HYBRID: Getting to Your Submissive Core with Auntie Vice

  • Hosted by Wicked Grounds
  • San Francisco, CA -
  • 17 people on the list-

*This class will be offered both in person at Trellis in San Francisco, and simultaneously as a live, online class offered through Zoom. Please select SF or online tickets when purchasing.*

Desires and needs in relationships are extremely complex. The drive to try/live as a submissive is influenced by everything from gender role beliefs to religion to trauma. Understanding what drives your submission is key to creating the relationships and intimacy you desire.

The class covers the basics of how desires form, what shapes our beliefs about ourselves in relationships, and how D/s style relationships can feed positive and negative feelings. Participants will leave with a host of tools to help them delve deeply into their identity and desires. The class covers some of the biological and emotional basis for desires. We also cover cultural, religious, and familial influences of your needs and desires.

This class uses developmental and somatic psychology as the basis for tools and understanding. Some of the tools and exercises can prompt uncomfortable or upsetting feelings for people. Some participants share these feelings. The class is designed to be a welcoming space for people to explore their understanding of desire. You do not have to share anything you don't want to. Please be aware others may be sharing experiences that might upset you. All participants are asked to give content warnings before possibly upsetting shares.


Auntie Vice is a life-long kinkster. They write and teach from the submissive perspective. They have a Ph.D. in Political Psychology and a BA in Psychology. Much of their work involves understanding the psychological underpinnings on power dynamics, BDSM, gender, and disability. They run the award-winning sex blog and the podcast Fat Chicks on Top. Their book, The Big Workbook for Submissives, was a 2018 finalist for the Golden Flogger Award.


Tickets: $15 - $35 in advance.

Please pay at the level you can comfortably afford.

We offer a sliding scale, so that cost is not a barrier to attendance. The regular ticket is $25. This is what most people should pay. The $15 ticket is offered for those for whom the $25 ticket would be a barrier to participation. If $25 is too much, we take your word for it! Just pay $15. Have a great salary? Feeling generous? Paying at the $35 level allows us to make the discounted ticketing available to others who need it.

So - that's it! Choose the level you can comfortably afford.

Patreon members at the VIP+ level may get discounted tickets for $10. Just see your Patreon membership emails for this month's discount code. Find out more at!

If cost is a barrier at any level, please use the "Volunteer List" to request a free scholarship ticket. We will award as many scholarship tickets as we an on a space-available basis.


This class will be taught out of Trellis, and will simultaneously be offered as a live, online class through Zoom. You may choose to attend in person at Trellis in San Francisco, or online from anywhere in the world!

In SF, this class will be held at Trellis. Doors will only be open from 6:40pm - 6:55pm and late arrivals cannot be accommodated. Plan accordingly! Late check-ins will require you to join online.

Please do not attend in person if you have any respiratory symptoms whatsoever. Anyone displaying signs of respiratory symptoms may be asked to leave, regardless of vaccination status.

Or, attend online anywhere via Zoom! To participate, you will need to download the free, basic version of the Zoom app before the class. Zoom now provides closed captioning which will be available for this event.

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