Keeping the Play Safe - Dungeon Monitor (DM) Class & Training w/ Master Lola Smiles

Behind every liberating play party or event is a team of vigilant, compassionate, and informed Dungeon Monitors (DMs) ensuring that exploration stays consensual, secure, and joyful. In this essential workshop, we dive into the vital role of DMs—guardians of both pleasure and protection. Whether you're an experienced monitor or stepping into the role for the first time, you’ll learn how to:

🔒 Safeguard guest safety and privacy

🚨 Handle consent violations with care and clarity

🛠️ Manage equipment, from setup to sanitation

🩹 Respond to medical or emotional emergencies

📜 Enforce rules while preserving the party vibe

Because when everyone feels safe, everyone can play more freely.

Ideal for event organizers, DMs, and anyone passionate about holding safer, more inclusive spaces.

Accessibility: Closed Captions will be available. If you have other accessibility needs, please email Marla@sexdownsouth.com

Master Lola Smiles is a Latina Leatherwoman of Ecuadorian descent, a covered Master from Long Island, NY. She is a polyamorous sadist who has been in the lifestyle for 3 decades - a BDSM educator & presenter, teaching throughout the U.S. and Internationally, and an event promoter for the last 12 years.

• Founder of SCK Events (est. 2013)

• Head of the House of SCK (est. 2018) - the House of SCK is a diverse Leather house founded on the core values of Loyalty, Support & Family.

• Founder & Host of F#@k You Coronavirus Virtual Events (est. 2020).

• An original member of the Leather Solidarity (est. 2020).

• Marketing and Education Teams of the Leather Solidarity Collective (LSC) 2021-2023.

• Co-Chair and Operations Lead for the Leather Solidarity Collective (LSC) 2023-Present.

• Co-Chair of Programming for TES FEST 2022.

• Judge for the title contests for South Plains LeatherFest 2023; South East LeatherFest 2023 and IMsLBB 2025.

• Recipient of the Lady Lynette Leadership Award 2024.

• Operations & Publicity Lead for Twisting Culture & Northeast Person of Leather 2025.

For those who want AASECT CE Credits:

Learning Objectives

1. By the end of this workshop, participants will be able to identify and explain at least three core responsibilities of a Dungeon Monitor (DM), including managing consent violations, ensuring equipment safety, and responding to basic medical situations, in order to support a safe and inclusive play environment.

Core Knowledge Areas

A, F, O

SE Skills Training:

D, E

Velvet Lips Sex Ed will provide AASECT Continuing Education Credits for this virtual workshop.

You will be required to give the password and fill out the evaluation to receive your CE certificate after the virtual event. This program meets the requirements of the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) and is approved for 1 CE credit.

These CE credits may be applied toward AASECT certification and renewal of certification.

Completion of this program does not ensure or guarantee AASECT certification. For further information please contact info@aasect.org.

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Grievance Procedures are HERE.

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