. Candice and Gabriel will take us on a journey of somatic self-discovery and non-verbal consent via solo and group exercises—both with and without blindfolds. Candice Holdorf is a writer and coach with a focus on reclaiming erotic embodiment through exploring shame and shadow. She brings her passion for movement, play, and creative self-expression to her work as a group facilitator. She has trained in various healing modalities such as yoga and orgasmic meditation as well as studied Alexander Technique and theatrical movement while getting her BFA at NYU. Gabriel Diamond is a long-time dancer who has practiced many modalities of conscious movement. He is a filmmaker by trade with a background in theatre. For more info visit www.blindfoldedcontact.com

9:15 PM - 10:00 PM - Opening Circle

10:00 PM - 11:30 PM - Obscenic

Obscenic

From the dance floor to the stage, Obscenic (formerly K-Luh) has become a staple in the Bay Area dance and festival scene. Her musical journeys explore polarizing energies and the contrast in between - from hair raising vocals to dirty bass-lines her sets consist of bass, trap, world, house, hip-hop, pop and R&B infused with soulful, sexy, and trippy undertones. Inspired by her dance practice, Obscenic's selections are designed to activate various parts of the body and inspire new and funky ways to wiggle.

11:30 PM - 1:00 AM - Leapin' Lygress

Leapin' Lygress

Leapin’ Lygress roams far and wide in the jungles of sound, hunting beats, breaks, and melodies served from the heart to move your body and soul.Bringing ground-shaking beats and vibes that sweep the room like a tidal wave, each mix is heavy enough to flatten the Earth (it isn’t already?), but so sodden with feel-good hooks it’ll leave you pleading for more delightful dancefloor destruction. This rare natural occurrence is the fateful fusion of musical influences from southern soul to mountaintop mantras to modern metro pop-hop, a perfect storm of empowering bass-rich bangers that is only occasionally visible in the Pacific Northwest. So keep your eyes to the sky and your ears to the ground, something wicked awesome this way comes.https://soundcloud.com/eva-leapin-lygress/tracks

1:00 AM - 2:30 AM - Maya Light

Maya Light

Maya Light loves to dive into the depths of connection and expression through the unique and captivating conversation that is awakened on the dance floor. She plays as a director of the human experience, offering countless pathways and possibilities of movement through the range of diverse music she shares. Drawn to deliciously wompy, heart-bass world beats, she encourages a rich exploration with a dynamically nourishing and inspiring journey of sound.

2:30 AM - 3:00 AM - Closing Circle

About this event

They say that dance is the vertical expression of horizontal desires. Guess we'll find out just how true that is.

At Kiss and Tell, your expressions of desire may need to stay clothed – barely – but they don't have to stay vertical. Take a break from dancing on our 1500 sq. foot dance floor to sensuously snuggle with lovers old and new.

The night’s music will feature an amazing all-femme lineup: Leapin' Lygress, Obscenic, and Maya Light! Plus a blindfolded contact improv playshop to open the night is certain to warm you up for the night’s activities.

Unlike our full play parties, tickets are available to non-Bonobo members for this event. With lower stakes and intensity, It’s the perfect way to introduce your friends who are Bonobo-curious or nervous about play parties to our community.

Just remember that the party has "second base" limits on connection, which means you’ll need to keep your panties on. We'll get you all worked up with a bevy of sensual explorations, BDSM demonstrations by our house top Mx. Mayhemm, and sexy games – but you'll have to take the party home to go any further.

To make sure everyone feels safe enough to play at their edges, we don't allow any physical touch without clear consent. If you can't play by the rules, you may be asked to leave the party -- and that's no fun!

This is an alcohol-free event. We encourage you to limit intoxication so you can stay tuned in to the needs, boundaries, and desires of your fellow guests.

Make sure you're up on Bonobo party etiquette by watching this video: https://youtu.be/eCtnU0SCdSA?si=xAHd7u-oKLG0HSdm

Learn more about our consent framework at https://bonobonetwork.com/consent

If you are not yet a Bonobo Network member but you’re interested in joining you can learn more about us at https://bonobonetwork.com and apply for membership at https://bonobonetwork.com/apply. By joining you'll get access to all of our play parties and members only community events.

Please be sure to read ALL details below.

Your Eventbrite FINAL DETAILS email will contain ALL relevant details for attending this event TO ARRIVE THE DAY BEFORE THE EVENT. Check your email - including your spam folder - for a message from noreply@eventbrite.com. Please read this email in full and instruct any guests for whom you may have purchased tickets to do the same!

 

»»» Connect on Plura

https://plra.io/m/bonobo-kiss-and-tell-042624

»»» Volunteering

Volunteering is a great way to meet other Bonobos, and volunteer tickets have discounts baked into them as a thank you for your contribution. Available roles include:

Pre-Party

  • Setup (Saturday 5pm - 7pm Pre-party) [$30 ticket]

During Party

  • Food Support (90 minutes at the beginning of the party) [$30 ticket]
  • Greeting (90 minute shifts before and during party) [$40 ticket]
  • Covid Testing Support ( 90 minute shifts before and during party) [$40 ticket]
  • Angel Crew (60 minute shifts during party) [$40 ticket]
  • Cleaning (60 minute shifts during party) [$40 ticket]

Post-Party

  • Strike (Sunday 11am - 1pm Post-Party) [$20 ticket]

»»» Inviting your friends

Want to invite a friend to this or future parties? Great! Bonobo Network membership is NOT required to attend Kiss And Tell. If they'd like to become a Bonobo member, you can invite them to learn more about us and apply at https://bonobonetwork.com/apply.

 

  • Your friends should FULLY understand Bonobo Network's culture, especially around consent.
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  • They should be broadly familiar with their boundaries and be able to set boundaries with others.
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  • They should be able to resolve conflicts gracefully, generously, and empathetically.
  • They're someone you trust to be accountable to you and to this community.
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  • Ideally, you trust them implicitly, and you would either play with them yourself or recommend that your friends play with them at the party.
  • You would feel comfortable staking your reputation on their being a good fit for our community. (NOTE: This is different from feeling confident that they would enjoy themselves or get something out of the experience.)

»»» Covid Policy

We no longer require proof of vaccination. We do require a negative COVID test.

Your COVID testing options are:

  • Present a timestamped photo of a covid rapid antigen test taken the day of the event at the door.
  • Present the results of a PCR test administered within 48 hours of the party.
  • Bring your own COVID test to take on site. If you use this option, please wear a mask into the venue. There will be a limited supply of rapid tests available for purchase - PLEASE BRING YOUR OWN.

If you need to take a covid test onsite, you must wear a mask.

»»» Incident Reporting

If your boundaries are crossed at the party, if a Bonobo member acts in ways that are not in accordance with our culture and values, or even if someone just kinda creeps you out, please report the incident to an angel or party host. We also encourage you to file an incident report online at http://bit.ly/bonoboincidentreport.

Incident reports aren't just for consent violations at Bonobo events. If people are behaving in the ways described above outside of parties, it can be helpful for organizers to know.

»»» Registration + Tickets

Tickets for our standard members will be on a sliding scale starting at $65.

Tickets will be on a sliding scale starting at $55 for PrimeMates, our premium members. [PRIMEMATE MEMBERS: You have a special code that you received when you became a member. Use that for your discount.]

 

IMPORTANT!
If you're purchasing more than one ticket, please make sure each individual attending is named!

Once you purchase your ticket, your Eventbrite confirmation email will contain all relevant details for attending this event. Check your email - including your spam folder - for a message from noreply@eventbrite.com. Please read this email in full and instruct any guests for whom you may have purchased tickets to do the same!

 

Our Ticketing Pricing Policy

We offer sliding scale with discounted and higher priced tickets for those who are having financial hardship and for those who are experiencing financial excess. Please contribute at the level that best reflects what you can afford. That helps us maintain our generous No One Turned Away For Lack Of Funds (NOTAFLOF) policy.

If you need a discount due to financial hardship, we invite you to use promo codes NOTAFLOF25 for a 25% discount, NOTAFLOF50 for a 50% discount, or NOTAFLOF75 for a 75% discount. If you need a complimentary ticket, please email the respective party producer to make a request (see email above).

Who should use the NOTAFLOF policy?

Examples are those who are supporting children or other dependents alone, have significant debt, have medical expenses not covered by insurance, receive public assistance (such as unemployment payments), have immigration-related expenses, are an elder with limited financial support, are an unpaid community organizer, or don't have an entertainment budget otherwise.

»»» Bonobo Network Principles

What began as a series of small parties in Summer 2010 has grown into a community that has served 3,000 people around the Bay Area and the world. Our community is united by the following principles, which inform how we orient towards the spaces we share and how we treat one another:

High Possibility, Low Expectation: Our communities are best when they're treated as high possibility, low expectation spaces. That means two things: first, that all kinds of awesome sexy interactions are possible, but that no one should be expected to interact with you in any particular way. No one owes you anything. Second, we often attend these events with an expectation of the type or quality of experience we should have. While anything is possible, you'll probably have a much better experience if you lose those expectations of yourself and open yourself up to the abundance of connection of all kinds available to you at the party. Low expectation DOES NOT mean "low desire" – we believe it's helpful to have a well-explored and articulated sense of what you want and to hold those desires lightly.

Trust and Integrity: Parties like ours are built on trust – that's what allows us to be as open and welcoming and vulnerable as we can be inside those spaces. But this requires that we all show up in full integrity, pledging to be our most trustworthy. Three important implications of this : keep the identities of folks at our events confidential, proactively disclose relevant safer sex risks, and take exquisite care of the venues, spaces, and neighborhood ecosystems that host us.

Consent: We agree that we will only physically engage with one another, including nonsexual touch, where there is CLEAR CONSENT. We define consent as an ongoing collaboration between two or more people in constant verbal, physical, and emotional dialogue about what each other needs to safely, willingly, and pleasurably interact with one another. Gold standard consent in Bonobo Network is affirmative, informed, unpressured, specific, competently given, and ongoing. Respecting and valuing consent isn't just about preventing violations that shred trust -- it's also about making sure that everyone has as much space as they need to fully occupy their yes. Please read our Consent and Accountability Policy (https://bit.ly/bonoboconsentpolicy) for more details on how we approach consent and accountability.

High Challenge, High Support: Play parties can be challenging and emotionally complex, even for seasoned veterans. We’re committed to making the play parties we throw high challenge, high support environments. We come together to celebrate and play at our edges. To fully support that endeavor, we provide a dedicated nonsexual space at each party for folks who need to get away from the intensity of the gathering. It means recruiting a team of angels who are available to provide counseling and social support throughout the party. And it means encouraging everyone who attends to commit to being an angel for everyone around them.

H ere's a guide to have a pre-party conversation with your sweetie(s) to make your party go smoothly for both of you: https://bit.ly/beingpartyready

Everyone Contributes: Parties like this are never the work of a single organizer -- it takes the participation and contribution of a host of people. Everyone who attends is expected to co-create the party: money, time, energy, enthusiasm, work, intention, example, concern and/or awareness.

Inclusion: We are dedicated to fostering inclusion in our community. No matter your race, ethnicity, gender identity, or class background, we want everyone who participates in this community to understand that they belong here, and that they have as much of a stake in what happens here as anyone else does. While we recognize that everyone is on a learning curve when it comes to learning how to foster such an atmosphere, we also commit to a stance of learning -- and supporting one another's learning -- of how to be excellent to one another.

This is a dynamic list, ever growing, changing, and deepening as this grand experiment in connection continues. Thanks to you all for playing mad scientist with us.

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