Family Matters - A Spanking + Role-play Party

Whether you’re a Mommy, Daddy, Aunt, Uncle, sibling, or little one, this is your space to explore family-style DD dynamics in a safe, consensual, and playful way.

All genders, orientations, and roles are welcome and encouraged to attend!

What to Expect

1. A relaxed, social atmosphere to connect, chat, and ease into play.
2. Negotiated opportunities for various play
3. Maintenance spankings — moderate, routine discipline that’s short, focused, and corrective.
4. Punishment spankings — firm, to-the-point corrections with a quick warm-up to a spanking to reset the mischief clock.
5. Come for the connection. Stay for the structure. Leave balanced and ready for the weekend.

Event Flow

8:00 PM Doors Open - Arrive, socialize, and settle into the space

8:45 PM Opening Circle - Introductions, consent reminders, scene etiquette, and rules for safe play

9-11 PM Spanking & Role-Play Playtime

Open play focused on spanking, authority dynamics, and family-style roleplay

All play is negotiated, consensual, and fantasy-based unless you are in a real Domestic Discipline dynamic.

Provided: Alcohol wipes & paper towels for general cleaning and sanitation.

THE VIBE

Family Matters is intentionally light, playful, and supportive:

1. Warm, dim lighting
2. Open-plan brick space
3. Couches and seating for socializing and aftercare
4. Minimal + melodic techno at a comfortable volume

The energy is fun, flirty, and respectful — never chaotic or intimidating.

DRESS CODE

Dress to reflect the role you’re choosing to explore.

Tops / Authority roles may include:

1. casual or dressy “grown-up” attire
2. leather
3. jeans
4. work, church, or caretaker-style looks

Bottoms / submissive roles may include:

1. school-inspired outfits
2. sporty looks or jerseys
3. pajamas or onesies

Choose clothing that supports your fantasy and helps you feel confident in your role.

Etiquette & Rules

1. Consent first: always ask before touching or playing.
2. Respect roles & limits: no shaming, no judgment.
3. No kink shaming — every dynamic, style, and preference is valid.
4. Roles and role-play are fantasy, not real hierarchy. Character over credentials.
5. Safe words required: 🟡 Yellow = check in, 🔴 Red = stop immediately
6. Shared responsibility: Tops & bottoms are equally responsible for safety.
7. Discipline with care: know your energy, intention, & honor aftercare every time.
8. Hygiene matters: arrive clean, fresh, and ready.
9. Atmosphere = light, supportive, and fun — this is a family affair!

BYO

● Booze (moderation please)

● A snack or drink to share is always welcome

● Implements, lube, wipes, personal gear

Facilitator

Family Matters is guided by Dan, a seasoned member of The Kink Collectiveknown for holding warm, relaxed, and well-contained play spaces.

Dan leads with clarity, consent, and care — ensuring that newcomers and experienced players alike feel supported, respected, and free to explore at their own pace.

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About BARE Connections

BARE Connections is built to bring people together through fun, connection, and consent. We create inclusive spaces for consensual spanking—from men’s-only and role-play events to gender-led and mixed dynamics—welcoming all experience levels and all ages 18+ to explore in a safe, respectful, and trusting environment.

The BARE in Bare Connections stands for:

B - Bonds: earned trust and authentic connection

A - Attention: intentional focus, and care

R - Rites: Knowledge, experience, skills, implements, and safety

E - Energy: The shared exchange and emotions that shape how your partner genuinely experiences the scene

Event Details

1. Where: The Sanctuary of East Harlem, 113 E 125th St. 10035 - Unfortunately, The Sanctuary of East Harlem is not wheelchair accessible. Guests must be able to walk up a flight of stairs (20 steps total).
2. When: Friday, January 23rd
3. Time: 8PM - 1AM

Tickets:

$30 regular

$20 members

Same price at the door: Cash, Venmo, CashApp, Zelle, or PayPal

Online Pre-Pay and registration here

We greatly look forward to meeting and interacting with you!