Real Talk: Conversations on D/s, M/s, & Power Exchange

Put aside your misconceptions, myths, and fantasies and join us for some Real Talk centering power exchange and control. Are you curious about dominance & submission, Owner/property dynamics, and power exchange in general? Our panel will consist of kinksters ranging from dominants, masters, daddies, subs & switches discussing their lived experience with power exchange. The questions will focus on power exchange outside of the bedroom.

What does it look like to live this 24/7? Is 24/7 the only way to do this? What does it look like to live this long distance or as a live in dynamic? What does it mean to be collared?

Bring your curiosity and get an inside look on how others live a power exchange lifestyle as realistically as possible.

Want to attend this Panel and the Power Exchange Mixer on the 19th? Grab a package ticket to both!

Together we'll discover what it means to lead or serve within a poly or monogamous relationship structure and the highs and lows that come from engaging within the beautiful container of rules, rituals, protocol, & more.

About the Panelists

KoolWise (he/him) began exploring kink in the 1990s, though his path took a few unconventional turns before truly taking shape. His curiosity deepened into active discovery in 2016, when he began visiting a professional Domme. In 2023, he met his current Domme, Goddess Coko, who introduced him to the broader organized kink and BDSM community—and with whom he has since shared a fulfilling D/s relationship for the past three years. Through this connection, he continues to find meaning, growth, and a deeper sense of purpose.

Master Kaddan Yue, Northeast LeatherWoman 2020–2021, is a founding member of ONYX Pearls NY/Northeast and currently serves as Co-Pledge Master. She brings more than 40 years of lived lifestyle experience to Her work in education, mentorship, and community outreach. After spending Her first seven years in the lifestyle training from the bottom up, She now stands as the third generation of the houses lineage.

Master Kaddan specializes in long-distance power exchange dynamics and intentional outreach. She identifies as a Transient Transgender woman with strong masculine energy, maintains a masculine presentation, and uses the honorific Sir. Her primary love centers on feminine lesbians. She currently leads and owns The House of Yue, a structured household comprised of trainees, slaves, and property who reside outside of the NYC Metro area.

Christina (she/her) has been part of the kink community for many years and brings a thoughtful perspective to conversations about kink and power exchange dynamics. Much of that perspective comes from personal experience navigating long-term dynamics and the ongoing work of building trust, communication, and accountability within them. Her passion for understanding human behavior and the ways people grow and evolve—shaped by her professional experience—also influences much of what she does.

She’s known for being direct, reflective, and comfortable speaking about the realities of D/s from the submissive side of the slash. She currently serves on the board of LILNR (Long Island Leather N Roses), a volunteer-run nonprofit dedicated to accessible kink education and community on Long Island.

Tina (she/her) entered the kink scene as a spanko in early 2018, initially exploring as a top-leaning switch. It wasn’t until 2023, when she met her current Domme, that she fully stepped into a committed D/s dynamic. Since then, she has been deeply focused on learning what submission means and understanding the nuances of service, trust, and consent.

This first dynamic has been transformative and also a huge learning curve for her, as someone who is not naturally submissive. She's learned to focus on the quieter, everyday aspects of power exchange, discovering that attentiveness, care, and thoughtful service can deepen connection and foster personal growth.

Tira (they/she) began dating her Sir in April 2025 (via OKCupid). Initially their relationship was D/s; after six months she was introduced to M/s and attended her first “Masters And slaves Together” (MAsT) meeting. Despite initial reservations and misunderstandings, Tira is embracing the lifestyle and, together with her Sir, is building an authority‑based dynamic rooted in their committed partnership. Their current dynamic includes only a few protocols and rituals, allowing Tira to continue exploring the lifestyle and gradually increase her level of service. She has found a supportive home within the M/s community and volunteers there regularly. When she is not in service, Tira enjoys playing video games and Magic: The Gathering.

For nearly twenty years, Daddy Sage (he/him) has been a driving force in the leather community. Volunteering, speaking and educating at multiple events around the world. He served as the past president of ONYX New York Northeast for the past four years, he leads an organization dedicated to supporting Black and people of color as they explore, learn,

and embrace their desires within the kink, Leather, and BDSM realms. His distinctive flagging of hunter green, blue, fuschia, and gray reflects his identity and journey. Yet, beyond the symbols lies a steadfast mission—to uplift the BlPOC community through unwavering spirit, resilience, and genuine kindness. Daddy Sage's legacy serves as a beacon, casting light on a path toward progress and empowerment.