ENM 101: Open Up Without Breaking Up

Curious to explore ethical non-monogamy? Learn how to NOT get divorced after opening up your marriage!

We weren't given the tools and skills we need to build the relationships we want and deserve. This workshop will get you started, without wasting countless hours in therapy.

This is a 90-minute live interactive online workshop for couples and individuals curious to explore consensual non-monogamy. Learn why ENM/CNM and ‘casual dating’ aren't synonyms and how you can have a committed relationship whether you're monogamous or non-monogamous!

Think you're ready to open up without blowing up? Walk away knowing exactly what kind of non-monogamous relationship dynamic is right for YOU!

💗 Not only will you learn definitions of the important lingo and get a breakdown of all the different relationship dynamics, but you'll learn how to determine your own IRS (Ideal Relationship Structure) using your Hierarchy of Exclusivity for your physical/sexual and emotional/romantic needs.

This workshop is separated into three info-packed sections, because most things are better in at least threes. Some of the highlights covered:

1. Definitions and types of non-monogamous relationship structures
2. How to determine your IRS: Ideal Relationship Structure
3. Hierarchy of Exclusivity
4. Benefits and challenges of ENM
5. Common misconceptions and realities
6. Open vs. closed monogamy and non-monogamy
7. Clear communication vs. Effective communication
8. Compound Meanings + Defining Terms
9. How to work with the 4 types of Romantic and Sexual Jealousy
10. Boundaries and expectations and leaving room for mistakes
11. The 3-Part Apology
12. Some of the biggest mistakes and how to avoid them
13. Create a Relationship Agreement
14. Conflict vs. Curiosity (and Arousal!)
15. Who sets the pace?
16. The right (and wrong) Support Network
17. Uncomfortable vs. Unsafe
18. Sexism
19. Mismatched Libidos and Relationship Orientations

Exploring ENM isn’t necessarily going to be a fuck yes from both of you, but it can’t be a fuck no from either of you. Being uncomfortable is okay, it’s not the same as unsafe. Learning more about consensual non-monogamy will only improve your relationship, even if you decide not to open up! Being uncomfortable is okay, it’s not the same as unsafe.

MEET YOUR INSTRUCTOR:

Ally Iseman is a writer, television host, ICF Certified Relationship Coach candidate, and the Founder of the inclusive relationship education platform Passport2Pleasure.com. She has been a speaker, community organizer, event producer, and non-monogamy educator and practitioner since 2016. A sought after podcast guest, Ally is also a featured subject matter expert for publications like The New York Times, Cosmopolitan, Well+Good, Romper, PureWow, and Yahoo! among others, and is a contributing writer for the leading industry publication Sexual Health Magazine as well as brands like Arya and Afterglow. Ally is a certified consent and communication specialist, NCSF-registered Kink Aware Professional (KAP), and an ICF Certified Relationship Coach candidate. She uses inclusive relationship design to teach busy couples around the world the tools and skills they need to build the relationships they want and deserve. Whether you want to open up your relationship to include other people, or you just want to open up more authentically to each other, Ally will help you open up without blowing up!