Desire Lab NYC (A Sensual Evening of Consensual Exploration)

A warm evening of sensual exploration and erotic connection, featuring guided practices, consensual touch, and conscious interactions

Join us for Desire Lab, an immersive evening designed for those already familiar with conscious sxxuality work (such as ISTA, Tantra trainings, or other somatic intimacy spaces) who are ready to deepen their practice in a safe, respectful, and well-held container.

This is an advanced-level workshop for people who want to explore what it means to follow their desires, voice them clearly, and navigate boundaries and consent, especially in the face of hearing or receiving a “no.”

Desire Lab is not about performance, it’s about presence.

You’ll have the opportunity to ask for and offer experiences you’d like to explore, all within a clear structure and shared agreements. (One of our core agreements: pants stay on.) This is what makes Desire Lab such a rare and sacred space: you get to explore within boundaries that prioritize safety and sovereignty.

Please note: If you’re new to this work, we recommend attending a Cuddle Party first to get grounded in the foundations of consent and communication.

At Desire Lab:

1. You are 100% responsible for your own experience.
2. You are expected to know how to take care of yourself and honor the experiences of others.
3. You must be willing to practice clear communication, embodied yes, and respectful no.

Agenda:

1. Opening Circle – Setting intentions and co-creating the container
2. Guided Practices – Communication, touch calibration, and embodied awareness
3. Consent & Boundaries – Practicing verbal asks, full-body listening, and non-verbal cues
4. Freeform Exploration – Navigate desire, connection, and boundaries at your own pace
5. Closing Circle – Integration and optional sharing in community

Open to all genders, singles, and couples.

This is not a dating event, and we do not guarantee gender balance. It is a space of embodied exploration and connection.

Come with curiosity. Leave vibing high on connection, and a deeper relationship to your desire.

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1. Sept 19th - Desire Lab

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***PLEASE NOTE: These events do fill up fast and do sell out every time. Make sure to get your ticket in advance as we sadly had to turn away several people at the door last time due to capacity.***

What to Expect

The first part will be a workshop on consent and communication. We will discuss the rules of cuddling, play games, and practice saying Yes and No. This will include an opportunity to state boundaries and set intentions.

In the second part we will open the space to "Freestyle" snuggling. Here you will be invited to explore with your fellow snugglers and practice the skills you learned during the workshop. You will have a safe space to ask for what you want and negotiate with others to find connection that is mutually supportive.

Possibilities Include:

1. Massages
2. Head Scratching
3. Spooning
4. Watching/observing
5. Saying "No" to everything
6. Talking
7. Dancing
8. Holding hands
9. Napping
10. Hugs
11. Reading a book

Conscious, consensual possibilities are endless.

You can expect to experience a deeper sense of connection that can sometimes lead to new friendship, personal insights/awareness, feelings of belonging, tears or laughter.

Why should women attend?

1. Experience a safe, structured space with clear boundaries and guidelines
2. Relax and explore your connection desires without pressure
3. Practice saying yes and no with confidence
4. Overcome fears around intimacy and connection
5. Improve your receptivity and communication skills

Why should men attend?

1. Learn to become more attuned and present in your connection skills
2. Practice making polite, respectful asks that open people up to connect
3. Build confidence in approaching and engaging with others

What to Bring

1. Bring your curiosity, playfulness, and sense of adventure.
2. Please wear clothing that is cozy, clean, comfy, and helps you feel relaxed. There will be space to change when you arrive.
3. You are encouraged to bring your favorite pillow or blanket. Stuffed animals are also very welcome.
4. There will be some light snacks provided. Please consider bringing something to share.

PLEASE BE PROMPT

Doors will open at 6:30. Doors will be closed at 7 and the welcome circle will begin. No one will be admitted after the doors have closed. We will have a closing circle at 9:45 and the event will end at 10:00.

Tickets

Please purchase tickets to guarantee your spot. There are multiple price points. If you choose to pay at the door you may be turned away if the event is full. If you desire to come but do not have the funds, please contact me. No one will be turned away for lack of funds.

The address is our private space in Tribeca and will be sent to you in your ticket confirmation email (you will need to scroll down--this is the email that comes from Eventbrite).

Refund requests will be honored in full if made 3 days in advance of the event. Additionally, refunds will be issued for anyone who cannot attend because they tested positive for covid or are not feeling well. No refunds will be issued for no call/no show.

THIS EVENT IS DRUG AND ALCOHOL FREE, AND LIMITED TO PARTICIPANTS WHO ARE 18+

Covid Protocol

If you test positive or are not feeling well, please stay home. Your ticket will be refunded in full if you must cancel due to illness or exposure. Masks will not be required but anyone's choice to wear one will be honored without question.

About Snuggle Party

This event is a step deeper than our Cuddle Parties, so if you are not familiar with our consent policy it is recommended to first attend a Cuddle Party.

Meet Your Facilitator: Maya Kova

Maya is a Certified Tantra Speed Date® Facilitator & Cuddle Party Facilitator

Maya Kova has been studying modalities of conscious living & loving for the past 12 years, diving into the spiritual, emotional, sensual, and mental aspects of The Self. She is certified in Applied Positive Psychology, a Certified Tantra Educator, and trained in kundalini yoga, energy work, D/S arts and shamanism.

Contact: maya@tantrany.com