ONLINE: When No Doesn't Mean No: Negotiation and Communication for Consensual Nonconsent

How do you keep yourself safe when you want to feel you’re in real danger? How do you push someone past their breaking point and still leave room to repair the damage? Is there a way to forego hard limits and safewords and stay ethical in play? When you start to play on the edges of consent, everything becomes a little bit trickier.

In this class, vahavta draws on her experiences and stories from a decade years in a 24/7 consensual non-consent (“CNC”) relationship, sharing tips and strategies for developing and staying within a personal risk profile, playing with triggers, communicating in-scene without “breaking character,” and dealing with cognitive dissonance ("did I really want that?") in drop. We will explore the mental and physical considerations and contingency plans needed to enter a CNC environment, based on the desires and boundaries expressed by both bottoms and tops.

PRESENTER:

vahavta began her kink journey eight years ago and has been grateful to get to teach, play, and learn in communities in North Carolina, Chicago, St. Louis, and Israel along the way. Today, she serves her husband in a 24/7 CNC-based Total Power Exchange with heavy elements of emotional play and service and is often found sporting large bruises, writing, or enjoying a good beer. vahavta is disabled, Jewish, and femme, and believes in approaching kink with a firm understanding of intersectional context. As an educator, she aims to give honest and risk-aware information that applies to the realities of human behavior, focusing largely on the "how" and asking people to consider their personal capabilities, interests, and readiness. Passionate about community collaboration, vahavta is proud to run the Risk Evaluation Database (RED) and contribute regularly to kink blogs and her own Fetlife writing index. In all aspects of her life, she strives to be a work in progress.

TICKETING

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We offer a sliding scale, so cost is not a barrier to attendance.

The regular ticket is $30. This is what most people should pay.

The $20 ticket is offered for those for whom the $30 ticket would be a barrier to participation. Have a great salary? Feeling generous? Paying at the $40 level allows us to make the discounted tickets available to others who need it.

So, that's it! Choose the level you can comfortably afford.

No one turned away for lack of funds.

Patreon members at the VIP+ level may get discounted tickets for $10. Just see your Patreon membership emails for this month's discount code. Find out more at Patreon.com/WickedGrounds!

If cost is a barrier at any level, please use the "Volunteer List" to request a free scholarship ticket. We will award as many scholarship tickets as we can on a space-available basis.

ACCESS:

This will be a live, online class offered through Zoom. To participate, you may need to download the free, basic version of the Zoom app before the class! This class will not be recorded and is not available for later viewing.

Zoom now provides closed captioning, which will be available for this event.