Non-Monogamy Discussion Vancouver - September

Welcome to the Non-Monogamy Discussion Group Vancouver! We will be meeting the THIRD Monday of the month at Cross and Crows Books . Bring your ideas, questions and opinions!

Topic: Moving at Different Speeds - Honoring the Pace of Connection

In non-monogamous relationships, it’s common for different connections to unfold at varying speeds. One relationship might feel like a slow burn, while another ignites quickly. Sometimes we're eager to move forward while a partner needs to take things slow or we're adjusting to the pace of our partner's relationships with our metamours.

This month, we’re exploring the rhythms and pacing of relationships: How do we honor the natural tempo of a connection without rushing or holding back? What happens when relationships feel out of sync or when the speed of one dynamic brings up feelings about another? How do we navigate comparison, jealousy, or fear of being left behind when things progress unevenly?

We’ll also discuss the pressure to "keep up," the desire for things to feel fair or equal, and how to stay grounded in our own values and needs. What does it look like to trust the timing of each relationship even when it's uncomfortable? How do we communicate around pacing with care, curiosity, and compassion?

Bring your stories, challenges, and insights as we reflect on what it means to move at your own pace and to make room for relationships to develop in their own time.

The Specifics:

Date: September 15, 2025

Time: 7:00pm - 9:00pm

(Doors open at 7pm for this event and we start the discussion at 7:30pm)

Where: Cross and Crows Books - 2836 Commercial Drive

Cost: by donation ($2-5) or shopping at the bookstore!

Who can attend: Everyone is welcome - We ask that if you engage in our space that your partners have knowledge of your practice.

Health/Safety: Please do not attend if you are sick (even if it's not covid). I will bring my air filter for the space. Stay vaccinated. Please leave your perfumes at home.

We will be continuing the no mandatory masks for the rest of 2025. See pinned post in the feature section of the group.

Accessibility: Technically a wheelchair accessible entrance (has a slope) but not a washroom. Semi low stim - you can hear the sky train pass. The book store is closed to the public but staff are there so event attendees can shop. Variety of chair styles/sizes available.

What to expect during this event

7:00pm - Door open, find yourself a chair, browse the book store (you can shop) and settle in.

7:30pm - Discussion begins

-Read the Norms

-Introductions & Ice Breaker

-Topic: Moving at Different Speeds - Honoring the Pace of Connection

10 min break

-Announcements & Discussion cont.

9pm Wrap-up - check out at the bookstore or order a book for pick up.

9:10pm You don’t have to go home but you can’t stay here