Non-Monogamy as Nervous System Work

What if you're asking the wrong questions about consensual non-monogamy?

Debates about hierarchy, jealousy, and ethics often miss what actually determines whether non-monogamy is sustainable: nervous system capacity, attachment regulation, and values under pressure.

This one-hour workshop reframes common non-monogamy questions (e.g. is hierarchy ethical and for me?) through an attachment and nervous-system-informed lens. Instead of asking whether a structure is “right” or “ethical,” we’ll explore what different forms of intimacy reliably do to human nervous systems.

We’ll look at jealousy, repair, security, discernment, and hierarchy not as moral problems, but as capacity questions. You’ll leave with a clearer framework for understanding your own somatic and relational limits and values, and a new way to evaluate what is actually sustainable for you and those you love.

This is a free community workshop. You are welcome to attend at no cost as part of a commitment to accessible psychoeducation for the Plura community. If you feel called to support this offering or contribute towards future events, donations are appreciated and can be made via Venmo (@Lunarosa-Peralta)

About the Instructor

Lunarosa Peralta is an Associate Marriage and Family Therapist who works with individuals and relationship systems navigating non-monogamy, attachment, power, and relational complexity. Her work is grounded in narrative therapy, attachment theory, and somatic approaches.

Lunarosa brings both clinical training and lived experience to her work. She has spent years practicing various forms of non-monogamy, and she understands how often the emotional and nervous system realities of these relationships go unnamed or unsupported. Rather than focusing on ideology or “doing non-monogamy right,” her work centers what is actually happening in the body, in attachment patterns, and in relational systems over time.

In addition to her clinical practice, Lunarosa has over a decade of experience facilitating groups and conversations in complex systems, including her background as a qualitative researcher and healthcare focus group facilitator. Her teaching style is grounded, direct, and compassionate, with an emphasis on creating spaces that are thoughtful and, hopefully, genuinely useful.

You can learn more about her work at withlunarosa.com. She offers therapy for teens, adults, couples and polycules in Oakland and Walnut Creek.

Psychology Today profile: https://www.psychologytoday.com/profile/1634238