North Bay Babble On - Pleasure and Pain, a discussion

What is it about the sweet sting, the slow burn, or the aching throb that makes us say, “Yes, please!”? Join us for a deliciously curious Babble On where we dive into the complex, thrilling dance between pain and pleasure in BDSM. Whether you’re a sensation seeker, a curious explorer, or just wondering what all the fuss (and moans) are about, this is the conversation for you.

Sensation Play opens up new realms of discovery. We’ll explore how pain can heighten pleasure, deepen connection, and unlock emotional or even euphoric states. We’ll talk about different kinds of pain—from stingy to thuddy, sharp to slow-building—and how they can be used in service of pleasure, catharsis, control, or intimacy.

– How do you know what kind of pain you (or your partner) might enjoy?

– What’s the difference between “good pain” and “nope” pain?

– How do you read responses and adjust in real-time?

– What toys, tools, and techniques can turn ouch into yes?

– How do you handle aftercare and emotional drop when pain is part of the play?

As always, expect a welcoming, respectful space full of laughter, insight, and shared curiosity. Let’s talk about what it means to find pleasure in the pain.

Come on out, bring your questions, and talk about the stuff, get some great new ideas, and let's build community together!

The first Tuesday of every month. It's ok to come at any time during the meeting. I mean, like come into the room...

Babble On is our monthly Topical/Themed kink-friendly, sex-positive discussion munch in the North Bay. Topics include kink community building, consent culture and safety, ethical non-monogamy, defining terminology and jargon, history of kink, tips, tools, and techniques, dealing with jealousy, bridging social media and the real world, community accountability, and whatever we decide as a group we need to discuss...

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