Thursday, November 6th

7 pm - 11 pm

The Kink Store

224 6th St, San Francisco, CA 94103

Join us at The Kink Store for the next Knotty Rope Jam!

dungeon • hardpoints & bamboos • rope workshops and demos • play space • dungeon furniture & toys • tea lounge • onsite shower • whorey hole • light refreshments • singles & all levels welcome

Come learn new ties, practice, or connect with friends and community. Please Note: Doors close at 10:00 pm.

Schedule:

Doors Open – 7:00 PM

Consent Talk - ~7:45 pm

Workshops: Donny Chest Harness (Beginner, Intermediate), One Rope: Explore Flow, Sensuality & Power w/ A’lan & Adrienne (All levels)

Want a free ticket? Volunteer!! Msg me on fb @Krissy Mahan or email bayareaknottyscouts@gmail.com

We’re always looking for new instructors and workshops! The space is also available for private rentals (hourly, photoshoots, private events). If you’ve got an idea for a kink, BDSM, or sex-positive event or workshop, let’s chat! Check out venue photos or future events here: https://kinkstore.com/pages/events

Email: events@kinkstore.com

Rope Instruction available all night long by Knotty Scout Leader Donny

Welcome to The Knotty Scouts, a vibrant community of shibari enthusiasts hailing from the Bay Area! Join us and immerse yourself in the ancient art of rope bondage. This event is designed to provide a supporting welcoming environment for all levels of experience, from complete beginners to seasoned practitioners. Our skilled instructors will lead workshops focused on teaching the techniques of rope bondage, ensuring that all participants can learn and practice in a safe and consensual manner. In addition to the educational aspect, our rope jam emphasizes the importance of building connections within the kink community. Participants can engage in open discussions, connect with like-minded individuals, and explore the intimate and expressive nature of bondage.

This event is play-friendly and clothing optional so express yourself freely! To ensure the comfort and safety of all participants, a comprehensive consent speech will be delivered at the beginning of the evening. Workshops will be head early at 8 pm and doors for the event will close at 10 pm.

Welcome! This event will include a mandatory consent talk, where we will cover the FIRES principles and other vital consent topics. FIRES stands for Freely given, Informed, Reversible/Revocable, Engaged, and Specific. Just like fire, consent can be powerful, beautiful, and essential—but we must learn how to handle it carefully to minimize harm to ourselves and others. By practicing these consent skills, you will become better at understanding and respecting boundaries. We will also discuss how to address and resolve issues—“putting out fires”—when they arise. Miscommunication and mistakes happen, and we can all learn from them if we approach these moments with honesty and openness. The tools you learn here are not just for this event; they are useful everywhere.

Engagement & Approaches

1. You are encouraged to approach or engage with anyone in this space.
2. If someone approaches you and you are not interested, simply say:
3. “No thank you—thanks for asking!”
4. No additional explanation is needed, required, or expected.
5. If you accept a conversation or a hug, it does not mean you are obligated to do anything else. Only do what you want to do, and feel empowered to say no to anything else.
6. If you feel like someone is not taking a ‘hint,’ be aware that you may not be communicating effectively. We’re not here to solve riddles—just be direct about your boundaries or desires. Nobody is a mind reader, and everyone has different levels of social awareness, so end the guessing game by stating what you need or want clearly. This simple practice will help you not only in these spaces but in every aspect of your life.
7. Practice saying and hearing “no,” so it becomes natural for everyone.
8. If you see something that seems problematic, please speak up. We all have blind spots, and constructive feedback helps us learn and grow.
9. If someone isn’t following the guidelines, inform them politely about how we interact in these spaces. They will likely be grateful for the guidance, and it helps our community stay safer.

Scenes & Etiquette

1. Please do not interrupt scenes in progress. This includes any rope play, BDSM activities, or people clearly connecting in an intimate or even a deeply conversational way. Wait until they are finished before asking questions or saying hello.

FIRES Consent Principles

1. Freely Given
2. Consent is only valid when given without pressure, manipulation, or repeated asking—this applies to interactions with partners, friends, co-workers, organizers, event staff, and volunteers alike.
3. Do not assume that volunteers or organizers automatically have more expertise or are better at consent. We are all learning and evolving in this space, and for some volunteers, this might be their first event as well.
4. Informed
5. One must fully understand what they are being asked to participate in.
6. If someone has an STI, they must disclose it before any contact that might expose a partner to risk.
7. Stay sober enough to give and perceive consent. If you are under the influence of substances, do not engage in rope or BDSM play, and inform any potential partners that you have been drinking or using substances. This allows them to make an informed decision about whether they want to participate.
8. Do not ask new play partners to play without condoms in this space.
9. Reversible / Revocable
10. Anyone can change their mind about what they feel like doing at any time.
11. Even if you’ve done something before or are in the middle of an activity, you can still say, “No,” “No more,” or “Never mind.”
12. Engaged
13. Educate About Affirmative Consent: “Consent isn’t the absence of a ‘no’; it’s the presence of a clear, enthusiastic ‘yes.’”
14. This means we don’t assume consent from silence or ambiguity. We want clear, active participation from everyone.
15. If there is any doubt about whether someone is fully interested, treat that as a no.
16. Consent must come from a place of genuine enthusiasm. Pay attention to eye contact, body language, and tone.
17. Address Ambiguity Proactively: If someone seems unsure or isn’t communicating clearly, model respect for uncertainty. You can say:
18. “You don’t have to decide right now—let’s pause.”
19. “If you’re unsure, that’s okay. Let’s stop and revisit this later.”
20. If you receive a “no,” thank them for taking care of themselves and do not ask them again. Let them know they can come to you if they change their mind.
21. Specific
22. Yes to one thing is not a yes to everything.
23. Ask for consent before any escalation.
24. At this event, always ask for consent prior to any touch. This means do not touch someone first and then wait for them to stop you or ask “is this okay.” That is not okay in this container. If someone does touch you first without asking for consent - assume positive intent and use that as a teaching opportunity to tell them how we practice consent in this space. They will be glad that you reminded them and gave them that chance to practice and grow. If you do not feel like you are able to use this opportunity as a teaching moment - let an organizer or volunteer know and they will be glad to help out in that situation. We don’t want people to pick up bad habits and think that interactions they had that they thought were positive were in fact not appropriate.

NOTE: This talk is constantly updated and is always subject to change as we learn new things!!

Again: Stay sober enough to give and perceive consent.

COVID safety - Please don't come if you are sick. Masks are welcome but optional. We offer no guarantees about the event being covid-free and are only able to provide rain checks to future events if you cannot attend for any reason.

Tickets are transferable but not refundable.

Low-income tickets are available upon request and we have volunteer spots available in exchange for free or discounted tickets. Limited volunteer spots are available so please contact event organizers early!

bayareaknottyscouts@gmail.com

FB: Krissy Mahan

(865) 407-6736

No pictures using phones without enthusiastic consent from anyone in the photo!

Professional photographer Jeremie Fremaux will be onsite taking artsy photos. Wrist bands are available to opt out of photos. Consent will be obtained prior to posting link to pics in private fb group. Photos will be sent out to ticketholders via email where selected photos can be removed from the album upon request.

For further information, please don't hesitate to reach out! I am more than happy to answer any questions you may have. In addition to our monthly rope jams, our Knotty Scout Leaders are available to conduct workshops beyond our regular events, ensuring you have ample opportunities to expand your knowledge and skills.

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