Consensual Nonconsent for Bottoms with vahavta! A Zoom class

Learn how to play ethically and safely on the edges of consent.

How do you keep yourself safe when you want to feel you’re in real danger?

How do you push someone past their breaking point and still leave room to repair the damage?

Is there a way to forego hard limits and safewords and stay ethical in play?

When you start to play on the edges of consent, everything becomes a little bit trickier. In this class, vahavta draws on her experiences and stories from a decade years in a 24/7 consensual non-consent (“CNC”) relationship.

Some of the topics discussed in this class are the following:

• Tips and strategies for developing and staying within a personal risk profile.
• Playing with triggers.
• Communicating in-scene without “breaking character".
• Dealing with cognitive dissonance ("did I really want that?").

Vahavta will also go over mental and physical considerations and contingency plans needed to enter a CNC environment based on the individual desires and boundaries of those playing.

This class is open to all levels. Bring your questions and your curiosity, everyone is welcome!

Instructor Bio

vahavta began her kink journey about a decade ago and has been grateful to get to teach, play, and learn in communities in North Carolina, Chicago, St. Louis, and Israel along the way. Today, she serves in a 24/7 CNC-based Total Power Exchange with heavy elements of emotional play and service and is often found sporting large bruises, writing, or enjoying a good beer.

vahavta is disabled, Jewish, and femme, and believes in approaching kink with a firm understanding of intersectional context. As an educator, she aims to give honest and risk-aware information that applies to the realities of human behavior, focusing largely on the "how" and asking people to consider their personal capabilities, interests, and readiness. Passionate about community collaboration, vahavta is proud to run the Risk Evaluation Database (RED) and contribute regularly to kink blogs and her own Fetlife writing index. In all aspects of her life, she strives to be a work in progress.