From ‘Boys Will Be Boys’ to Boundaries: Healing Consent Culture in BDSM

with Buzz Stingyear

a live and recorded online class from Wicked Grounds

10/15 6pm Pacific

Advanced ticketing required to either attend live or watch the recording. Get yours through Forbidden Tickets or Plura.

And RSVP on Fetlife to let friends know you're coming.

Have you ever felt that kink community wasn’t there for you? Are you confronting unhelpful worldviews around consent that you’ve struggled to shift? Would you like to learn how to be less reactive or annoyed and more open to your [potential] partners’ perspectives? If so, this class is for you!

This course explores the emotional, social, and psychological dimensions of consent beyond the basics. Participants will unpack common resistance to consent culture and deepen their understanding through reflection, dialogue, and experiential practice. Learn when “boys will be boys” or “it’s just my way” is applicable to consent culture. Even those of us who are profoundly dedicated to the ideas of consent sometimes resist the culture and practices of consent. Or we are not even aware that what we are doing is related to kink and therefore think it is not under the purview of consent.

In this workshop, you will learn to:

1. Understand what “nuance” in consent means and why it matters
2. Explore how context and assumptions impact BDSM consent
3. Determine whether you can be a badass or a Dominant/Top and still be religious about consent
4. Examine the conflict that arises when your authentic self conflicts with another’s authentic self in relation to consent
5. Unpack personal resistance to consent practices and replace resistance with enthusiasm
6. Identify personal experiences with clear vs. unclear consent

PRESENTER:

Buzz_Stingyear is a late-blooming kinkster who grew up in a money-driven, Trump-aligned household. He internalized a rigid worldview that took years of effort to unravel. With a doctorate in Counseling Psychology, he strives to align his personal growth with his training. Entering the public kink community exposed him to the transformative power of feedback, accountability, and consent culture. Behaviors once normalized in his vanilla world were challenged and reexamined. Buzz remains committed to self growth, becoming less reactive and more compassionate, and supporting others in finding connection, safety, and self-awareness within the kink community.

TICKETING:

$20 - $40 in advance. Please pay at the level you can comfortably afford.

https://forbiddentickets.com/events/wicked-grounds/a332d6e3c3

We offer a sliding scale, so that cost is not a barrier to attendance.

So - that's it! Choose the level you can comfortably afford.

Patreon members at the VIP+ level may get discounted tickets for $10. Just see your Patreon membership emails for this month's discount code. Find out more at Patreon.com/WickedGrounds!

If cost is a barrier at any level, please use the "Volunteer List" to request a free scholarship ticket. We will award as many scholarship tickets as we can on a space-available basis.

ACCESS:

This will be a live, online class offered through Zoom. To participate, you may need to download the free, basic version of the Zoom app before the class! This class may be recorded for instructor use but is not guaranteed available for later viewing.

Zoom now provides closed captioning, which will be available for this event.