Open Community Discussion Potluck San Jose 1/30/26

TICKETS GO LIVE JANUARY 6TH AT 7PM

DISCUSSION TOPIC: Let’s Talk About Sex, Baby!

(Safer Sex Conversations, Practices, & Acceptable Risk)

Come share stories, build connections, and meet new friends in a welcoming space centered on authentic, intentional, open-hearted relationships in community.

This community values consent, honesty, authenticity, vulnerability, kindness, acceptance, and accountability.

You don’t have to be dating, or practicing any particular relationship style — if these values resonate with you, you’re invited.

OPEN COMMUNITY GUIDELINES

By attending this event, you agree to read and abide by these community guidelines.

DIVERSITY 🌈

- Expect to encounter a variety of relationship styles, orientations, gender expressions, life experiences, as well as comfort levels around touch and boundaries.

HOLDING SPACE FOR EACH OTHER 🤗

-You are invited — but not required — to hold space for others and for yourself.

-Holding space means letting people speak their truth and exist as they are, without assumptions, judgment, advice, or pressure to fix anything.

PHYSICAL CONSENT / PDA 🤝

-You may see consensual hugging, cuddling, or kissing.

You may see people saying yes to some and no to others.

-Always ask before entering someone’s personal space. For example: “Would you like a hug?” or “May I sit next to you?”

CONSENT ✅

-A “yes” means yes. A “no,” silence, “maybe,” or hesitation means no.

-If you hear no, respect it and move on gracefully.

-A yes now doesn’t automatically mean a yes later — unless someone offers you blanket / ongoing consent, which they can still change their mind on later.

CONVERSATIONAL CONSENT 💬

-Some people here are open to sharing everything, while others prefer not to hear or share explicit details. When you are considering sharing explicit details (sex, kink, BDSM), first assess the people around you, and if you are not familiar with their comfort levels regarding explicit details, ask first before sharing.

CONFIDENTIALITY 🤫

-Everything shared in this group should be treated as confidential and private.

-Do not share stories that name others without their permission.

-Do not greet people outside this group in a way that could out them.

-Do not take or share photos/videos without the clear consent of everyone who would be photographed.

EVENT CONDUCT

-Kissing, cuddling, and flirting may happen — otherwise, this is a non-sexual space.

-Clothing stays on for the entire event.

-Exception: This venue has a hot tub available after discussion is officially over.

Attendees may choose to wear a swimsuit or be nude. The hot tub is a non-sexual space.

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TICKETS 🎟️

An Eventbrite ticket is required to attend

If cost would keep you from attending, see the "Ways to Pay or Not Pay" section at the bottom of the description for discounted or free options.

PLURA COMMUNITY

RSVP on Plura to let everyone know you’re attending, gain access to the event chat so you can share what you're bringing to potluck and get live updates, and make connections with other attendees.

REMINDER: Plura RSVP does not hold your spot — An eventbrite ticket is needed for each attendee.

Events are posted via Open Heart Gatherings, and the Open Community topic thread, as well as Eventbrite.

LOCATION

This event is being hosted at a private residence in San Jose, CA. Address will be shared in the confirmation email.

Do not share the address without permission from a host. Direct all address requests to Rose.

ACCESSIBILITY

This is a one story house. There are some steps to get into the house, and throughout the house. Not easily navigable for wheelchairs/walking assists.

PETS

There are no pets here, aside from the chickens out back, which are in a coop.

WHEN ARE THINGS HAPPENING?

Arrive on time for opening circle.

New attendees: Being present for your first opening circle is mandatory. If you realize you'll arrive after opening circle, please do not attend. Instead, ask for a refund on your ticket and plan on attending a future potluck.

Returning attendees: Aim to be on time to reduce disruption. If you will arrive late, please let a host or others know, and discreetly join a discussion group that looks like it has less people.

7:00 – 8:00 PM | Socializing & Potluck Dinner

8:00 – 8:15 PM | Opening Circle (Community Agreements & Topic)

8:15 – 9:15 PM | Small Group Discussions

9:15 – 9:30 PM | Closing Circle

9:30 - 10:00 PM | Freestyle Socializing

DISCUSSION TOPIC

Topic Option 1: Safer Sex Conversations, Practices, & Acceptable Risks

-When do you usually have a safer sex conversation with a new person? Early on, or at a certain emotional or sexual threshold?

-What does a safer sex conversation usually look like for you?

-What questions do you ask?

-What information feels important to ask or share in order for you to feel complete or settled after the conversation?

-What does “acceptable risk” mean to you when it comes to safer sex? How does your personal risk tolerance factor in?

-How do the risk profiles or choices of other partners factor into the conversations?

-What do you do when answers do not fully align? What if they are acceptable for you, but not aligned with the wants or needs of other partners?

Topic Option 2: Sharing your personal Rod Map (Emotional, Mental, Physical)

Sharing emotional and mental processes, ways that our brains and emotions work, trauma, better ways to communicate to avoid triggers and increase clarity

physical : How do you like to talk about your physical /sensual /sexual road maps?

Example for talking about your sensual touch road map

"this is what I really like, it'll make me go rawr in good way. and don’t touch me in this OTHER way cuz I may accidentally punch you in the face"

Is this something you do, or would like to be able to do? It's it easy, is it difficult? Is that anything a new partner can do to help ease this conversation?

POTLUCK FOOD

This is a dinnertime potluck—please bring food or drinks to share. Home-cooked or takeout is welcome. Gluten-free and low-sugar options are often appreciated, and wholesome, filling dishes are always a great choice.

Please write in the Plura chat what you will be bringing in the days before the event.

PARKING

Street parking available. Please do not park in the driveway or park so close to the driveway that you are blocking the driveway. Parking is usually available within a 5 minute walk.

DRINKING/SMOKING

No hard drugs at this event. Alcohol and Cannabis are OK, however keep in mind they are not the focus of this event, and should be enjoyed in moderation.

WAYS TO PAY (OR NOT PAY)

PROMO CODE options to enter at checkout

1) EPAY: Skip Eventbrite fees and pay an alternate way once ticket is confirmed.

Select the correct payment option when sending so that the app doesn't take a fee.

Paypal: Send to @Rosezeitler

Venmo: Send to @Rosezeitler

Apple Cash: Send to Rosezeitler@gmail.com

3) CASH: Hand off cash directly to Rose or the MC at the event

3) VOLUNTEER

50% Discounted promo codes are available for volunteers.

A limited quantity of 100% discount promo code are available for volunteer attendees with significant financial constraints.

Volunteer roles could include:

-Monitoring the event chat and notifying Rose if attention/response is needed

-Greeting and engaging with new attendees, guiding them as to where to put their personal items

-Managing the food table (Helping make food ingredient signs, consolidating food)

-Gathering and washing dishes

-Helping keep time for MC (Rose or whoever is facilitating)

-Staying for end of night tidying

Ask Rose for a Volunteer Promo code via email or DM the first time you want it, then use freely in future when you'll be volunteering.

4) MC/HOSTS: Free tickets for MC and Hosts.

Let Rose know if you have a partner co-hosting with you so they can get a free ticket.

5) FREE: use the promo code FREE at checkout. No questions asked, no volunteering needed. There is a limited quantity of these per event.