[SOLD OUT] Find Your Anchor: Poly Speed Dating for Anchor Partners (~28-45)

Seeking a nonmonogamous anchor partnership? Want to meet people in the poly community? Recommended ages 28-45.

Seeking a nonmonogamous anchor partnership? Want to meet people in the poly community? This is a unique opportunity to connect with like-minded individuals looking to build life-shaping relationships.

Recommended Ages: 28-45

• See FAQ about age range recommendation
• Are you a bit older? Come to our Wednesday, December 11 event (recommended ages: 40-65)

Event Details

Come as you are for a facilitated evening designed to help you meet others who, like you, are polyamorous (or are exploring nonmonogamy) and on the lookout for an anchor partner. Whether that means a nesting partner, primary partner, or main squeeze, this event is here to foster genuine connections.

🗓 Event Date: Thursday, December 5

⏰ Time: 7:00 – 10:00 PM

📍 Location: A beautiful, indoor venue in Oakland. Exact address shared with ticket-holders a few days beforehand.

Schedule

6:45pm – Doors open

7:00 PM – Check-in, grab a snack, design your name tag

7:20 PM – Opening circle & event intro

7:30-9:30 PM – Facilitated small group conversations with rotation

9:30-10:00 PM – Open mingling and goodbyes

What to Expect

An Inclusive, Warm Setting: Kick off the evening with light bites and drinks while you mingle and settle in. Our events are LGBTQ+, trans and non-binary, and BIPOC friendly, welcoming all expressions, orientations, and nonmonogamous relationship styles.

Facilitated Group Rotations: You’ll move through small groups, engaging in fun and thought-provoking conversations with new people each round. We’ll provide conversation prompts to help you share more about yourself and learn about others.

Matchmaking Cards for Easy Connections: At each round, use our matchmaking cards to note anyone you’d like to speak to further. After the event, we’ll connect you with any mutual matches—no stress, just simple connection.

Ticketing

$28 Early Bird (through Monday 11/25)

$35 Regular (online sales end 24 hours before the event)

$50 At the door

This is more than just speed dating—it’s a chance to explore meaningful connections in a low-pressure, welcoming environment. Bring your whole self, enjoy the moment, and maybe even find your anchor partner.

Frequently Asked Questions

Do I need to be in the 28-45 age range?

• This is our recommended age range. You’re welcome to come if you’re a few years outside this range, or if you feel sure that people in this age range would be a good match for you.
• You might also want to check out our Wednesday, December 11 event (recommended ages: 40-65)
• Yes, you can attend both events if both age ranges are a good fit for you!

Do I need to identify as nonmonogamous?

• You should be interested in, or open to, some form of nonmonogamy: poly, open, or monogamish.
• You’re welcome even if you’re new to polyamory, or want to explore it!

What does it mean to be seeking an anchor partner? Do I need to be single to attend?

• You don’t need to be single! As long as you’re seeking a nonmonogamous anchor partner, this is the event for you.
• Whether you call it an anchor, a primary, or something else, come to find your main squeeze. That might be someone you build a life with, share major decisions with, and have a deep emotional connection to. Be ready to talk about what sort of connection you’re looking for!