Non-Monogamy Discussion Group Vancouver - March - Autonomy, Dependence and Possessiveness

Welcome to the Non-Monogamy Discussion Group Vancouver! We will be meeting the THIRD Monday of the month at Cross and Crows Books . Bring your ideas, questions and opinions!

The Specifics:

Date: March.17, 2025

Time: 7:00pm - 9:00pm

(Doors open at 7pm for this event and we start the discussion at 7:30pm)

Where: Cross and Crows Books - 2836 Commercial Drive

Cost: by donation ($2-5) or shopping at the bookstore!

Who can attend: Everyone is welcome - We ask that if you engage in our space that your partners have knowledge of your practice.

Health/Safety: Please do not attend if you are sick (even if it's not covid). I will bring my air filter for the space. Stay vaccinated. Please leave your perfumes at home. We are doing a trail of no mandatory masks for the first three months of 2025. Please see the 2025 update post.

Accessibility: Technically a wheelchair accessible entrance (has a slope) but not a washroom. Semi low stim - you can hear the sky train pass . The book store is closed for our event. Variety of chair styles/sizes available.

What to expect during this event

7:00pm - Door open, find yourself a chair, browse the book store (you can shop) and settle in.

7:30pm - Discussion begins

-Read the Norms

-Introductions & Ice Breaker

-Topic - Autonomy, Dependence and Possessiveness

10 min break

-Announcements & Discussion cont.

8:50pm Wrap-up - unstructured social time

9:10pm You don’t have to go home but you can’t stay here.

Topic: Autonomy, Dependence and Possessiveness

This month, we’ll explore autonomy, dependence, and possessiveness within non-monogamous relationships during our discussion. How do we navigate the balance between maintaining personal autonomy and fostering connections with multiple partners? What does it mean to rely on others emotionally and practically, and how do we ensure that reliance is healthy? We’ll also discuss the ways possessiveness can manifest in non-monogamous settings, how to identify it, and strategies for managing it in yourself.

Join us as we dive into these complex and often nuanced topics, offering a space to share experiences, ask questions, and explore how autonomy and dependence can coexist in healthy, fulfilling ways.

Potential Discussion Questions

What does autonomy mean to you and how does it look in your relationships?

How do you establish or maintain healthy dependence and unhealthy dependency in your non-monogamous relationships?

In what ways can possessiveness manifest in a non-monogamous dynamic?

How do you balance maintaining your autonomy and being emotionally/physically available to your partners?

When conflict arises around autonomy or possessiveness, what strategies have you found helpful for resolving these issues?

How can you support a partner who is struggling with feelings of dependence or possessiveness without invalidating their emotions or compromising your own needs?

If you have any questions please feel free to DM me directly. This is not a hookup or dating event.