Scene Survival Skills: Pain Processing Techniques with Mx Mayhem Mai

RSVP HERE: https://tinyurl.com/scenesurvival

Aside from being a kink educator and pro dom, Mayhem is also a switch, and can take impact as hard as they can throw it!

Mayhem is a lifestyle kinkster of 15+ years and has learned (the hard way) how to stay present while processing pain as the bottom. Many of these techniques apply to more than just impact: Mayhem also uses these skills to bottom for rope, sharps, and more.

Watch Mayhem describe pain processing techniques as they use them IN REAL TIME, while bottoming for a short, intense scene with a trusted stunt top.

After this demo, you’ll then have time to practice these new skills during the supervised open jam!

Kind of Class: Demo

Skill Level: Beginner

Prerequisites: No impact experience necessary. Consent and negotiation for impact play will not be covered. You can attend this class alone or with a partner.

Suggested materials: Notebook and pen for taking notes, impact toys, and play partner to practice during supervised demo (optional)

Workshop Logistics:

No partner required. The ticket cost covers the class, the impact jam + open dungeon time.

The Kink Store will be open for business, and we will have several impact devices available for purchase.

Impact Jam & Open Dungeon 9:30-11:30pm

You just learned the techniques. Now it's time to feel them.

Join us for a dedicated impact play session in one of San Francisco's most striking BDSM environments. This is a low-pressure, supervised space where bottoms can practice staying present, tops can apply attentive technique, and everyone has room to explore, debrief, and connect.

Whether you're picking up a flogger for the first time or deepening an established dynamic, you're in the right place. Come alone or with a partner.

THE SPACE

This event is hosted in a curated kink and BDSM environment adorned with original fine art paintings from iconic Kink.com productions. It's the kind of space that sets a mood. Dungeon furniture includes spanking benches, St. Andrew's crosses, cages, and more. Safer sex supplies are available throughout the event.

BRING YOUR TOYS

Please bring your own impact implements. Paddles, floggers, crops, canes, straps, whatever you love to play with. If you've been looking for the right excuse to pick up something new, The Kink Store will be open and stocked with a selection of impact toys available for purchase. This event just might introduce you to your next favorite.

WHAT'S IN SCOPE

This is an impact-focused event. Please note the following are not permitted in this space: whips, rope, and bondage of any kind. There will be no one present with the qualifications to oversee rope or bondage scenes, so please leave the rigging at home. We appreciate your cooperation in keeping the space safe for everyone.

This is a "play possible" jam, so please also bring anything else beyond impact toys that you would like to play with.

DETAILS

No prior experience required. You are welcome to attend alone or with a partner.

Consent and negotiation are your responsibility before entering any scene. Please ensure you are familiar with basic consent practices for impact play prior to playing.

COVID Safer Play Policy

We are committed to creating a space that is as safe and enjoyable as possible for our entire community, including those who are immunocompromised or at higher risk.

Masks: Masks are optional but warmly encouraged. We will have a limited supply of masks available at the door at no cost. First-come, first-served.

Testing: We strongly recommend testing before attending. PCR tests (also called NAATs) are considered the gold standard for COVID-19 detection and are our top recommendation. PCR tests are accurate nearly 99% of the time, compared to about 80% for rapid at-home antigen tests. If a PCR test isn't accessible to you, a rapid antigen test is still a meaningful harm-reduction step. If you have symptoms and test negative on a rapid test, follow up with a PCR or repeat the rapid test 48 hours later.

Testing is recommended, not required. We trust our community to make informed, considerate decisions.

Where to get tested for free in San Francisco:

• SF.gov Testing Locator — The most up-to-date resource for current free testing sites: sf.gov/find-out-about-your-covid-19-testing-options
• Tests at San Francisco-run sites are free. If you have health insurance, the City will bill your insurance. You should pay nothing out of pocket.
• Medi-Cal members can access up to 4 free tests each month.
• Most health insurance plans are required to cover 8 home tests per person per month. Check your insurer's website for pickup or reimbursement options.
• At-home rapid tests are available at most pharmacies (CVS, Walgreens, Safeway, etc.)

Please stay home if you are feeling sick, have tested positive in the last 10 days, or have had a known exposure in the last 5 days.

Thank you for helping keep our community safe and able to keep playing together. 🖤

About Mx Mayhem Mai:

Mx Mayhem Mai (they/them) is a queer, nonbinary/trans pro-dom and kink educator from San Francisco, specializing in predicament play, ambidextrous impact topping, and sensual sadism. A lifestyle kinkster of 15 years, Mayhem believes that kink can be for everyone, especially if you are also neurodivergent or have chronic pain like them! More at MxMayhemMai.com

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KINK STORE EVENT CODE OF CONDUCT - By purchasing your ticket(s), you agree to comply with the entire CoC:

Golden Rule

Treat one another with kindness and respect.

Consent

Consent is required for all touch and play at this event. It must be freely given, revocable, informed, engaged, and specific (FRIES).

• Never touch anyone without permission.
• Negotiate all scenes in advance. No up-negotiation during play.
• Do not assume anyone's presence implies availability.
• Do not join or interrupt a scene without invitation.
• If someone asks to be left alone, respect that immediately.
• Obtain explicit consent before photographing or involving others in your scenes.

Privacy and Discretion

What happens here stays here. Treat all information about attendees and activities as confidential. Do not "out" anyone regarding their identity, orientation, kinks, or attendance.

Community Care

Don't yuck someone's yum. This means respecting that others may have different kinks, interests, and ways of expressing themselves. What isn't your thing may be someone else's joy. Keep negative reactions, comments, or judgments about others' consensual interests to yourself. This is an LGBTQIA+ and BIPOC-inclusive space. Everyone is expected to show up with respect and care for others. We maintain a zero-tolerance policy for:

• Discrimination or bias based on race, gender, sexuality, disability, or body size.
• Harassment, intimidation, coercion, bullying, or unwanted advances.
• Non-consensual behavior of any kind.
• Misgendering, deadnaming, or invalidating anyone's identity.

Intoxicants & Altered States

Alcohol and intoxicants are not permitted. We recognize that substances affect capacity to consent, and we prioritize everyone's safety. If you appear unable to give or receive clear consent, a host may check in with you privately. Continued concern may result in being asked to pause play or step outside. This is never a punishment, but a community care measure. Our priority is keeping everyone safe and able to enjoy the space.

Health and Hygiene

• Please stay home if you are feeling sick or experiencing symptoms.
• Be scent-aware: avoid heavy perfumes, colognes, or strongly scented products.
• Be thoughtful and considerate of all bodily odors when attending and throughout events. Come prepared, as personal hygiene is your responsibility. If you need basic hygiene supplies, please ask a host.
• Respect others' disclosed allergies or sensitivities.

Respect the Space

Treat staff, hosts, and the venue with care and courtesy. Return any equipment to its proper place and report any damage or safety concerns to a host immediately.

• Wipe down any surfaces where fluid contact may have occurred.
• If you need cleaning or disinfecting supplies, please ask a host.

Scenes and Play

• Be mindful of those in active scenes or aftercare. Do not interrupt, crowd, or hover.
• Respect established play areas, furniture, and equipment; ask a host before using anything unfamiliar.
• Any play considered edge play must be disclosed in advance to event hosts. This includes rope suspension, any form of breath restriction, electrical play, and similar high-risk activities.
• Allow adequate space between scenes and bystanders.

Safewords

Agree on safewords before any play begins.

• "Red" or "Safeword" will immediately stop a scene. Alert hosts if necessary.
• "Yellow" (or equivalent) indicates a limit or request to reduce intensity.
• If verbal safewords are not possible, establish a clear nonverbal signal in advance. For example, three deliberate head shakes as a "no" signal, or dropping a held object.
• Honoring a safeword is non-negotiable. Ignoring one is a serious violation.

Safer Sex

• Communicate openly and honestly about STI status when relevant.
• Safer sex supplies will be available when needed.
• Respect others' safer sex boundaries and practices without question or pressure.

Safety Monitors & Dungeon Monitors

Dungeon Monitors (DMs) and hosts are here to support safety and consent. They have final say and may stop any scene. Please:

• Inform DMs or hosts in advance of any edge or atypical play.
• Follow their instructions promptly and without argument.
• Seek them out immediately if you witness any consent violation.
• Be patient; they may be attending to another matter.

Phones and Photography

No photography, video, or audio recording is permitted unless explicitly stated otherwise for a specific event. Keep your phone stored and screens dimmed in play areas. Violations of this policy are taken extremely seriously.

Aftercare

Aftercare is a vital part of responsible BDSM play. Check in with your play partners following a scene. Be mindful that aftercare needs vary; some may need space, others physical comfort, or time to decompress. Hosts may have a designated aftercare area or resources available. Please ask if you need support.

Newcomers & First-Timers

We welcome people who are new to events like this. If you're unsure about anything, ask a host. No question is too basic. We encourage experienced community members to be patient and welcoming mentors, not gatekeepers.

Concerns and Reporting

If you witness or experience a consent violation or safety concern, please speak with a host or event representative immediately. All reports will be handled with discretion and taken seriously. You will be believed and supported. You may also email dusty@kinkstore.com if you wish to remain anonymous. We are committed to accountability and learning.

Consequences for Violations

Violations of this code of conduct may result in:

• A verbal warning from a host or DM.
• Being asked to stop a scene or activity.
• Being asked to leave the event immediately.
• Being banned from future events.

Serious violations involving non-consent will result in immediate removal and may be reported to relevant community networks.

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Accessibility

We are committed to making Kink Store events as accessible and welcoming as possible.

The main floor entrance is wheelchair accessible. There is one step further into the space; a portable ramp is available upon request with advance notice. Please note that the upstairs loft area is not currently accessible to persons using wheelchairs or mobility devices. Both restrooms are ADA-compliant.

We welcome guests with all access needs and encourage you to reach out in advance so we can do our best to accommodate you. This includes communication access needs such as ASL or kink-friendly interpretation services, which typically require advance booking. Interpreters accompanying a guest are welcome at no additional charge in that capacity.

To request accommodations or ask about access, please contact us at events@kinkstore.com well in advance of the event.