Monthly Roundtable: Privacy and Secrecy in Polyamory/Non-Monogamy

The Brooklyn Poly Roundtable is a monthly discussion-centered, community gathering for those who want to learn about and share experiences/perspectives on topics related to non-monogamy and polyamory. This month's topic is:

1. Privacy, Secrecy and Disclosure in Non-Monogamous Relationships

When multiple relationships are involved, figuring out what to share, what to keep private, and with whom, can get really complicated. These questions often touch tender places around trust, care, safety, autonomy, and belonging, and there’s rarely a one-size-fits-all answer.

Often, things that feel obvious or self-evident to one person aren’t at all obvious to another. This can lead to painful misunderstandings, unspoken expectations, and sometimes even a sense of righteousness or “shoulds” that make these conversations harder.

This roundtable is an invitation to explore how we each navigate privacy, secrecy, and disclosure in non-monogamous relationships. We’ll explore the questions we might want to ask, how to have clearer and more explicit agreements, and where it may be helpful to name, rather than assume, the possible "gray areas" that may otherwise lead to confusion or hurt.

As always, this space is about learning from each other, holding our different experiences with care, and letting ourselves be shaped by the wisdom that emerges when we gather. We grow through listening, sharing, and remembering that we’re not doing any of this alone.

Approximate Timeline:

• Doors Open - 7 PM

• 7-7:30 - Arrive, get your name tags, say hi, place your drinks/snacks on the table

• 7:30-9 - Group discussion

• 9-10 - Mingle and socialize (and help us clean up the space ;))

Please consider making the $10 donation to help us cover the room rental and contribute to our snack budget. If you can't afford it, come anyway! Feel free to bring a little treat or beverage to share if you feel inclined. We try to have a few snacks available, but more is always welcome.

PLEASE NOTE: This meetup is about creating a safe space for sharing ideas and experiences and having productive and compassionate discussions with old and new friends. It is not a cruising or pickup event, so please do not come with those expectations or intentions as they can make folks uncomfortable and feel unsafe. Help us keep this a safe and supportive space!

Our group values ethics, inclusion, growth and compassion as a means to support each of our unique journeys in developing non-traditional relationships. Please be prepared to bring those values, along with an awareness of the fundamental importance of consent and a respect for all others if you attend our events.

We look forward to welcoming everyone interested or curious about non-monogamy and polyamory :) See you at the Brooklyn Society for Ethical Culture (269 4th Avenue, between Garfield and 1st Street)!

In community,

Clara & Marco