Love, Charm & Consent Online: an Introductory Exploration of the wheel of Consent

When was the last time you received exactly what you wanted?

Can you remember the last time you asked?

Will you come practice with us?

Join Tunde J.O. and Jax in exploring how we practice embedding choice in our lives, relationships, communities, and work. There are three opportunities with upcoming Intro to the Wheel of Consent® workshops. We’ll thread embodied practice, discussion and play together to provide you with tools to practice speaking up more clearly and consistently in situations spanning from the bedroom to the board room.

The Wheel of Consent® enables deep understanding and practice interacting with genuine agency in a world that often demands compliance over consent. You may have heard that consent means “no, means no” - here we’ll practice feeling exactly what our yesses and noes feel like in our bodies and feel like to express.

What you can expect:

1. A series of practices, play, and some theory to guide you through a felt understanding of the Wheel.
2. Approved practice and foundations from Dr. Betty Martin and the School of Consent’s official curriculum
3. An intimate group cared for and led by Jax and Tunde
4. An intentional, accessible, and inclusive container centeringthe voices and experiences of marginalized folks of varied experiences.
5. A platonic* touch-possible container to practice where choice is key and touch is not ever required for participation.
6. Walk away with tools you can practice, and quite possibly, new community to practice these tools with.

As Black, Queer educators, coaches and facilitators, we utilize the Wheel of Consent as a relational tool to repair the spaces where we haven’t felt we’ve had choice to set boundaries and speak up in the past. We’ve found the tool to have expansive effects in our lives and work and we’re excited to share an introduction to this tool in two communities near to our hearts. This online version of our workshop is an opportunity for personal growth and connection.

Join us virtually from anywhere!

Saturday & Sunday, October 25 & 26

8:30am - 12:00pm PST | 11:30am - 3pm EST

This online version of Love, Charm, & Choice will be similar toour one day, in-person classes. It will be offered in two partsand practices will be adapted to support online learning.

This class could be right for you if you would like to learn fromus this fall, and:

-cannot make it to either in-person class,

-cannot gather in-person for health reasons,

-want to learn in the energetic familiarity of your own space, or

-simply prefer online learning.

Who is this workshop for?

Maybe there’s more to consent and choice, autonomy and agency than you’ve considered - maybe it’s time to slow down and feel more.

This workshop is for anyone who is interested in learning more about themselves and improving the quality of their relationships – personal or professional, with lovers, friends, parents, children or colleagues. No prior experience necessary. For those who have been exposed to the Wheel, and those who haven't, we believe there are always new levels of awareness to be found.

*Note: This is a fully clothed, non-sexual learning space.

Your Facilitators

Jax

Pleasure Facilitator, Cuddle Ambassador, and Kink and Sex Toy Enthusiast, Jax is dedicated to creating safer, more inclusive spaces for connection, intimacy, and pleasure. As a Consent and Intimacy Educator, Consultant, Coach, and Guide—as well as a Platonic and Erotic Bodyworker, Companion, and good old fashioned Sexual Health Educator—Jax brings a deeply embodied, pleasure-positive, trauma-informed approach to all of her work.

An Authentic Consent™ Trainer and Wheel of Consent® Facilitator-in-Training, Jax has hosted events and co-facilitated workshops across the U.S., online, and in Central America, with a focus on somatic sensuality and embodied consent practice.

Founder of DC Cuddle Club, with growing community affiliates in Los Angeles and Atlanta, Jax curates QTBIPOC-centered spaces that prioritize platonic touch and the power of choice. In all of her work, Jax centers and uplifts Black, POC, Queer, and gender-expansive individuals, couples, and communities through the transformative possibilities of pleasure through embodied choice.

Tunde

Coach, Facilitator & Educator

Facilitator, educator, and coach with a focus on identity, consent/boundaries, relationships, and unlearning oppressive socialization.

She takes joy in helping clients recognize their individual relationships to power, and then offering somatic tools for compassionately addressing their histories and socializations to make strong choices and take needed steps toward their own (and therefore our collective) liberation.

Tunde, also an educator and visual/performing artist, holds a BFA from Washington University in St. Louis, is a certified Diversity Facilitrainer with NCCJ St. Louis, a certified Big Leap Coach through the Hendricks Institute, a certified Urban Tantra Practitioner, a STARLING Healer, and a Wheel of Consent facilitator in training. In mer free time, Tunde can be found exploring the world through taste/flavor and taking copious pictures of delicious food, captivating skylines, and pets (mers and yours if you'll let mer).