Neurodivergent Sexuality: Enhancing Pleasure

Name: Neurodivergent Sexuality: Enhancing Pleasure
Start: 2025-07-30T02:00:00.000Z
End: 2025-07-30T04:30:00.000Z
Location: Private Venue

Private Venue
Oakland
Tuesday, Jul 29th
7 PM - 9:30 PM PDT
Organized by TurnON.love

NeuroDivergent Love: Enhancing Pleasure

Get discounted tickets here!

Note: This workshop is part of a two-part series. We also invite you to join Neurodivergent Love: Enhancing Emotional Intimacy on July 22nd — a recommended (but not required) companion workshop

Many neurodivergent folks struggle with aspects of dating and intimacy that rely on social norms, sensory regulation, and attention management. These challenges can lead to frustrating encounters in the bedroom in moments meant to feel intimate and pleasurable. TurnON.love intimacy coaches Dr. Alison Ash and Sebastian Clarke offer concrete tools and language to navigate these dynamics with more clarity, compassion, and collaboration—for both autistic and ADHD folks and their partners.

In this experiential workshop, we’ll cover:

How to talk about sensory needs and preferences around touch, sound, scent, and space
Strategies for navigating attention, distraction, and arousal regulation during sex
Common neurodivergent and neurotypical relationship dynamics, including initiator-rejector patterns, hyper vs hypo sexuality, and narratives of being too much vs not enough.
Ways neurotypical partners can better support their neurodivergent loved ones and how to co-create alignment around differing needs and desires.
How to create a personalized user manual to help orient yourself and others to your needs and preferences.

You'll leave with communication skills and regulation strategies you can use to feel more grounded, connected, and empowered in dating and intimacy—whether you're partnered and/or preparing for future connections.

Note: This workshop is part of a two-part series. We also invite you to join Neurodivergent Love: Enhancing Emotional Intimacy on July 22nd — a recommended (but not required) companion workshop

Get discounted tickets here!

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Reviews

“Dr. Aly’s compassion and confidence puts rooms of strangers at ease, even while her workshops take you boldly to the most intimate of places. With her expert knowledge, personal skills and creative approaches, she is a gifted facilitator and guide.”- J.W.

“I've taken two workshops led by Dr. Aly. Each has been captivating, informative, interactive, and fun. She has given us the tools and confidence to explore previously uncharted territory and forge a deeper connection. Nearly a year later, we are still referencing the invaluable resources from her class.” - J.D

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Instructor Bio

Dr. Alison Ash, aka Dr. Aly, is a trauma-informed sex and intimacy coach and educator, Stanford University Lecturer, author, and founder of TurnON.love. As a sociologist with a PhD from Stanford, she has a comprehensive understanding of the complex societal challenges that often lead to unsatisfying and disempowering sexual experiences. She designs workshops, courses, and retreats and offers individuals and couples coaching to give others the tools to discover their desires and confidently pursue them.

Dr. Aly is teaming up with her husband and intimacy coach, Sebastian Clarke. He has more than a decade of experience working with neurodivergent folks, supporting them to increase their capacity for healthy relating. Sebastian has developed a wide range of specialized skills to support neurodivergent clients to feel more confident and comfortable navigating intimacy, including helping them to feel and express emotion and self-regulate in meaningful ways, enhance their communication skills, and explore embodied sex-positive pleasure.

They invite you to TurnON pleasure, intimacy and love at www.TurnON.love and on Instagram and Facebook.

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Important Information

* Tickets are not refundable. They may be transferred to another individual but not to a future event.

* I offer one volunteer ticket per event, and while I appreciate those that love to be of service, I ask that you save this opportunity for those who require financial assistance to be able to attend. You may also apply for a sliding scale ticket.

* Please take an at-home antigen test on the day of the workshop and take a photo of your results. Tests can also be purchased at the door for $10. If you are feeling unwell or develop symptoms, please stay home. Masks will be optional.

* I welcome folks of all genders, sexual orientations, relationship structures, ages, body types, abilities, races, and ethnicities.

* This venue is partially accessible. The workshop space is wheelchair accessible, but the bathrooms are not. There is a gender inclusive bathroom on site.

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