ONLINE: Finding Your (Kink) Voice

  • Hosted by Wicked Grounds
  • 16 people on the list-

A lot of discussion about consent relies on being able to speak up. For example:

• Standing up for yourself in negotiations

• Being able to clearly state your needs, wants, desires and limits

• Agreeing to AND BEING ABLE TO USE a safe word during the scene

But there are occasions when our voices may leave us, e.g. feeling that everyone has invested too much in the scene and we don't want to let others down, flooded with endorphins or adrenaline, reliving past trauma, falling in love with your play partner, autistic shutdown - and that’s what this workshop covers. We examine the many reasons why anyone may stay silent during a kink scene - whether they are a novice or experienced player. What to do if someone is triggered, and different strategies to help people communicate - even if they've had a lifetime of 'people pleasing' or don't know who they are.


Experienced BDSM educator and comedian John Pendal joins us all the way from London, England.

In 2003 John became the 25th person (and only Brit) to win the annual International Mr Leather contest in Chicago. Since then, he has traveled worldwide teaching SM education, giving speeches, as a master of ceremonies or doing stand-up comedy.

He has taught workshops at Down and Dirty (Melbourne), Inferno, Lupercalia (Edmonton), Minnesota Leather Pride, Mr Leatherman Toronto, Palm Springs Leather Pride, Rome BDSM Conference (Italy), SINSations in Leather, Spring in the South (Atlanta), Tribal Fire (Oklahoma), and Thunder in the Mountains (Denver).


$15 - $35 in advance. Please pay at the level you can comfortably afford.

We offer a sliding scale, so that cost is not a barrier to attendance.

The regular ticket is $25. This is what most people should pay.

The $15 ticket is offered for those for whom the $25 ticket would be a barrier to participation. If $25 is too much, we take your word for it! Just pay $15.

Have a great salary? Feeling generous? Paying at the $35 level allows us to make the discounted ticketing available to others who need it.

So - that's it! Choose the level you can comfortably afford.

Patreon members at the VIP+ level may get discounted tickets for $10. Just see your Patreon membership emails for this month's discount code. Find out more at!

If cost is a barrier at any level, please use the "Volunteer List" to request a free scholarship ticket. We will award as many scholarship tickets as we an on a space-available basis.


This will be a live, online class offered through Zoom. To participate, you may need to download the free, basic version of the Zoom app before the class! This class will not be recorded and is not available for later viewing.

Zoom now provides closed captioning which will be available for this event.