Monthly Roundtable: Navigating Experience Gaps in Non-Monogamy

The Brooklyn Poly Roundtable is a monthly discussion-centered, community gathering for those who want to learn about and share experiences/perspectives on topics related to non-monogamy and polyamory. This month's topic is:

1. Navigating Experience Gaps in Non-Monogamy

As some of us begin exploring non-monogamy, we often enter communities where many others have years of experience, shared language, and established norms. This can be exciting and affirming, but also disorienting—especially when newer folks find themselves learning in public, forming early connections, and trying to date people who are often more fluent or confident in non-monogamous relationships.

For this discussion, let’s look at the experience gap from both sides. For newer non-monogamists, what supports you staying grounded, asking questions, and trusting your own pace and boundaries while learning and dating within the community? For more experienced members, how can you welcome, support, and date newcomers in ways that avoid power imbalances or pressure and instead center consent, agency, and mutual growth?

As always, this space is about learning from each other, holding our different experiences with care, and letting ourselves be shaped by the wisdom that emerges when we gather. We grow through listening, sharing, and remembering that we’re not doing any of this alone.

Approximate Timeline:

• Doors Open - 7 PM

• 7-7:30 - Arrive, make a donation, get your name tags, say hi, place your drinks/snacks on the table

• 7:30-9 - Group discussion

• 9-10 - Mingle and socialize (and help us clean up the space ;))

Please consider making the $10 donation to help us cover the room rental and contribute to our snack budget. If you can't afford it, come anyway! Feel free to bring a little treat or beverage to share if you feel inclined. We try to have a few snacks available, but more is always welcome.

PLEASE NOTE: This meetup is about creating a safe space for sharing ideas and experiences and having productive and compassionate discussions with old and new friends. It is not a cruising or pickup event, so please do not come with those expectations or intentions as they can make folks uncomfortable and feel unsafe. Help us keep this a safe and supportive space!

Our group values ethics, inclusion, growth and compassion as a means to support each of our unique journeys in developing non-traditional relationships. Please be prepared to bring those values, along with an awareness of the fundamental importance of consent and a respect for all others if you attend our events.

We look forward to welcoming everyone interested or curious about non-monogamy and polyamory :) See you at the Brooklyn Society for Ethical Culture (269 4th Avenue, between Garfield and 1st Street)!

In community,

Clara & Marco