Open Community Discussion Potluck San Jose 5/22/26

Connect with non monogamous community in the south bay over a shared potluck meal and conversation.

Come share stories, build connections, and meet people in community who value consent, honesty, authenticity, vulnerability, kindness, and accountability. You don’t have to practice non-monogamy to attend—if these open hearted values resonate with you, you’re welcome to attend.

WHAT TO EXPECT

A mix of socializing, potluck, and small-group discussion about non-monogamy.

• While this event is not focused on touch or cuddling, it has become a regular aspect of these events. You can expect to see PDA between friends and partners, such as hugs, hand-holding, light kissing, and a range of light to full-body contact cuddling.
• Touch and conversation with other people is always optional—you are invited to observe if that's your preference. You don’t need to engage in order to belong here.

Many attendees are returning and already know each other. Most new attendees find these events become more comfortable by their 2nd or 3rd event.

COMMUNITY GUIDELINES

By attending this event, you agree to read and abide by these community guidelines.

Consent 🤝

• Ask before entering someone’s personal space. "Would you like a hug?" "Can I sit here next to you?"
• A yes once does not equal blanket consent all the time.
• Anything that is not a Yes is a No, including hesitation, silence, or No.
• You may see and experience people saying yes to some people and no to others

Physical Touch

• Consensual affection (hugging, cuddling, kissing) between attendees who are comfortable with each other is common.
• You may see or be invited into platonic touch. Participation is always optional, and saying no is as welcomed and respected as a yes.
• If you’re looking for spaces to build comfort with platonic touch and practice navigating boundaries, check out Autumn’s platonic touch workshops.

Conversation 💬

• This is not a kink/sex focused event
• Check before sharing explicit sexual/kink details
• Respect different comfort levels

Holding Space 🤗

• You are invited to hold space for others and for yourself.
• Holding space means letting people speak their truth and exist as they are, without assumptions, judgment, unsolicited advice, or pressure to fix anything.

Confidentiality 🤫

• Everything shared in this group should be treated as confidential and private.
• Do not share stories that name others without their permission.
• Do not greet people outside this group in a way that could out them.
• Do not take or share photos/videos without the clear consent of everyone involved.

Diversity 🌈

• Expect to encounter a variety of relationship styles, orientations, gender expressions, life experiences
• Comfort levels around touch, vulnerability, and boundaries will vary

CONNECTION & FEEDBACK

Want to keep in the loop about events with Open Community?

Send an email to OpenHeartedCommunity@gmail.com and request to be added to the open community email list.

This email can also be used to send feedback, suggestions, topic ideas, or offers to host or facilitate.

You can also follow us on Plura through Open Community events

Or join the Open Community Topic on Plura to chat with others from community

EVENT CONDUCT

• Non-sexual space (kissing/cuddling/flirting may occur)
• Clothes stay on at all times

Clothing Exception for this venue: Hot tub after closing circle is non-sexual and clothing optional. If you are outside after 10pm you may likely see nudity in the hot tub after.

SCHEDULE

New attendees: You are required to be on time for opening circle. If you realize you will be late for opening circle at your first event, please do not attend, and instead plan to attend a future event.

7:00–8:00 Socializing & Potluck

8:00–8:15 Opening Circle

8:15–9:15 Small Group Discussion

9:15–9:30 Closing Circle

9:30–10:00 Social Time

SMALL DISCUSSION GROUP DETAILS

• Attendees will be divided into small groups of 3–6 people for about 1 hour.
• Groups are conversation-focused around a shared topic.
• Some attendees may choose to sit close, hold hands, or cuddle with other consenting participants while talking.
• You’re welcome to listen, share, or simply be present. Participation in conversation or platonic touch is optional.
• If you came with a partner or support person, you can choose to be in the same group together or join different groups.
• To stay together in small group: Sit next to each other during opening circle and let the facilitator know when count off reaches you.

VENUE DETAILS

Facilitator: Brian

Location: Private home in South San Jose (exact location shared after obtaining eventbrite ticket in bottom of confirmation email)

Home Residents: Velvet & Maz

Parking: Street parking nearby

Accessibility: Single-story with some steps (not wheelchair-friendly, walker is doable)

Pets: None (chickens outside in coop)

POTLUCK 🍲

Bring food or drinks to share (home-cooked or takeout). On the day of the event, you are encouraged to share what you are bringing in the Plura event chat.

SUBSTANCES

• No hard drugs
• Alcohol & cannabis okay (in moderation)
• No cigarettes
• Smoke outside, away from others

TICKET OPTIONS

There are several types of tickets, and different options for how to obtain a ticket.

1) EPAY (Skip Eventbrite fees)

Use the EPAY promo code at checkout. Send payment after ticket confirmation.

$5 for volunteers, $15 for new & standard tickets, $20 for supporting tickets:

• Venmo (Preferred): @Rosezeitler
• Apple Cash: Rosezeitler@gmail.com
• PayPal: @Rosezeitler
• Select the correct payment option so your app doesn’t take or add fees. Note potluck and the event date.

2) CASH

Use the CASH promo code, then pay Rose directly at the event. This event will not be cash friendly as Rose will not be present.

VOLUNTEER

• A limited quantity of discounted volunteer tickets are available.

3) MC / HOSTS

• Free tickets for MCs and Hosts
• Let Rose know if you want to MC
• Let Rose know if you have a co-host (so they can also have a free ticket)

5) FREE

If the cost of a ticket would keep you from attending for any reason, use promo code HUGS at checkout for a free ticket.

No questions asked, no volunteering required.

#Nonmonogamy #Non-Monogamy #Polyamory #OpenRelationship #EthicalNonMonogamy #AlternativeLifestyle #Community #Nontraditional