Scene Survival Skills: Pain Processing Techniques with Mx Mayhem Mai

Aside from being a kink educator and pro dom, Mayhem is also a switch who can take it as hard as they can throw it! They’re a lifestyle kinkster of 10+ years and have learned (the hard way) several techniques to stay present and engaged in a scene. Learn how to remain connected with your scene partner while also riding the high/low waves of bottoming as a masochist. Many of these techniques apply to bottoming for more than just impact play: Mayhem also uses these skills to bottom for rope, sharps, and more.

1. Kind of Class: Demo
2. Skill Level: Beginner
3. Prerequisites: No impact experience necessary. Consent and negotiation for impact play will not be covered. You can attend this class alone or with a partner.
4. Required materials: None
5. Suggested materials: Notebook and pen for taking notes, impact toy and play partner to practice during supervised demo

Doors open at 6:30 PM

About the Instructor

Mx Mayhem Mai (they/them) is a queer, nonbinary pro-dom and educator from San Francisco. Known for their ambidextrous play style, Mayhem teaches a wide variety of kink topics, from beginner level games, to ergonomics of impact play to mitigate repetitive stress injury. Learn more at their website here.

Want more? Mx Mayhem Mai will be House Topping at CRAVE (21+)!

After the class, join us at CRAVE: A 21+ Hedonistic Celebration of Dance, Kink, and Sensuality, bought to you by BeforeDawn! Mx Mayhem Mai will be House Topping from impact play 10PM-11PM! Known for their iconic ambidextrous play style, sign up for a 10 minute impact tasting!

1. Please note: This class is 18+, but CRAVE Is a 21+ event.
2. SPECIAL DISCOUNT: Purchase tickets to the class and CRAVE for savings! You must be 21+ to purchase a Bundle Ticket.
3. COVID testing is required for entry to CRAVE, but not required for this class.

The Venue

This event will be held at Stopgap in San Francisco. The address will be provided to ticket holders for privacy and safety reasons. For planning purposes, it is in SOMA and a 10 minute walk from the UN Plaza/Civic Center BART station.

While a new venue in its current iteration, the building itself has a rich history in the kink community. The first floor has social spaces, lockers (bring your own lock or purchase a lock at the front desk), and two bathrooms. Descend into the 3100 square foot basement to enjoy historic equipment that many in the community may have enjoyed in days gone by plus some newer pieces from our collection. There will be crosses, benches, tables, bondage chairs, cages, and much more! Stopgap is not only located in an important place of kink history, it's a place of history in the making right now.

Entry

Presale tickets are recommended to save money and secure your spot. If you haven’t been to Stopgap before, you must buy a presale ticket to receive the venue address. If you have been to Stopgap before, you have the option of purchasing a ticket at the door.

The class is open to 18+. You must be 21+ to purchase a Bundle Ticket/attend the CRAVE play party

1. Pre-sale Class Ticket: $25
2. Door Ticket: $35
3. Pre-sale Bundle Ticket: $55 - includes entry to class and CRAVE
4. Door Bundle Ticket: $70 - includes entry to class and CRAVE

Ticket sales are final. Refunds are not available. Ticket transfers may be accommodated on a case-by-case basis & may incur a $5 transfer fee per ticket. Please email us at praxium@afterdark-sf.com

Inclusivity & Safety:

1. We warmly invite and encourage individuals of all ages, races, ethnicities, gender identities, sexual orientations, and abilities to attend our event. We are committed to creating an inclusive and welcoming environment where everyone can feel safe, respected, and celebrated. Your unique identity and experiences enrich our community, and we look forward to sharing this special experience with you.
2. Consent and respectful behavior required. Read the event rules and consent guidelines

About Praxium

Praxium is a center for kink and sex-positive education, dedicated to building community and expanding knowledge. We honor the rich traditions of the queer leather and kink communities while striving to create a more inclusive, consent-driven culture.

We provide high-quality education - both foundational and advanced - that empowers individuals to explore, play, and connect with confidence and agency. We believe in fostering spaces that support learning, curiosity, and personal growth.

Whether you're new to kink or a seasoned player, Praxium offers opportunities to expand your knowledge, refine your skills, and engage with a thriving community. Reach out to learn more about our classes or how to collaborate with us by emailing us at praxium@afterdark-sf.com