Open Community Discussion Potluck San Jose

Connect with non monogamous community in the south bay over a shared potluck meal and conversation.

Come share stories, build connections, and meet new friends in a welcoming space centered on authentic, intentional, open-hearted relationships in community.

This community values consent, honesty, authenticity, vulnerability, kindness, acceptance, and accountability.

You don’t have to be dating, or practicing any particular relationship style — if these values resonate with you, you’re invited.

OPEN COMMUNITY GUIDELINES

By attending this event, you agree to read and abide by these community guidelines.

DIVERSITY 🌈

- Expect to encounter a variety of relationship styles, orientations, gender expressions, and life experiences.

-Comfort levels around touch, storytelling, and boundaries will vary.

-What we all have in common is an interest in cultivating intentional and authentic relationships.

-You are invited to be curious—ask questions, listen, learn, and share.

HOLDING SPACE FOR EACH OTHER 🤗

-You are invited — but not required — to hold space for others and for yourself.

-Holding space means letting people speak their truth and exist as they are, without assumptions, judgment, advice, or pressure to fix anything.

-Sometimes this is the only place where someone gets to simply be.

-You are invited to listen with presence and empathy.

CONSENT ✅

-A “yes” means yes. A “no,” silence, “maybe,” or hesitation means no.

-If you hear no, respect it without needing an explanation.

-A yes now doesn’t automatically mean a yes later — ongoing consent matters and can always change.

PHYSICAL CONSENT 🤝

-You may see hugging, cuddling, or kissing—and people saying yes to some and no to others.

-Always ask before entering someone’s personal space. For example: “Would you like a hug?” or “May I sit next to you?”

-If you want, you can offer alternative connections: “I’m no to a hug, but yes to a high five or handshake.”

CONVERSATIONAL CONSENT 💬

-Some people here are open to sharing everything, while others prefer to keep explicit or personal stories private.

-Please pause to ask the people around you before sharing explicit stories (sex, kink, BDSM) without consent.

CONFIDENTIALITY 🤫

-Everything shared in this group should be treated as confidential and private.

-Do not share stories that name others without their permission.

-Do not greet people outside this group in a way that could out them.

-Do not take or share photos/videos without the clear consent of everyone who would be photographed.

EVENT CONDUCT

-Kissing, cuddling, and flirting may happen — otherwise, this is a non-sexual space.

-Clothing stays on for the entire event.

-Exception: This venue has a hot tub where attendees may choose to wear a swimsuit or be nude. The hot tub is a non-sexual space for this event.

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TICKETS 🎟️

An Eventbrite ticket is required to attend

If cost would keep you from attending, see the NOTAFLOF policy at the bottom of the description.

RSVP ON PLURA

You are encouraged to also RSVP ON PLURA HERE. It’s not required, but it lets everyone know you’re attending, adds you to the event chat, and helps make connections.

REMINDER: Plura RSVP does not hold your spot — An eventbrite ticket is needed for each attendee.

LOCATION

This event is being hosted at a private residence in San Jose, CA. Address will be shared in the confirmation email.

Do not share the address without permission from a host. Direct all address requests to Rose.

HOST

Rose, Velvet

ACCESSIBILITY

This is a one story house. There are some steps to get into the house, and throughout the house. Not easy maneuvering for wheelchairs/walking assists.

PETS

There are cats that live here. Please medicate accordingly.

WHEN ARE THINGS HAPPENING?

There will be extra social time before discussion for this event!

Arrive on time for opening circle.

New attendees: Being present for your first opening circle is mandatory. If you realize you'll arrive after opening circle, please do not attend. Instead, ask for a refund on your ticket and plan on attending a future potluck.

Returning attendees: Aim to be on time to reduce disruption. If you will arrive late, please let a host or others know, and discreetly join a discussion group that looks like it has less people.

6:00 – 8:00 PM | Socializing & Potluck Dinner

8:00 – 8:15 PM | Opening Circle (Community Agreements & Topic)

8:15 – 9:15 PM | Small Group Discussions

9:15 – 9:30 PM | Closing Circle

9:30 - 10:00 PM | Freestyle Socializing

DISCUSSION TOPIC

TBA

POTLUCK FOOD

This is a dinnertime potluck—please bring food or drinks to share. Home-cooked or takeout is welcome. Gluten-free and low-sugar options are often appreciated, and wholesome, filling dishes are always a great choice.

Please write in the Plura chat what you will be bringing in the days before the event.

PARKING

Street parking available. Please do not park in driveway. Parking is usually available within a 5 - 10 minute walk.

DRINKING/SMOKING

Alcohol is BYOB and should be consumed responsibly and in moderation, as it is not the focus of the event. Cannabis is ok outside, away from other attendees. No tobacco smoking allowed on the property. No other drugs at this event.

DONATIONS

If you would like to support the organizer beyond the price of a ticket, here are two additional options:

1) Purchase a donation ticket for the amount of your choosing, instead of the default paid ticket. This ticket option counts as one admission ticket.

2) Click this link to buy me a coffee.

WAYS TO PAY (OR NOT PAY)

No one is ever turned away for lack of funds.

If the ticket price would keep you from attending — or you just don’t feel like paying this time — use the promo code FREE at checkout. No questions asked.

If you’d rather skip Eventbrite fees or pay in person, use the promo code CASH at checkout. You can then:

• Pay cash at the event (there’ll be a cash box set out)

• Scan the Venmo QR code at the event, or

• Send payment before the event via Venmo: @rosezeitler

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