Want to be able to maintain multiple healthy relationships? Do you feel challenged by jealousy or unsure how to support your partner when they’re feeling jealous? Do you feel confident naming needs and negotiating agreements?
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Join sex and intimacy coach and educator Dr. Alison Ash of TurnON.love for this experiential workshop and you will:
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Empower yourself with the know-how and tools you need to have happy, secure, and fulfilling non-monogamous relationships.
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A suggested but not required precursor to this workshop
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“Dr. Aly’s approach to jealousy allowed me to explore it, along with other underlying emotions, as a call to action. Learning how to negotiate allowed me to connect with my and my partner's intentions for our explorations and how to structure them in a way that feels safe and accessible.” - D.G.
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"I am so glad I got to be in a room full of folks exploring alternative relationship styles. Concepts, communication and mindset associated with a non-monogamy can be applied to many relationships as triggers related to power dynamics, jealousy and boundary setting come up in all sorts of relationship dynamics." - S.R.
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“Dr. Aly was emotionally encouraging and answered all questions with care and grace. I left having discovered a new way of communicating my needs to my partners I hadn't had before. I can't recommend her class highly enough." - M.P.
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Dr. Alison Ash, aka Dr. Aly, is a trauma-informed intimacy coach and educator, Stanford University Lecturer, author, and founder of TurnON.love. As a sociologist with a PhD from Stanford, she has a comprehensive understanding of the complex societal challenges that often lead to unsatisfying and disempowering intimate experiences. She has helped pioneer research into the orgasm gap and has written on topics ranging from pleasure in heterosexual dynamics to queer and trans identities and experiences. She also draws on her extensive training in Hakomi Mindful Somatic Psychotherapy, Innate Somatic Intelligence Trauma Therapy Approach, and Somatica Method of sex and intimacy coaching to support her clients to radically explore and courageously express themselves. Dr. Aly designs workshops, courses, and retreats and offer individuals and couples coaching to give others the tools to be able to cultivate and sustain nourishing emotional and sexual intimacy. They invite you to TurnON pleasure, intimacy and love at www.TurnON.love and on Instagram.
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* Please take an at-home antigen test on the day of the workshop and take a photo of your results. Tests can also be purchased at the door for $10. If you are feeling unwell or develop symptoms, please stay home. Masks will be optional.
* I welcome folks of all genders, sexual orientations, relationship structures, ages, body types, races and ethnicities. The bathroom at this venue is not ADA accessible (may not be large enough for folks in wheelchairs).
* A limited number of volunteer and sliding scale tickets are available. Apply for a sliding scale ticket or send an email to coordinator@turnon.love to volunteer.
* Please note tickets are not refundable. You may transfer them to another pair of individuals but not to a future event.
For more info, visit www.TurnON.love
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October 8th in Oakland
Exploring non-monogamy can feel overwhelming and downright terrifying, but with the proper support and tools it can be exciting and empowering! Examine how your values and needs influence which relationship styles will work best for you. Explore how to open up and find poly people to date. Examine the most common pitfalls and how to avoid them and gain concrete tips that will help your relationship(s) survive and thrive. With these resources, suggestions, and tools you’ll receive the support you need to explore ethical non-monogamy with greater clarity and ease! Also available as an on-demand rental!
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October 10th-13th in Sonoma
In long-term relationships, desire naturally ebbs and flows. Differences in desire, changing needs, and the pressures of daily life can crowd out time for intimacy. Whether your goal is to rekindle passion or simply carve out meaningful time together, this 3-night, 4-day retreat offers a supportive space to slow down and savor each other. You’ll uncover what’s blocking intimacy and gain customized tools to support your unique dynamic. Through guided exercises, playful exploration, and enriching conversations, you’ll strengthen your emotional and physical bonds, renew desire, and expand your erotic potential. Indulge in delicious meals, a heated pool and hot tub, scenic trails, movement and mindfulness classes, a workshop on passionate and dominant touch, and a sensual soirée. You’ll leave with a 35-page Sustainable Intimacy toolkit filled with exercises and personalized practices to help you sustain intimacy long after the retreat ends
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October 19th in Oakland
Discover the 5 central tenets to champ-quality pussy eating and receiving. You’ll learn about nerve pathways and the different kinds of orgasms possible, plus science-based techniques for exploring them. Gain tools to get out of your head, overcoming awkwardness, exploring preferences, giving and eliciting feedback, and maximize pleasure from giving and receiving. Explore a wide range of ways to mix it up, including different hand and oral techniques, positions, and toys. Participants will receive a Guide to My Pussy instruction manual to share with lover(s). Plus, there's a thorough live demo so you can see all the skills put into action. Both individuals and couples are welcome!
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October 29th on Zoom (recording available after)
Many neurodivergent individuals and mixed neurotype couples struggle with executive function differences, including how we plan, prioritize, and manage the never-ending to-do list, are common obstacles. These difficulties can create stress in all kinds of relationships, leading to miscommunication and conflict, challenges with initiation and completion, and friction around different ways of doing things. We reframe these challenges as predictable patterns rather than personal shortcomings, offering practical strategies to work with neurological differences instead of against them. This workshop is designed for autistic and ADHD adults, single or partnered, and their loved ones.
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November 5th on Zoom (recording available after)
Do you ever get stuck in cycles of miscommunication, overwhelm, or shutdown when trying to connect? These challenges are common in neurodivergent relationships, especially with catastrophizing, shame spirals, or rejection sensitivity. Learn how core neurodivergent experiences, including alexithymia, decision fatigue, sensory overload, burnout, and masking impact intimacy and trust. You’ll learn strategies to interrupt reactive patterns, feel emotions without overanalyzing, communicate through conflict, and support regulation while staying authentic. Leave with tools to reduce conflict and deepen trust. Ideal for autistic and ADHD individuals and their partners.
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November 11th on Zoom
Got burning questions about sex and intimacy? Join Dr. Alison Ash for a free, hour-long Q&A on cultivating hot sex and thriving relationships. Topics may include consent and boundaries, nervous system care, emotional safety, flirting and seduction, maximizing pleasure, fantasies and shame, conflict repair, and navigating relationship transitions, and more. This event also introduces her 8-week Sexual and Emotional Intimacy Skills Mastercourse starting January 27th.
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November 12th on Zoom (recording available after)
Do you ever feel anxious about intimacy because it might lead to frustration, disappointment, or overwhelm? Many neurodivergent people struggle with attention, arousal, and sensory regulation during dating and sex, which can make moments meant to feel pleasurable instead feel stressful. Get practical tools to navigate intimacy with more confidence, compassion, and collaboration. You’ll explore how to communicate sensory needs, manage distraction, regulate arousal, and create novelty while maintaining connection. Leave with a personalized intimacy user manual, plus communication and regulation strategies to feel grounded, connected, and empowered.
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December 9th in Oakland
Do you get stuck in your head worrying about your appearance, performance, orgasm, or just your overwhelming to-do list? Do you find yourself performing sex instead of experiencing it? Learning how to get out of your head and into your body is essential for reducing anxiety and maximizing pleasure in both solo and shared sexual experiences! Discover how to immerse in the sensations in your body and reconnect with your body as an instrument of pleasure. You'll receive actionable tips and skills that will help you get out of your head and become a more skilled lover while increasing your own capacity for pleasure!
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January 13th, Oakland
Has flirting always felt awkward and anxiety-provoking? Tired of letting opportunities pass you by because you’re afraid to make a move? Whether you want to learn how to create new romantic connections or improve your ability to seduce your current lover(s), this workshop will help you figure out how get freaky without being creepy! Gain verbal and non-verbal skills for flirting and seduction and feel more confident initiating. Discover how to effectively escalate flirting and how to read body language to know if they’re receptive to your advances. Learn how to recover from failed flirting attempts and how to recalibrate so you can stay in connection.
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Tuesdays January 27th - March 17th on Zoom
This comprehensive course includes 8 live online classes designed to support you in creating, deepening, and sustaining sexual and emotional intimacy in your relationship(s). All classes weave science-based data, embodied exploration, and skills development. Classes feature a combo of lecture with optional breakout room discussions and experiential exercises, plus extra time for Q&A after class. Supplemental materials include handouts, readings, and demo videos, Recordings available for those who can’t attend live or want additional review. Course content applicable to individuals and couples and both monogamous and non-monogamous dynamics. Check out the detailed curriculum, reviews, and more.
How to Be a Feminist in the Bedroom
Navigating Non-Monogamy Level 1
Mastering Non-Monogamy Level 2
Refining Your Sexual Intuition
Repairing Ruptures in Relationships
Sexual and Emotional Intimacy Skills (8 week course for individuals and couples)
Sustainable Intimacy: Reignite the Flame for the Long Game (4 week course for couples)
The Ins and Outs of Play Parties