Neurodiverse Pleasure & Sexual Intimacy

Name: Neurodiverse Pleasure & Sexual Intimacy
Start: 2026-03-25T01:00:00.000Z
End: 2026-03-25T03:30:00.000Z
Location: Zoom

Zoom
Oakland
Wednesday, Mar 25th
1 AM - 3:30 AM
Organized by TurnON.love

Do you feel anxious about getting intimate because it might lead to frustration, disappointment, or overwhelm? Do you find it difficult to stay focused or maintain arousal due to racing thoughts or external distractions? Many neurodivergent folks struggle with aspects of dating and intimacy that rely on social norms, sensory regulation, and attention management. These challenges can lead to frustrating encounters in the bedroom in moments meant to feel intimate and pleasurable.

TurnON.love intimacy coaches Dr. Alison Ash and Sebastian Clarke offer concrete tools and language to navigate these dynamics with more compassion, confidence, and collaboration. Designed for single or partnered autistic and ADHD folks as well as their partners.

In this experiential workshop, we’ll cover:

How to initiate convos about sensory needs and and explore preferences around touch, sound, scent, and space
Strategies for navigating attention, distraction, and arousal regulation during sex
Skills for creating novelty and spontaneity, redirecting unwanted touch, and ending encounters while maintaining connection
Ways neurotypical partners can better support their neurodivergent loved ones and how to co-create alignment around differing needs and desires.
How to create a personalized user manual to help orient yourself and others to your needs and preferences.

You'll leave with communication skills and regulation strategies you can use to feel more grounded, connected, and empowered in dating and intimacy whether partnered or preparing for future connections.

Note: This workshop is part of a three-part series. We also invite you to join Neurodiverse Relating & Executive Function on March 3rd and Neurodiverse Love & Emotional Intimacy on March 10th — recommended (but not required) companions to this workshop.

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Reviews

“Creating my user manual was one of the most affirming parts of the workshop. Instead of feeling picky or difficult, I finally saw my needs written down as valid info about how my body and brain work. I feel proud of my preferences rather than embarrassed and I'm excited to share my user manual with future partners. It feels like a roadmap I didn’t know I was allowed to have.” - F.C.

"I appreciated that Dr. Aly and Seb really normalized neurodivergent experiences rather than framing it as a problem to fix. The focus on sensory preferences and arousal regulation helped me understand why I’ve struggled in past relationships and gave me strategies to manage distraction and overstimulation. The exercises were incredibly practical." - D.W.

"We had a good time at this workshop and really appreciated how much it helped us find language to name the challenges we each have around being intimate. My partner was able to share their experience when I start to get distracted and I was able to identify clear strategies I will be able to try out going forward. We will be recommending this workshop to our friends for sure." -B.B.

"I wish I had this information decades ago since it would have saved me so much struggle and confusion. I always thought I was just too needy and sensitive and that the answer was to endure or toughen up. Now I know I can share my sensory sensitivities around sex in easy and clear ways and I’m honestly so excited to try out some of these new skills!" -Z.F.

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Instructor Bio

Dr. Alison Ash, aka Dr. Aly, is a trauma-informed sex and intimacy coach and educator, Stanford University Lecturer, author, and founder of TurnON.love. As a sociologist with a PhD from Stanford, she has a comprehensive understanding of the complex societal challenges that often lead to unsatisfying and disempowering sexual experiences. She designs workshops, courses, and retreats and offers individuals and couples coaching to give others the tools to discover their desires and confidently pursue them.

Dr. Aly is teaming up with her husband and intimacy coach, Sebastian Clarke. He has more than a decade of experience working with neurodivergent folks, supporting them to increase their capacity for healthy relating. Sebastian has developed a wide range of specialized skills to support neurodivergent clients to feel more confident and comfortable navigating intimacy, including helping them to feel and express emotion and self-regulate in meaningful ways, enhance their communication skills, and explore embodied sex-positive pleasure.

They invite you to TurnON pleasure, intimacy and love at www.TurnON.love and on Instagram and Facebook.

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Important Information

* Tickets are not refundable. They may be transferred to another individual but not to a future event.

* I offer one volunteer ticket per event, and while I appreciate those that love to be of service, I ask that you save this opportunity for those who require financial assistance to be able to attend. You may also apply for a sliding scale ticket.

* I welcome folks of all genders, sexual orientations, relationship structures, ages, body types, abilities, races, and ethnicities.

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Upcoming Events

The Secrets of Passion, Romance, and Dominance

February 24th in Oakland

Discover how to use both words and touch to create passionate, romantic, and dominant sexual encounters! Master romantic affirmations, passionate dirty talk, and dominant commands. Explore how to seduce with a wide array of tantalizing and exhilarating touch techniques, including romantic feather touch and passionate grabs. Learn how to make your lover surrender by spanking, hair pulling, and pinning them against the wall. You'll leave feeling confident in creating more variety in your sex life and making your lovers fantasies come true!

Neurodiverse Relating & Executive Function

March 3rd on Zoom, replay available to folks who purchase tickets

Many neurodivergent individuals and mixed neurotype couples struggle with executive function differences, including how to plan, prioritize, and manage the never-ending to-do list. These difficulties can create stress, leading to miscommunication and conflict, challenges with initiation and completion, and friction around different ways of doing things. We reframe these challenges as predictable patterns rather than personal shortcomings, offering practical strategies to work with neurological differences instead of against them. This workshop is designed for autistic and ADHD adults, single or partnered, and their loved ones.

Neurodiverse Love & Emotional Intimacy

March 10th, replay available to folks who purchase tickets

Do you ever get stuck in cycles of miscommunication, overwhelm, or shutdown when trying to connect? These challenges are common in neurodivergent relationships, and often exacerbated by catastrophizing, shame spirals, or rejection sensitivity. Learn how core neurodivergent experiences, including alexithymia, decision fatigue, sensory overload, burnout, and masking impact intimacy and trust. You’ll learn strategies to interrupt reactive patterns, feel emotions without overanalyzing, communicate through conflict, and support regulation while staying authentic. Leave with tools to reduce conflict and deepen trust. Ideal for autistic and ADHD individuals and their partners.

Neurodiverse Pleasure & Sexual Intimacy

March 24th, replay available to folks who purchase tickets

Do you ever feel anxious about intimacy because it might lead to frustration, disappointment, or overwhelm? Many neurodivergent people struggle with attention, arousal, and sensory regulation during dating and s*x, which can make moments meant to feel pleasurable feel stressful instead. Get practical tools to navigate intimacy with more confidence, compassion, and collaboration. You’ll explore how to communicate sensory needs, manage distraction, regulate arousal, and create novelty while maintaining connection. Leave with a personalized intimacy user manual, plus communication and regulation strategies to feel grounded, connected, and empowered

How to Eat Pussy like a Champ

March 29th in Oakland, also available as an on-demand rental

Givers will learn how to discover what turns their lover(s) on and explore a wide range of techniques for maximizing pleasure. Receivers will learn how to surrender into sensation while also taking a more active role in cultivating their own pleasure. Discover all the nerve pathways involved so you can understand the different kinds of orgasms possible as well as science-based techniques for how to explore them. Plus, there's a thorough live demo so you can see all the skills put into action. Both individuals and couples are welcome!

Couples Retreat - Sustainable Intimacy: Fuel Passion for Lasting Love

April 23rd-26th in Sonoma, also available as an on-demand rental

Navigating mismatched libidos, feeling stuck in routines, or just craving more playfulness and pleasure are natural parts of growing together over time. In long-term relationships, it’s common to feel desire ebb and flow, to relate to sex like it’s a chore, or to quietly build up feelings of rejection or resentment. Even loving, connected couples can struggle with differences in desires, changing needs, or the pressures of daily life crowding out time for intimacy. Whether you're looking to rekindle passion or simply carve out meaningful time to nourish your relationship, this 3-night, 4-day retreat offers a spacious and supportive container to expand your erotic potential and strengthen the emotional and physical bonds between you.

You'll:

Break Free from Stagnant Patterns: Learn how to move beyond the anxious-avoidant dynamic, cohabitator-coparent roles, and the pressure-rejection cycle that can stifle intimacy.
Uncover & Overcome Libido Blockers: Identify what’s getting in the way of your desire, pleasure, and connection—and learn how to dissolve those barriers.
Master the Art of Intimacy Bids: Explore how to make verbal, physical, and romantic invitations that genuinely woo your partner and spark connection.
Create Fun & Exciting Intimacy Dates: Receive a curated menu of ways to connect authentically—without pressure or performance.
Rediscover Your Turn-On & Pleasure: Engage in practices that will expand your capacity to both give and receive pleasure in ways that feel deeply fulfilling.
Sustainable Intimacy Toolkit: Take home a 35-page Sustainable Intimacy booklet filled with reflection exercises and personalized practices to continue nurturing your intimacy.
Indulge in Rejuvenating Experiences: Enjoy delicious meals, a heated pool and hot tub, scenic trails, a movement and mindfulness class, a couples massage class, group coaching, a bonus workshop on passionate, romantic, and dominant touch, a sensual soirée, and more
Choose from a Variety of Accommodation Options: Choose from camping and glamping for an immersive nature experience to gorgeous private rooms, including one with a private sauna and soaking tub overlooking the woods.