Non-Monogamy Discussion Group Vancouver - June 2025

Welcome to the Non-Monogamy Discussion Group Vancouver! We will be meeting the THIRD Monday of the month at Cross and Crows Books . Bring your ideas, questions and opinions!

The Specifics:

Date: June 16, 2025

Time: 7:00pm - 9:00pm

(Doors open at 7pm for this event and we start the discussion at 7:30pm)

Where: Cross and Crows Books - 2836 Commercial Drive

Cost: by donation ($2-5) or shopping at the bookstore!

Who can attend: Everyone is welcome - We ask that if you engage in our space that your partners have knowledge of your practice.

Health/Safety: Please do not attend if you are sick (even if it's not covid). I will bring my air filter for the space. Stay vaccinated. Please leave your perfumes at home.

We will be continuing the no mandatory masks for the rest of 2025. Posted about this to be made.

Accessibility: Technically a wheelchair accessible entrance (has a slope) but not a washroom. Semi low stim - you can hear the sky train pass . The book store is closed for our event. Variety of chair styles/sizes available.

What to expect during this event

7:00pm - Door open, find yourself a chair, browse the book store (you can shop) and settle in.

7:30pm - Discussion begins

-Read the Norms

-Introductions & Ice Breaker

-Topic: Loving Without a Lease - Navigating Relationships Outside of Cohabitation

10 min break

-Announcements & Discussion cont.

9pm Wrap-up - check out at the bookstore or order a book for pick up.

9:10pm You don’t have to go home but you can’t stay here.

Topic: Loving Without a Lease - Navigating Relationships Outside of Cohabitation

Not all love moves in. In many non-monogamous dynamics, meaningful and deeply connected relationships may never include shared leases, merged finances, or co-parenting plans, and that’s not a failure. It’s a choice, a necessity, or simply the shape the relationship wants to take.

This month, we’ll explore what it means to date, love, and build intimacy with people we don’t live with or never plan to. How do we cultivate closeness without cohabitation? What kinds of care, commitment, or shared rituals support relationships that exist outside the nesting model? What challenges come up when we love deeply but live separately?

We’ll also examine how social narratives, like the "relationship escalator," can influence our expectations, and how to push back against the idea that cohabitation equals legitimacy. What role does distance, emotional or geographical, play in shaping how we relate? How do we deal with feelings of exclusion, longing, or disconnection when we’re not part of a partner’s household?

Join us for a thoughtful discussion on the diverse ways love and connection can flourish outside the bounds of shared space. Bring your experiences, questions, and reflections as we unpack what it means to be in committed relationships that don’t revolve around moving in.