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Help! I'm at a Party! (Your Play Party Survival Guide)

Master cues, emotions, flirtation, rejection resilience, and crash-out recovery — here's your essential pl@y party survival toolkit.

Okay... it sounds simple. You paid to be at an event... now... just have fun! BUT HOW?! And what do you do with all of those EMOTIONS!

While this might sound silly, these are very normal feelings to have at a play party - and not just for the "beginners". Navigating a party can be overwhelming! Perhaps one moment you're feeling yourself and your stellar outfit - and then your social anxiety crashes the party uninvited. Maybe you don't know what to expect so you buy a ticket and struggle to muster the courage to leave the house!

Hello folks, my name is Nix and I've hosted my fair share of events - by now I have seen quite a bit. All of these situations are actually quite common... I myself have been a frequent flyer to the Low Stim Room to handle my own emotions at a party. The purpose of this workshop is to normalize and come to love and understand the types of feelings that can keep you stuck in your own way.

At Pagans Paradise, the saying goes "More Safe, More Slut!"... This workshop equips you with the tools you need to navigate the many types of situations that might occur at your next social event. And as your comfort, confidence, and self-trust grows... so does the potential of your pleasure. We promise.

Stay for the AfterHours (a "mini-party") to connect with others in many exciting and expansive ways.

💡 What We’ll Explore

👁️ Reading the Room & Mastering Body Language

Decode energy, approachability, invitations, and become proficient in sending & receiving body language cues.

💬 Expressing Desires & Handling Rejection

Make grounded invitations, avoid awkwardness, and have grace when things don’t go your way.

🧠 Befriending Your Nervous System

Learn to work with your body, not against it. Recognize your internal weather patterns and understand what your system is trying to tell you.

Triggers — Do’s and Don’ts

Recognize when you’re activated and learn how to respond in ways that protect your relationships, your dignity, and the vibe of the room.

🔥 Lean into the Discomfort

Those pesky feelings? They’re the troll at the tollbridge — and there's always treasure on the other side. Learn how discomfort can lead to breakthroughs.

🤝 Teamwork makes the Dream Work

Attend parties with partners and/or friends without smothering, over-relying on, or draining each other. Share the experience in a fruitful way that honors your relationship while making room for exploration.

🧭 Navigating the Night

Set intentions, follow your desires, stay open to surprise, and let the night unfold without rigid expectations.

🤝 Connecting With Others & Having Fun

Non-awkward ways to meet people, join groups, flirt playfully, and build real connections while staying grounded.

🪢 Scene Etiquette & Voyeur Culture

How to watch or participate respectfully and honor the culture of play parties without stepping on toes or boundaries.

🧰 Play Party Survival Kit

Craft your personal emotional regulation toolkit and plan: a soothing, structured container for your emotions, so it's there when you need to crash-out with your ass out.

We are having a 2-part evening of indulgence and learning. Come for the workshop and stay for the Jam to practice what you learned and meet other like-minded folks!

Workshop Format

  1. Feel Free to Take Notes! If it helps you learn, we encourage you to bring a notepad to jot notes and reflections
  2. Interactions: The Workshop may include personal reflections, interactive demonstrations, and practical exercises. This may include solo/partner/group activities. Participate and opt-in to the extent of your comfort - you can also just sit back at any time and observe others!
  3. Come Alone or With Someone! Come solo or bring a partner, a friend, a group of coworkers, your frenemies, or your entire polycule! During the exercises, you'll have the opportunity to interact with other students & switch partners, which allows for practicing with familiar partners and new acquaintances. We do not pair people up and encourage guests to make friends and engage to their level of comfort. Couples can stay paired the whole time or choose to practice with others.
  4. Dress Code: Feel free to dress however you want, whether vanilla or ready to practice. There is a place to change outfits.
  5. Who Can Come: This workshop is open to all gender identifications, orientations, lifestyles, singles and couples. All experience levels welcome. 18+

After-Hours:

After the workshop, the lights go down, the music goes up, and the setting transforms into a playful social environment - an Afterhours. Engage at your own comfort level—whether that means playing, dancing, observing, casually chatting by the snacks, or actively interacting with others from the Workshop.

Please Acknowledge:
It should go without saying, but we are going to spell it out clearly nonetheless: k¡nk and intimacy activities are inherently risky. Safety requires practice and cannot be guaranteed. By attending, you agree to participate at your own risk, conduct your own risk management, and agree to hold the event facilitators and facility harmless for any type of physical or emotional harm that may occur.

Event Details:

  1. Doors Open: 7:30 PM (doors close at 7:40 PM)
  2. After Hours 9:45/10pm start
  3. Event Ends: 11:45 PM
  4. Location: Provided in your confirmation email (details in confirmation email additional info, check spam/promo folder)
  5. Accessibility: Walk-up venue

Questions or concerns?

📧 Email: nix@sirenatrix.pro

🌐 Website: PagansParadise.com

📸 IG: @pagansparadise | @the.sirenatrix

Pricing:

Workshop ONLY: Early Bird $30, Classic $40

Workshop and AfterHours: Early $55, Classic $75

LATE ENTRY & REFUNDS

To protect the space and ensure a seamless experience for all, doors will close promptly. Late arrivals may not be admitted, and refunds will not be available. Refund requests must be made up to seven days prior to the event.

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