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SBQT (South Bay Queer & Trans) Munch

Are you queer or trans and looking to explore kink? Or are you kinky and looking to explore queerness or gender?

Join us at the SBQT (South Bay Queer & Trans) Munch — A monthly social for queer, trans, and kinky folks! 🏳️‍🌈💙🤍❤️🖤

The SBQT Munch aim to create a safer & more accessible space for the QT & kinky community in the South Bay, and we’d love for you to be a part of it! At our munches, you'll find…

  • Your fellow QT & kinky folks
  • Snacks, water & fidget toys to keep your brain nurtured & stimulated
  • Opening circle offering the opportunity for group introductions, accessibility needs, ISOs*
  • Closing circle with the opportunity for group reflections and feedback
  • Optional workshop or open play space (varies each month) following the munch**

*ISO = “in search of” For example: ISO friends to go to events with, ISO partners to do certain kinds of play with, ISO people of certain kink identities/roles

This month’s SBQT munch will be followed by Sensually Stingy: Tools for building connection through the pain w/ @Callme_Z ... An impact workshop focused on stingy toys like canes, quirts, and whips, blending pain with sensual intimacy through intentional touches & pacing, trust building, and pain processing technique.

Event Details & Schedule

Date: 19 Jan 2024 (Sunday)

Time: 12pm - 2pm

Location: Fill out this Google form to receive event details.

This is a FREE event, and is facilitated by our amazing volunteer @DimpleDorian

While donations to our group are optional, they are recommended and greatly appreciated. All contributions go towards running this event and compensating the facilitator.

You may join & leave anytime during the event!

12pm: Event Starts. Opening Circle.

1:45pm: Closing Circle

2pm: Event concludes

2:30pm - 4:30pm: Option to join us at Sensually Stingy: Tools for building connection through the pain w/ @Callme_Z ... An impact workshop focused on stingy toys like canes, quirts, and whips, blending pain with sensual intimacy through intentional touches & pacing, trust building, and pain processing technique.

Accessibility

The space is wheelchair accessible with a ramp and offers various seating options, including chairs around tables and picnic blanket seating.

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If you can’t make it to this event but are interested in future ones, please fill out this form.

House Rule

Any violation of the rules might result in a hard ban from our future events. We might also share the incident report with other kink groups, especially In cases of intentional consent violations or serious rule breaches.

  1. Consent matters. Always ask for consent before touching anyone (including handshake/social hugs), their belongings or their food.
  2. Don't make assumptions about anyone’s gender, sexuality, or kink preferences. Allow people to self-identify on their own terms.
  3. Remember: People don’t need to “prove” their identity by being visibly queer or passing.
  4. Respect other’s identity and pronouns. Always ask for and use the correct pronouns and names.
  5. If you accidentally misgender someone, simply correct yourself and continue the conversation without drawing unnecessary attention. If needed, you may apologize or check in with them afterward to ensure they’re okay.
  6. There is zero tolerance for hate speech. Any form of discrimination, including racism, homophobia, transphobia, ableism, or body shaming, will not be tolerated.
  7. Everyone shares at their own comfort level. Do not pressure anyone into discussing their identity, kink preferences, or personal experiences. Don’t ask the same question twice.
  8. Please ask for consent before sharing potentially triggering topics, such as abuse or self-harm, with those involved in the conversation. Avoid graphic details when sharing traumatic experience(s), as it may re-traumatize yourself and/or trigger others.
  9. Cruising is not allowed, i.e. You may find connections through this space, but please don't approach others solely to suggest sexual or play relations. Take time to get to know someone as a person before initiating play or intimacy.
  10. Respect that others have differing opinions and a right to express their thoughts. Stay curious and ask questions. Don’t try to convince them to change; instead, try to understand their beliefs.
  11. If you can’t reach a point of understanding or don’t feel a disagreement is worthwhile pursuing, a phrase you can use to end the conversation is, “Let’s agree to disagree.” If someone says this, please respect it and move on.

Our Hosts are here to help if you feel uncomfortable or in need of any assistance.

Any questions? DM @Nocturnal_Events

Or email hello@madebymooooo.com

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