Nerdy and Flirty: The Munch for Polyamorous Nerds

Calling all polyamorous nerds! We’re hosting a munch for socializing, flirting and possible gaming. This event is primarily for polyamorous people to get to know each other but if you want to play tabletop games feel free to bring them. Card games and things without a lot of little pieces are ideal for this environment.

Location: We will be at Caboose Commons. This is a bar and restaurant, but drinking and eating is optional. We will be the ones with name tags and markers.

This is a newby friendly event which is also listed on Meetup.

Guidelines for Nerdy and Flirty Munch

Consent:

You must ask consent before touching anyone. This includes hugs.

Please ask if people are open to flirting before you start being flirtatious

If you befriend someone through the group, please ask before leaving if they are open to direct messages and/or friend requests on social media platforms before sending either

Do not send naked pictures to people in the group without their explicit consent

Respect all genders:

Do not assume people’s pronouns or gender

Ask people what their pronouns are

Refer to them with the pronouns requested

If you make a mistake, make a quick apology and do not make it a “big thing”

Be respectful of others

Do not insult people based around: race, gender, religion, body size, disability, orientation, kinks, or relationship styles.

Do not engage in diet talk as it is triggering for people with eating disorders or people in larger bodies.

Do not pressure others in accepting food or drink from you. They are able to make their own decisions and do not have to share their logic.

No means no, and is a complete sentence that requires no further explanation. If told no, drop it and move on.

Covid Safety

It is expected that munch attendees have had COVID vaccinations and are up to date on their boosters. You may be asked to show your vaccination card when you arrive.

Respect the location

We are guests at this restaurant. They do not have to accept our group as recurring customers. To help them, RSVP one week before coming to the munch to allow them to get adequate staff to serve us quickly.

This is a public venue, and a place of business. Please conduct yourself accordingly.

Confidentiality

Do not reveal any identifying information about who was at the munch without their consent.

This is not a BDSM space

If you see someone in a collar do not assume you have to talk to their Dom/me or Owner to talk to them. Talk to them first and treat them as an adult with their own agency unless otherwise instructed.

Inclusivity

Please try to include new people in your conversations and welcome them into the community as much as possible.

Discipline around the guidelines:

If someone is not obeying the guidelines at the event please notify an organizer and they will assist with resolving the issue. Non-malicious issues will attempt to be resolved through education and restorative justice, either in the moment or outside of the event. This means that we will attempt to educate people around what happened that was problematic so that they can own their actions and adjust their behavior, and not violate the guidelines in the future. Malicious issues will be dealt with immediately and permanently, which may include but are not limited to, being banned from future group events, being banned from the venue, or being reported to law enforcement. Repeat offenders will not be allowed to attend the munch.