Repairing Ruptures in Relationships

Want to know how to resolve conflict and feel closer after? Miscommunications are common, boundaries get crossed, and hurt feelings happen - but they don’t have to end in disconnection. All relationships have their challenges, and repair work is essential for building trust, deepening intimacy, and maintaining thriving connections.

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In this experiential workshop you will:

• Receive a clear formula for repair conversations that will teach you when and how to do it effectively.
• Practice courageous vulnerability and heartfelt empathy — necessary ingredients for connection.
• Expand your capacity to be with challenging feelings and learn how to express them in a way that creates closeness.
• Discover how sharing disappointment can strengthen your bond.
• Learn how to effectively hold space for others emotions, take responsibility when appropriate, and offer genuine reassurances.

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Successful repair conversations allow for you to feel closer than ever before as you gain confidence in your ability to withstand inevitable relational challenges.

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Can’t attend in-person or on these dates? Rent the on-demand version!

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Reviews

“This class enabled my partner and I to level up our communication in ways we never anticipated! We deeply enjoy Dr. Aly’s classes, but this one changed our relationship dramatically. At last, we have language around how to deal with our conflicts, to drop into the moment, and to help each other feel deeply seen and loved.” - S.W.

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“Dr. Aly’s repair workshop was excellent. She teaches a template to have a difficult conversation and keep it on track even when emotions are flying. The class was a good mix of talk time and experiential time, and we got to interact with others in the class in a safe environment!” - J.D.

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“What I learned has been incredibly useful in helping me to navigate difficult conversations. I found the information, the tips and the opportunity to practice so helpful. I have definitely noticed a difference in how I react and respond, and it has been incredibly powerful.” -R.C.

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Instructor Bio

Dr. Alison Ash, aka Dr. Aly, is a trauma-informed intimacy coach and educator, Stanford University Lecturer, author, and founder of TurnON.love. As a sociologist with a PhD from Stanford, she has a comprehensive understanding of the complex societal challenges that often lead to unsatisfying and disempowering intimate experiences. She has helped pioneer research into the orgasm gap and has written on topics ranging from pleasure in heterosexual dynamics to queer and trans identities and experiences. She also draws on her extensive training in the Hakomi Mindful Somatic Psychotherapy, Innate Somatic Intelligence Trauma Therapy Approach, and Somatica Method of sex and intimacy coaching to support her clients to radically explore and courageously express themselves. Dr. Aly designs workshops, courses, and retreats and offers individuals and couples coaching to give others the tools to be able to cultivate and sustain nourishing emotional and sexual intimacy. She invites you to TurnON pleasure, intimacy and love at www.TurnON.love and on Instagram and Facebook.

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Important Information

* Tickets are not refundable. They may be transferred to another individual but not to a future event.

* I offer one volunteer ticket per event, and while I appreciate those that love to be of service, I ask that you save this opportunity for those who require financial assistance to be able to attend. You may also apply for a sliding scale ticket.

* Please take an at-home antigen test on the day of the workshop and take a photo of your results. Tests can also be purchased at the door for $10. If you are feeling unwell or develop symptoms, please stay home. Masks will be optional.

* I welcome folks of all genders, sexual orientations, relationship structures, ages, body types, abilities, races, and ethnicities.

* This venue is partially accessible. The workshop space is wheelchair accessible, but the bathrooms are not. There is a gender inclusive bathroom on site.

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Other Upcoming TurnON.love events

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The Secrets of Passion, Romance, and Dominance

April 2nd, 7:00-9:30pm PST, Oakland

Discover how to use both words and touch to create passionate, romantic, and dominant sexual encounters! Master romantic affirmations, passionate dirty talk, and dominant commands. Explore how to seduce with a wide array of tantalizing and exhilarating touch techniques. Learn how to make your lover surrender by spanking, hair pulling, and pinning them against the wall. You'll leave feeling more confident how fulfilling it can be to have more variety in your sex life and make their fantasies come true!

Free: Ask the Sexperts

April 9th, 7-8pm PST, Online

In this hour-long free event, get answer to questions related to how to cultivate greater sexual and emotional intimacy. Possible topics include feeling more confident dating; getting the spark back and mitigating differences in libido or desire; dealing with anxieties, shame, pressure and getting stuck in your head; navigating the stress of work and parenting on relationships; addressing bickering and fighting; sharing wants, needs, and boundaries; cultivating more foreplay and exploring new desires, fantasies, and toys; increasing your capacities to give and receive pleasure; exploring ENM; and navigating intimacy as someone who is neurodivergent or partnered with someone who is. 

Sustainable Intimacy: Reignite the Flame for the Long Game

April 21st and 28th, 1:00-6pm PST, Oakland

Also available as an on-demand rental

Struggling with different libidos, relating to sex like it’s a chore, and feeling rejection and resentment are just some of the challenges couples in long-term relationships face. When intimacy gets stagnant it can be hard to find ways to reconnect sexually that feel genuine and pleasurable.

In this 2 day course, you will:

• Uncover the various libido blockers that get in the way of your turn on, pleasure, and intimacy and receive the tools and skills that will help you overcome them together.
• Learn how to get out of the anxious-avoidant dynamic, cohabitator-coparent roles, and the pressure-rejection cycle and effectively explore feelings, needs, and desires.
• Explore how to make tailor-made verbal, physical, and romantic bids for intimacy that will allow you to successfully woo your partner.
• Discover how to create fun and exciting intimacy dates with a menu of ways to connect authentically and without pressure by attuning to the rightness of the moment.
• Acquire an array of practices that will support you to rediscover your desire and increase your capacity for giving and receiving pleasure.

You'll receive the 35 page Sustainable Intimacy booklet that will enable you to identify your specific intimacy blockers, engage in self-reflection exercises, and record the specific practices that will empower you to continue to nurture your intimacy. Rather than giving you a momentary boost of passion, we will provide you all the tools you need to create a sustainable and personalized path to lasting intimacy for the long run.

The Ins and Outs of Play Parties

May 8th, 7-9:00, Oakland

Sex parties, aka play parties, are a provocative way to explore your sexuality and relationships, experiment with different fantasies or desires, and discover new aspects of yourself. They offer an empowering opportunity to challenge societal taboos while connecting with others who also question the status quo. However, without the proper preparation, play parties can also feel intimidating and intense. Whether flying solo or with a partner, learn how to feel confident navigating play parties and maximize your ability to experience pleasure and fun!