Spank Jam - Spanksgiving

An AfterDark Impact Workshop Presented by NyxieNoc

Going home for the holidays can be stressful, so before you pack your bags for turkey time, come join your chosen family for a little gratitude, giggling, and good old-fashioned spanking fun.

This month’s SpankJam is a shorter, lighthearted class before the Spanksgiving Party, hosted on Wednesday November 26. We’ll warm up with some seasonal silliness, explore Thanksgiving-themed pervertables, and share ideas for playful impact scenes using household items that might already be in your kitchen.

Bring a pervertable that fits the theme. Think spatulas, rolling pins, or anything else that screams “ridiculous holiday chaos” and get ready for a joyful start to the festivities.

Come join us for the afterparty starting at 8PM!

Back in pre-covid times we used to throw Spanksgiving parties at the Citadel to warmly ease in the holiday weekend. Now we're going to restart the tradition at San Francisco's new favorite dungeon - Stopgap - by again hosting a fun and sexy kink party the night before Thanksgiving Day. All kinksters are welcome. Our inclusive, pansexual play party is open to all genders and orientations.

We'd love to see you all so join us for Spanksgiving at Stopgap; for delicious food; for great raffle prizes; for opportunities to make new connections; and a whole lot of hot fun on a cold November night. While the name of the party is indeed Spanksgiving, you don't have to limit yourself to just impact play. All kinds of kinky play is allowed and encouraged (within venue rules). Welcome the holiday with your community. Chances are it's going to be more fun than hanging with your family!

So yes Spanksgiving is back at Stopgap -the night-before-Thanksgiving play party for everyone. Pansexual, inclusive, all genders welcome. Impact, bondage, sensation - if it’s within venue rules, bring it. Skip the small talk, start the sparks: food, raffle prizes, new connections, and a hot dungeon to warm up the holiday.

For more details about the party, see our separate Spanksgiving at Stopgap listing!

Where:

Stopgap, San Francisco, CA - The exact venue address will be sent to ticket holders only for privacy and safety reasons, but it is in SoMa. For planning purposes it is a 10 minute walk from the UN Plaza/Civic Center BART station.

Stopgap is San Francisco’s premier venue for impact play - steeped in history and beloved by the kink community. The first floor offers lockers, two bathrooms, social areas, and play spaces. Below, the 3,100-square-foot basement is filled with iconic equipment, including crosses, benches, bondage chairs, and cages. Many pieces were recovered from the Citadel’s lost storage unit and hold a special place in the hearts of longtime community members. With its historic charm and ample space, Stopgap is the perfect impactful environment for creating memorable experiences.

Tickets:

Presale tickets are strongly recommended to secure a spot and to save money. Get yours before they are all snapped up!

1. Combo (both Spank Jam and Party): $45 (presale), $60 (door)
2. Spank Jam Only (6PM-8PM): $20 (presale), $30 (door)
3. Party Only (8PM-1AM): $35 (presale), $45 (door)

No Refunds. All sales are Final.

About the Instructor

NyxieNoc is a multitalented Domme with decades of experience as a sex worker, fetish content producer, and kink, consent & advocacy educator. She loves the connection and container play creates, appreciating the difference in every dynamic and scene.

Driven by the freedom of expression found within kink, Nyxie is passionate about creating safer dynamics, play spaces, and scenes for a more inclusive and supportive community.

Nyxie consults with a variety of organizations, both kinky and vanilla. Through detailed workshops, demonstrations, and one-on-one coaching, Nyxie strives to shape a future wherein exploration and expression are embraced, celebrated, and protected through the continued practices of equity, accountability, education, and harm reduction.

About Praxium

Praxium is a center for kink and sex-positive education, dedicated to building community and expanding knowledge. We honor the rich traditions of the queer leather and kink communities while striving to create a more inclusive, consent-driven culture.

We provide high-quality education - both foundational and advanced - that empowers individuals to explore, play, and connect with confidence and agency. We believe in fostering spaces that support learning, curiosity, and personal growth.

Whether you're new to kink or a seasoned player, Praxium offers opportunities to expand your knowledge, refine your skills, and engage with a thriving community. Reach out to learn more about our classes or how to collaborate with us by emailing us at praxium@afterdark-sf.com