Non-Monogamy Discussion Group Vancouver - May Discussion

Welcome to the Non-Monogamy Discussion Group Vancouver! We will be meeting the THIRD Monday of the month at Cross and Crows Books . Bring your ideas, questions and opinions!

The Specifics:

Date: May 19, 2025

Time: 7:00pm - 9:00pm

(Doors open at 7pm for this event and we start the discussion at 7:30pm)

Where: Cross and Crows Books - 2836 Commercial Drive

Cost: by donation ($2-5) or shopping at the bookstore!

Who can attend: Everyone is welcome - We ask that if you engage in our space that your partners have knowledge of your practice.

Health/Safety: Please do not attend if you are sick (even if it's not covid). I will bring my air filter for the space. Stay vaccinated. Please leave your perfumes at home.

We will be continuing the no mandatory masks for the rest of 2025. Posted about this to be made.

Accessibility: Technically a wheelchair accessible entrance (has a slope) but not a washroom. Semi low stim - you can hear the sky train pass . The book store is closed for our event. Variety of chair styles/sizes available.

What to expect during this event

7:00pm - Door open, find yourself a chair, browse the book store (you can shop) and settle in.

7:30pm - Discussion begins

-Read the Norms

-Introductions & Ice Breaker

-Topic - To Share or Not to Share - Privacy & Consent

10 min break

-Announcements & Discussion cont.

9pm Wrap-up - check out at the bookstore or order a book for pick up.

9:10pm You don’t have to go home but you can’t stay here.

Topic: To Share or Not to Share – Privacy and Consent in Non-Monogamy

In relationships, sharing can be an act of transparency, connection, or even intimacy—but where is the line between openness and respecting someone's privacy?

This month, we’ll explore the complex terrain of privacy and consent:

What do we have the right to share about our partners—with others, or with other partners? How do we navigate agreements that involve access to messages, calendars, or personal details? Where does *couple’s privilege* show up in expectations around disclosure, and how can we ensure that consent remains central in all relationships?

We’ll also reflect on the value of privacy—not just as a boundary, but as a form of respect and autonomy. Is it okay to keep some things just for ourselves or between certain partners? What happens when privacy is mistaken for secrecy?

Bring your stories, your questions, and your curiosity as we discuss the balance between honoring autonomy and building trust and connection in non-monogamous relationships.

Let’s talk, reflect, and learn together.