Guilt, shame, and pressure push you to have sex before you're ready, but it frequently hurts.

YOU FEEL LIKE:

1. Something is wrong with you
2. Your sexuality is broken
3. You’re not normal but everyone else is having amazing sex
4. Your partner deserves to be happy and have sex
5. You're letting your partner down
6. You'd never have sex if you didn't force yourself to
7. You'd be happy without ever having sex again
8. You can't talk to anybody about this
9. You've tried sex toys, lube, and watching porn
10. Maybe life would be better if you opened up your relationship so your partner could have sex with people who can have sex without pain

BUT...

YOU FEEL BRAVE & CURIOUS, AND YOU WANT TO:

1. Keep your relationship and your partner
2. Be accepted exactly as you are
3. Feel normal
4. Experience compassion for what you're going through
5. Figure out your next steps

BECAUSE ULTIMATELY YOU WANT TO:

1. Experience pressure-free and pain-free sex
2. Want to want to have sex and feel desire again
3. Feel good about your body and sexuality
4. Maaaaybe even experience pleasure and multiple orgasms yourself

GATHER WITH OTHER WOMEN AND PEOPLE WITH VAGINAS TO:

1. SHARE and DISCUSS the realities of experiencing pain during sex
2. RECEIVE support and reflections on what's worked and what hasn't
3. BUILD a stronger culture of authentic expectations by hearing what's normal for you and others
4. Get ACTIONABLE ADVICE from a sex expert who won't judge or shame you

CAMERAS CAN BE ON OR OFF. TRAUMA INFORMED. GENDER NEUTRAL and INCLUSIVE LANGUAGE. INTERSECTIONAL. Please share your access needs.

HERE'S WHAT YOU CAN EXPECT:

>> 6:00 - 6:10 pm An introduction to Daniela and our call agreements and format

>> 6:10 - 6:20 pm Once around the group with an invitation to share your name and pronouns and experiences, topics, or questions you have

>> 6:20 - 6:45 pm Open conversation on what's been brought up, sharing as little or as much as you like

>> 6:45 - 6:55 pm Option for coaching and action steps to explore

>> 6:55 - 7:00 pm Recap and closing

ABOUT YOUR FACILITATOR:

Daniela (she/they) is a trauma-informed, certified Tantra Coach and Sex and Intimacy Coach for couples and individuals as well as a speaker and writer practicing somatic abolitionism and appropriated tantra.

Named one of the ten best Sex and Intimacy Coaches of 2023 by DatingAdvice.com, she supports couples and individuals to experience more sex and deeper connection with themselves and with their partner(s) without pushing before their body is ready, feeling weak, or performing.

With over twenty-four years of experience coaching people one-on-one and teaching in college classrooms and wellness spaces, she curates exercises and practices steeped in somatic attachment theory, neuroscience, embodied conflict resolution, trauma resolution, and modern psychology and inspired by ancient tantric and taoist wisdom.

Daniela is a queer cisgendered woman raced as white born in the Bay Area as well as a biological and transnational adoptive parent of three.

She lives and works as an uninvited guest on occupied Ohlone land that’s currently known as San Jose, California in the United States.

For her, nothing is more important than connection.

Website: DanielaStevens.com

Social Media: @danielastevensnow