COME ALIVE: Reawaken & Explore Your Sensual Vibrancy

Invite your partner into the center of the bed...

Know that they'll invite you to receive next....

Set down the disconnection you've been feeling within and with your partner. Acknowledge the loneliness and numbness, and take gentle steps to reconnect to feeling alive and connected.

Reawaken and explore your sensual vibrancy as you're invited to RECEIVE and OFFER a sense-based experience so you both can come alive again.

Slow down.

Connect with your bodies.

Take your time.

And delight in each sense and sensation without rushing toward a goal.

FOR LOVING COUPLES FOR WHOM SEX IS IMPORTANT

People in All Bodies, of All Expressions, and in All Relationship Dynamics Are Invited & Welcome. Non-Gendered and Inclusive Language is Used Throughout. Please share access needs and how I can support you.

FOR QUEER FOLK, ASEXUAL PEOPLE, HETEROSEXUALS, MARRIED PEOPLE, SEX WORKERS AS WELL AS THOSE PRACTICING CNM OR MONOGAMY

MICS OFF, CAMERAS OFF. THIS IS FOR YOU TWO

Early price: $40 per couple through March 26

Regular price: $45 per couple

This experience will support you both to co-create a gentle and sensual offering and receiving with:

1. One person at a time laying down to receive with their clothes on and some skin on their arms or legs exposed
2. The offerer learning to pace themselves to support their partner to drop into the pleasure of their senses while surrendering and receiving
3. Embracing the energy of play, care, sensuality, kink, and/or support
4. Switching to embrace mutuality and to strengthen both of your skills

Here are the details of what you can expect from our practice focused on reawakening and exploring your sensual vibrancy:

1. CREATE YOUR SPACE: Before you arrive and as we start, you’ll be invited to create a space—ideally in your bedroom, and the couch or kitchen table works, too—where you feel comfortable and safe enough with each other. You can also bring what invites the most presence and connection for you. Having a candle to light sets an energetic intention to focus on one another, and having a hand towel and your favorite unscented, organic massage oil and/or lubricant nearby makes for easier shifts to sexual intimacy if you both want to.
2. INTRO: I will introduce myself and you both to starting a Sex Practice and Four Factors for Relationship Sex as well as why we're gathered live and online in service of collective belonging. I’ll invite everyone to turn their mics and video off.
3. ON A DIAL DESIRE CHECK-IN: I'll invite you to check in with your body, mind, and sexuality On The Dial. On a scale from 0 to 10, how open are you to having sex right now? Zero is, “No, thank you. Not right now.” Ten is “Yes, please. Let’s take off our clothes!” Anything from 1 to 9 is a willingness, a curiosity, a maybe coming from our sexuality and our body.
4. SHIFTING FOR SEXUAL INTIMACY EXERCISE: Fifteen minutes in we’ll begin the formal Sex Practice with a guided meditation for meeting yourself and coming into presence and connection as well as naming our intentions for this Sex Practice.
5. RESOURCING, ARRIVING, & ORIENTING: I’ll guide you to locate a resource within you or just outside of you for any time you feel overwhelmed, panic, or a sense of flashback during the Sex Practice. We’ll finish by arriving and orienting to the space before we move on.
6. FIVE SENSES AWAKENING PRACTICE: You’ll take turns offering and receiving a tantra-inspired practice. The first person offering will invite their partner onto the center of the bed and to get comfortable with some of their skin exposed on their arms or legs. Then they’ll be guided to slowly and step-by-step enhance and awaken each of their partner’s five senses. To start, we’ll be checking in to see if they’d like their eyes covered with a sleep mask, blindfold, scarf, and/or a handtowel. From there we’ll move through each of the senses where you’ll have gathered:

FOR TASTE: Fruits, chocolate, nut butters, etc.

FOR SMELL: Essential oils, fruits, flowers, etc.

FOR TOUCH: Soft feathers, rose petals, cool stone, etc.

FOR SOUND: Your voice and a stream of things you love about them.

Then you’ll switch receiving and offering.

1. RECAP & AFTERCARE COMMUNICATION PRACTICE: The two of you will be given an equal amount of time to share around the following topics: What did you experience? What did you feel? What did you love? Would you want anything different? What would support you to feel cared for, supported, safer, and more grounded in yourself and from your partner as you leave the space and head into the rest of your day?
2. ON A DIAL DESIRE CHECK-IN: To end, you’ll be invited to once again check in On The Dial. On a scale from 0 to 10, how open are you to having sex right now? Zero is, “No, thank you. Not right now.” Ten is “Yes, please. Let’s take off our clothes!” Anything from 1 to 9 is a willingness, a curiosity, a maybe coming from our sexuality and our body.
3. EXPLORE MORE ON YOUR OWN: As we come to a close, I’ll give you a sense of what to expect while continuing to process and integrate this experience and how to bring it home with you. You’ll receive an email from me within 24 hours with a guided audio and additional offerings for support.

ABOUT YOUR FACILITATOR:

Daniela (she/they) is a certified Sex and Intimacy Coach, speaker, and writer practicing somatic abolitionism and appropriated tantra.

Named one of the ten best Sex and Intimacy Coaches of 2023 by DatingAdvice.com, she supports couples and individuals to experience deep sexual connection and intimacy with themselves and with their partner(s).

With over twenty-two years of experience coaching people one-on-one and teaching in college classrooms and yoga studios, she curates exercises and practices steeped in somatic attachment theory, neuroscience, embodied conflict resolution, trauma healing, modern psychology, and ancient tantric and taoist wisdom.

Daniela is a queer cisgendered woman raced as white born in the Bay Area as well as a biological and transnational adoptive parent of three.

She lives and works as an uninvited guest on occupied Ohlone land that’s known as San Jose, California in the United States.

For her, nothing is more important than connection.

Website: DanielaStevens.com

Social Media: @danielastevensnow