Neurodiverse Relating & Executive Function

Name: Neurodiverse Relating & Executive Function
Start: 2026-03-04T02:00:00.000Z
End: 2026-03-04T04:30:00.000Z
Location: Zoom

Zoom
Oakland
Wednesday, Mar 4th
2 AM - 4:30 AM
Organized by TurnON.love

Do you feel like no matter how hard you try, you’re always letting others down? Do you feel continually frustrated because you can’t count on your partner to follow through? Many neurodivergent individuals and mixed neurotype couples struggle with executive function (EF) differences, including how we plan, prioritize, and manage the never-ending to-do list, are common obstacles. These difficulties can create stress in all kinds of relationships, leading to miscommunication and conflict, challenges with initiation and completion, and friction around different ways of doing things.

TurnON.love intimacy coaches Dr. Alison Ash and Sebastian Clarke reframe these challenges as predictable patterns rather than personal shortcomings, offering practical strategies to work with neurological differences instead of against them. This workshop is designed for autistic and ADHD adults, single or partnered, and their loved ones.

In this experiential workshop, you’ll learn:

A clear overview of executive function and how it shapes daily life, dating, and relationship dynamics
Ways EF challenges contribute to conflict, resentment, and communication breakdowns
Practical low-burden strategies to manage tasks, reduce dysregulation, and strengthen collaboration
Skills for making requests, negotiating needs, and setting boundaries in ways that maintain trust and intimacy
Approaches for expressing impact with empathy and clarity without criticism, shame, or blame

This workshop will provide effective tools, actionable strategies, and hands-on practices to reduce unnecessary EF labor and struggles so you can preserve capacity for what matters most.

Note: This workshop is part of a three-part series. We also invite you to join Neurodiverse Love & Emotional Intimacy on March 10th and Neurodiverse Pleasure & Sexual Intimacy on March 24th — recommended (but not required) companions to this workshop.

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Reviews

“This workshop gave us tools for conflicts we’ve been having for years. Instead of framing things as one of us not trying hard enough, we now see how our executive function differences were driving resentment on both sides. The practical strategies around requests, planning, and team meetings have already changed how we relate day to day.” - R.S.

“I usually feel nervous talking with strangers, but everyone was welcoming and the exercises were structured in a way that made it easy to connect and move past any initial awkwardness. I don’t have a partner right now so I wasn’t sure how relevant it would be, but the material was immediately applicable to my relationships with colleagues and family and I know it will be helpful in preparing me for a future relationship.” - G.A.

"I’ve read a lot of ADHD and autism-related content, but this was the first time executive function was explained in a way that actually reduced my shame. I left feeling clearer about why things are hard and with tools I can realistically use, not another list of things I’m failing at.” - B.R.

"I attended this workshop with my partner and we got so many helpful tips and ideas to try. We have had a hard time with delegating chores and what to do about things feeling unfair and this workshop really helped each of us get creative with ways to address this issue. We are so looking forward to the next two!" -T.L.

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Instructor Bio

Dr. Alison Ash, aka Dr. Aly, is a trauma-informed sex and intimacy coach and educator, Stanford University Lecturer, author, and founder of TurnON.love. As a sociologist with a PhD from Stanford, she has a comprehensive understanding of the complex societal challenges that often lead to unsatisfying and disempowering sexual experiences. She designs workshops, courses, and retreats and offers individuals and couples coaching to give others the tools to discover their desires and confidently pursue them.

Dr. Aly is teaming up with her husband and intimacy coach, Sebastian Clarke. He has more than a decade of experience working with neurodivergent folks, supporting them to increase their capacity for healthy relating. Sebastian has developed a wide range of specialized skills to support neurodivergent clients to feel more confident and comfortable navigating intimacy, including helping them to feel and express emotion and self-regulate in meaningful ways, enhance their communication skills, and explore embodied sex-positive pleasure.

They invite you to TurnON pleasure, intimacy and love at www.TurnON.love and on Instagram and Facebook.

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Important Information

* Tickets are not refundable. They may be transferred to another individual but not to a future event.

* I offer one volunteer ticket per event, and while I appreciate those that love to be of service, I ask that you save this opportunity for those who require financial assistance to be able to attend. You may also apply for a sliding scale ticket.

* I welcome folks of all genders, sexual orientations, relationship structures, ages, body types, abilities, races, and ethnicities.

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You'll:

Break Free from Stagnant Patterns: Learn how to move beyond the anxious-avoidant dynamic, cohabitator-coparent roles, and the pressure-rejection cycle that can stifle intimacy.
Uncover & Overcome Libido Blockers: Identify what’s getting in the way of your desire, pleasure, and connection—and learn how to dissolve those barriers.
Master the Art of Intimacy Bids: Explore how to make verbal, physical, and romantic invitations that genuinely woo your partner and spark connection.
Create Fun & Exciting Intimacy Dates: Receive a curated menu of ways to connect authentically—without pressure or performance.
Rediscover Your Turn-On & Pleasure: Engage in practices that will expand your capacity to both give and receive pleasure in ways that feel deeply fulfilling.
Sustainable Intimacy Toolkit: Take home a 35-page Sustainable Intimacy booklet filled with reflection exercises and personalized practices to continue nurturing your intimacy.
Indulge in Rejuvenating Experiences: Enjoy delicious meals, a heated pool and hot tub, scenic trails, a movement and mindfulness class, a couples massage class, group coaching, a bonus workshop on passionate, romantic, and dominant touch, a sensual soirée, and more
Choose from a Variety of Accommodation Options: Choose from camping and glamping for an immersive nature experience to gorgeous private rooms, including one with a private sauna and soaking tub overlooking the woods.