Non-Monogamy Discussion Group Vancouver -December 2025

Welcome to the Non-Monogamy Discussion Group Vancouver! We will be meeting the THIRD Monday of the month at Cross and Crows Books . Bring your ideas, questions and opinions!

December Topic: Finding the Right Words - Labels & Language in Non-monogamy.

How do the words we use shape the way we love and connect?

Terms like partner, metamour, primary, solo poly, or kitchen table polyamory can help us describe our relationships and find community. But sometimes, those same words can feel like they don’t quite fit the experience or that they mean different things to different people.

This month, we’ll explore how language shapes our experiences of non-monogamy:

-How do you decide which labels feel right for you? Do you like labels?

-What happens when you and someone else use the same word but mean something totally different?

-How do you talk about your relationships when none of the usual labels feel quite right?

-Are you comfortable with labels changing over time?

We’ll dive into how comfortable we are with shifting or redefining labels, how we check in about what words mean to each of us, and what happens when our experiences don’t line up neatly with the language we have for them.

The Specifics:

Date: December 15, 2025

Time: 7:00pm - 9:00pm

(Doors open at 7pm for this event and we start the discussion at 7:30pm)

Where: Cross and Crows Books - 2836 Commercial Drive

Cost: by donation ($2-5) or shopping at the bookstore!

Who can attend: Those who practice non-monogamy or are curious about it - We ask that if you engage in our space that your partners have knowledge of your practice or interest.

Health/Safety: Please do not attend if you are sick (even if it's not covid). I will bring my air filter for the space. Stay vaccinated. Please leave your perfumes at home.

We will be continuing the no mandatory masks for the rest of 2025. See pinned post in the feature section of the group.

Accessibility: Technically a wheelchair accessible entrance (has a slope) but not a washroom. Semi low stim - you can hear the sky train pass. The book store is closed to the public but staff are there so event attendees can shop. Variety of chair styles/sizes available.

What to expect during this event

7:00pm - Door open - show up anytime between 7pm and 7:30pm to find yourself a chair, browse the book store (you can shop) and settle in.

7:30pm - Discussion begins

-Read the Norms

-Introductions & Ice Breaker question.

-Finding the Right Words - Labels & Language in Non-monogamy

10 min break

-Announcements & Discussion cont.

9pm Wrap-up - check out at the bookstore or order a book for pick up.

9:10pm You don’t have to go home but you can’t stay here