What Better Way to Spend a Friday Night Than a Double-Header?

Join us Friday night at a private residence in Gresham, Oregon, for a DOUBLE-HEADER: Workshop + a Play Party, hosted by ReidAboutSex.com's Reid Mihalko

Tonight's workshop... From Flirting To Fucking: How To Be Successful at Sex Parties!

Followed by a conscious play party!!

You must attend the workshop to attend the play party. Venue location sent upon confirmation of registration. Must be 21. Limited to 20 tickets.

🎟️ Plura+ Members receive a discount on tickets! Check out membership on the Plura app and see if it's for you. 🎟️

HOW THE DOUBLE-HEADER WORKS...

Doors open at 6:45pm. Workshop from 7-9:30pm. Snack break and costume change, then the Play Party Welcome Circle begins! After the Welcome Circle, it's a choose-your-own-adventure-style play party until the closing circle at 12:30am! You're welcome to leave early at any time, but Reid will lovingly kick everyone out at 1am.

No Late Arrivals - If you're running late, text the number in your confirmation email, but we do lock the doors to latecomers to uphold the event's integrity.

MORE ABOUT THE WORKSHOP...

From Flirting To Fucking: How To Be Successful at Sex Parties

Do you attend play parties or are thinking about attending one? Ever wonder how complete strangers go from finding that spark to fanning the flames of flirtation and then stoking (and stroking!) hawt, blazing encounters? Or how folks avoid picking the wrong people to hook up with? Or how NOT to ruin the moment and bring the sexy moment crashing to a halt?

YOU are not alone! And the good news is that there are SO MANY ways to be successful at a play party that never have to mean getting naked or getting freaky! (But can if that’s what you want.)

If you want to feel more confident in how you flirt and more relaxed in navigating play party spaces… If you want to become more competent and savvy in how you negotiate pick-up play 1-on-1 or in group scenes at sexy events… Come join professional sex and relationship geek and play party facilitator, Reid Mihalko for an informative and humorous evening of learning how to go from flirting to fucking and everything in between!

In this workshop with time get your questions answered and practice your flirtation skills after, we will cover:

✅ How to flirt and get things going without being creepy!

✅ The three biggest mistakes even smart people make when trying to make a connection and take it further…

✅ Ways to make consent conversations sexy – CREATE THE MOOD rather than ruin it!

✅ How to tell when you shouldn’t play with someone(s)

✅ Icebreaking games you can use at parties (even when you’re the shyest person in the room!)

✅ Ways to create safer space for others and build a reputation for being someone folks WANT to play with…

Whether you’ve been to a 1000 play parties like Reid, or are considering going to your first… This evening is designed to help you feel more comfortable and confident at your next play party!

MORE ABOUT THE PLAY PARTY...

This is a conscious play party in the style that Reid has been hosting for over 24 years! This means:

1. No hard alcohol or hard drugs allowed (If you need a few drinks or a substance to attend a play party, then this isn't the play party for you) - Wine, champagne, and beer are welcome. We are 420-friendly.
2. Emphasis on care and consent (If you can't handle getting a no graciously and respecting people's boundaries, then this isn't the play party for you)
3. We kick-off the play party with a Welcome Circle filled with ice-breakers and consent exercises where we go over the rules and agreements for the party, and help the newbies feel at home at their first play parties (If you often feel impatient that we're not getting to the fucking fast enough... Guess what? THIS isn't the play party for you)

Conscious Play Party: An Evening of Exploration, Embodiment & Erotic Awakening

Step into a space where curiosity meets courage meets consent, where pleasure is honored, and where every desire —whether spoken or still unfolding— is met with care and respect.

This isn’t just a play party. It’s a temple of possibility—a place where shame has an opportunity to melt away, where consent is practiced like an art, and where you are invited to explore what feels authentic, exciting, and true for you. Whether you're here to watch, learn, play, or simply exist in a space where sensuality is celebrated, this party is yours to shape.

THE WELCOME CIRCLE: Arriving On the Same Page Together

We begin with a Welcome Circle—a grounding moment to drop in; go over the rules, expectations and agreements; and set the tone for our journey together. Through guided ice breakers and group exercises, we’ll co-create a lighthearted space of trust, curiosity, non-perfectionism, and deep consent. This is your chance to begin checking in with yourself: What do I desire? What do I want to practice asking for/exploring? What boundaries do I want to practice/enforce? Where do I want to stretch or soften? How can I honor myself MORE?

Whether you're here to slut your heart out, flirt with possibility, or be the voyeur and bask in the glow of open-hearted connection, the Welcome Circle is how we begin co-creating feeling seen, safer, and celebrated.

During our time together, you’ll be invited to:

💫 Release shame and step into a space of exploration...

🗣️ Practice courageous communication—naming what you want, setting boundaries, making requests with confidence, and thanking people for taking care of themselves when they tell you No.

🌿 Tune into your body’s yes, no, and maybe—and learn to honor them fully (and if you’re new to this, giving yourself the space and grace to grow and improve!)

👀 Witness and learn from others—whether through voyeurism, conversation, flirtation, sensual play, or deeper embodied experiences, soak in what’s available for you when you surround yourself with brave, amazing, like-minded adults who also want to play and explore what’s possible!

FREE PLAY TIME: The "Choose Your Own Adventure" Part of the Party

After the Welcome Circle, the party unfolds in whatever ways feel right for you. There’s no script—only invitations. There are no “have to’s,” only “get to’s.”

🔥 Want to observe and take it all in? Find a cozy nook and soak in the beauty of people engaging with authenticity, desire, and care. Learning by watching is just as powerful as learning through action.

👐 Feeling drawn to connection? Engage in going as slow feels right for you... Practice having safer-sex conversations, try eye-gazing or playing with energy, explore gentle touch with a partner or new friend...

💋 Curious about more sensual or erotic play? Find your words and follow your desires—always with explicit consent and mutual enthusiasm.

💞 Need a pause? Sink into a cuddle, journal, hit the snack table, or take a breather in a quiet area designed for reflection and integration.

🚗 Feeling full and want to leave early? One of Reid’s play party rules is: “No one has to play at a play party ever, which includes leaving whenever you’d like to.”

Every moment is an opportunity to explore—without expectation, pressure, or obligation. You are always at choice.

THE CLOSING CIRCLE: Reflection, Grounding & Integration

As the play party winds down, we gather in a Closing Circle—a space to witness, celebrate, and integrate.

🌀 What did you discover about yourself tonight?

💖 What moments felt expansive, electric, or affirming?

🙌 What do you want to be celebrated for?

😬 Where did you meet an edge or something challenging?

🌱 What seeds do you want to plant for your next adventure or play party?

The Closing Circle is your time to be seen, to share your experiences, and to honor both the ease and the challenges of the night. Whether you played boldly, had all the feels, or simply sat in the beauty of the space, every journey is valid, and we would love for you to give them voice before we send you on your way.

A Few Things to Know:

✨ Consent is the foundation of everything. Consent is an ongoing collaboration between two or more people in constant verbal, physical, and emotional dialogue about what each other needs to willingly, safely, and pleasurably engage in an interaction with one another. At our play parties, we practice and strive to co-create interactions where our yeses overlap, and where boundaries and changing one’s mind are honored without hesitation. Nerd out more on consent HERE - https://BonoboNetwork.com/consent

✨ This is a space to practice and hone inclusivity & non-judgment. All genders, bodies, relationship expressions, ages over 21, and sexual orientations are welcome. We welcome LGBTQIA+ and BiPOC folks. Trans women are women/Trans men are men. And all expressions of authentic desire (within the container of consent and care) are welcome. Note: Reid’s play space isn’t set up for heavy kink play.

✨ No hard alcohol or hard drugs. If you need to have a few drinks or a substance to attend a play party, then this might not be the play party for you. We are wine/champagne/beer and 420 friendly. Celebrate and regulate their nervous systems, but these events are about checking in rather than checking out... And we invite you to lean into your discomfort rather than avoiding or burying it.

✨ You don’t need to “do” anything. Watching, resting, and simply being present are all meaningful ways to engage. Playing Scrabble by the snack table is just as hot to us nerds as a foursome. We get it.

✨ The What To Wear:

• You do you for the play party! Sexy lingerie… Onesies… Your birthday suit… Only YOU know what attire will take your shenanigans to the next level!

• The hot tub is always clothing optional.

✨ The How Many: We will cut off the play party at 25-30 people’ish.

✨ The Why: If you know me, you know how much I enjoy and am nourished by intentional, group social-sexual shenanigans with kick-ass folks who prioritize consent and care. Plus: The world is a better place when my slutty friends meet my other slutty humans. Please consider adding yourself to the mix? I hope so!

✨ The Who: Sex-positive and group sex savvy folks in my inner and not-so-inner circles.

✨ The COVID 411: While these gatherings are not vaccine-mandatory in that we won’t be asking for proof of vaccination. We do ask that you take a rapid test the day of the event to add peace of mind to those attending. We will be checking tests at the door,* so have a pic handy on your phone or you can purchase a rapid test for $10 if you forget, and we’ll make you wait outside while your test results do their thang.

*If you have resistance about taking a rapid test before getting let into the event... or feel wobbly about staying home if you’re feeling any symptoms or under the weather... I ask that you opt out of coming to my gatherings so that my immunocompromised friends can feel more at ease attending.

Again, if you feel like you’re coming down with something, please make the difficult choice to abstain from attending. You will be missed, but everyone will appreciate you doing the right thing.

The STI Dealio: I get my STI testing done every 3 to 4 months. Feel free to use this party as an excuse to schedule your next testing —even if it’s schedule to happen after the party— I think you’re wonderful to be getting tested regularly! It makes me want to play with you even more.

I also expect that you —like I do of my close friends— are comfortable disclosing STI statuses and being honest about such things when engaging in shenanigans. And that we can count on YOU to be getting tested regularly and willing and able in the future to let those you engage with know when you test positive for something. Together, we can destigmatize and normalize all the shame around STIs. Thanks in advance for being kick-ass about this!

The What To Brings: BYOB and foods for the potluck and to snack on throughout the evening. Bring whatever safer sex supplies you’ll need to enjoy yourself to the max! We will have some safer sex supplies available, but better to BYOSaferSexSupplies! :)

ADDITIONAL DETAILS FOR BOTH EVENTS...

*Please arrive on time. At some point, to maintain the event's integrity, we will lock the doors. If you're running late, text the number in your confirmation email.

*Tickets are not refundable. They may be transferred to another individual but not to a future event.

*We offer two volunteer tickets per event, and while I appreciate anyone who LOVES being of service, I ask that you save this opportunity for those who require financial assistance to be able to attend. Email Reid at Support@ReidAboutSex.com about volunteering.

*Bring snacks if you'd like to share. There will be coffee and tea available and filtered water from the tap. NO ALCOHOL or HARD DRUGS.

*Covid testing requirement: Please take an at-home rapid antigen test before arriving and have a photo of your results to show at check-in. Rapid tests will be available for purchase for $10 in case you forget. It's optional, but please feel free to wear a mask during the events if you'd like. The workshop space will have an air purifier, as will the kitchen/bathroom area.

*We welcome folks of all genders, sexual orientations, relationship structures, ages (over 21), body types, abilities, races, and ethnicities.

*The private residence is not wheelchair accessible. There are 2 steps to get inside, and 10 steps to get downstairs to the workshop space, the kitchen/snack area, and bathroom. Please email Reid at Support@ReidAboutSex.com with questions.

*Seating in the workshop/play space is mostly on the floor and against the walls, with some chairs and benches. Bring a BackJack if you have one you like!

*Parking: Street parking is plentiful in Reid's neighborhood. Please don't block anyone's driveways and keep your attire and conversations Facebook friendly coming to and from the house so as not to scare the neighbors! :)

IF YOU READ THIS FAR...

If you read this far in the invite, BRAVO! Well done! I can't wait to meet you. 🙌

Here’s some copy from previous play party invites that a past lover crafted years ago and have been lovingly tweaked and edited over the 24 years that I've been hosting play parties. I think these words are a great reminder….

This will be a very chill, fun, playful event where sex and nudity will most likely occur. This will also be a co-ed/pansexual environment with a large range of ages...

What is Play with a capital "P"?

Play with a capital "P" is whatever it means to you. You are invited to co-create whatever feeds your soul. Participation (also with a capital "P") can mean many things and voyeurs are as warmly welcomed as the most actively engaged. It's a sensual space where participants are encouraged to explore themselves and others in ways that are stimulating, nurturing, exciting, safe and FUN!

If you're considering coming to this event (and have read THIS far!), we belive it's because you get it! You are sensually, erotically, and emotionally savvy enough to Play nicely with others. You're a good sharer, you take good care of your toys and lovers, and you use your words. :-) You are somebody who knows your own wants and boundaries and can communicate them clearly... and we think that quality is fucking yummy as hell!

We open the doors for people to begin arriving and socializing at the above-stated time and we close the doors and lock people out after things begin. Latecomers are not allowed. The Welcome Circle is what we use to introduce ourselves to one another, have a safer sex conversation, share any boundaries people should know about, go over house rules, and get all comfy and ready to Play.

If you feel like any of this is "too much" or "overkill," maybe this isn't the right play party for you. I can say this with some authority (a.k.a. confirmation bias) because I've been hosting play parties for over 24 years. Maybe that is a drawback 'cause I feel "certain" about some things, but I'd rather be over protected about the safety and consent of those who come to my events than impatient. Please opt in or opt out accordingly. I respect whichever choice feels truest to you. Truly.

MEET YOUR HOST...

About Reid: As seen on NETFLIX' "Chelsea Does..." alongside Chelsea Handler and HBO's "Sex Diaries", Reid Mihalko (he/him) of ReidAboutSex.com has thrown or attended over 1000 play parties. Reid is an internationally known sex and relationship geek helping adults create more self-esteem, self-confidence, and greater health and accountability in their relationships and sex lives. He does this using an inspiring mixture of humor, personal stories, keen insight, and comprehensive sexual health information gained from 20+ years of being a professional educator.

In early 2018, some very brave people came forward during #MeToo sharing harms that Reid had caused them. Reid stepped down from teaching and initiated a restorative justice-based accountability process to address his misconduct and make amends if and where possible. The formal, year-long process along with Reid’s apology and resources were shared publicly and links and resources can be found at ReidAboutSex.com/reidaccountability. Going forward, Reid’s projects and appearances will include pointing people towards resources and experts on restorative and transformative justice-based accountability processes.

Reid’s workshops and college lectures have been attended by over 60,000 people from all over the globe. He has appeared in media such as Oprah's Our America With Lisa Ling on OWN, NETFLIX, Montel, Dr. Phil's The Doctors on CBS, Bravo's Miss Advised, Fox News, in Newsweek, Seventeen, GQ, The Washington Post, and in thirteen countries and at least seven languages.

Reid is also founder of Sex Geek Summer Camp, Sex Geek Conservatory, and Sex Geek School for Gifted Sex Geeks, which help sex educators learn valuable business skills that allow them to reach more people with greater ease, transform more lives, and make a better living as sexperts.

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