Safety in the Shadows: Kink vs Toxicity in Dark Dynamics - with Vahavta - ­čîŹONLINE

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Class Description

Concepts such as consensual non-consent (CNC), degradation, humiliation, and the intentional imitation of abuse cycles are all valid ways to express power exchange and kink. They can also quickly blur the lines between "healthy" and "unhealthy." 

Through the sharing of stories, research, strategies, and communication tools, participants will be empowered to navigate these complex relationships and discern between dark dynamics and toxic behavior. 

We will emphasize the significance of communication, active listening, understanding, boundaries, and care within darker elements of total power exchange (TPE) and discuss preventive measures to minimize the risk of harm, along with ways to course-correct if an unhealthy dynamic is identified.


### NOTE: This class is NOT being recorded and will not be available for later viewing


About the presenter:

vahavta began her kink journey about a decade ago and has been grateful to get to teach, play, and learn in communities in North Carolina, Chicago, St. Louis, and Israel along the way. Today, she serves her husband in a 24/7 CNC-based Total Power Exchange with heavy elements of emotional play and service and is often found sporting large bruises, writing, or enjoying a good beer. vahavta is disabled, Jewish, and femme, and believes in approaching kink with a firm understanding of intersectional context. As an educator, she aims to give honest and risk-aware information that applies to the realities of human behavior, focusing largely on the "how" and asking people to consider their personal capabilities, interests, and readiness. Passionate about community collaboration, vahavta is proud to run the Risk Evaluation Database (RED) and contribute regularly to kink blogs and her own Fetlife writing index. In all aspects of her life, she strives to be a work in progress.



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No nudity on screen is allowed during the event. There may be nudity from the side of the presenters as part of a live demo or as part of slides in order to enhance the educational experience of the class.

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