Squeeze: Femme Rope Social & Jam (May)

Squeeze is open exclusively to femme and sapphic folks.

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Hosted by IguanaBonds, Kelpnoodles, Rizz, and Bugbight

This month at Squeeze, we're turning the rope inward. Our skillshare will be focused on self tying, led by @kelpnoodles and @bugbight.

Self tying is a practice that invites a different set of questions than partner tying. Not just how do I tie, but why? What am I looking for in this moment: grounding, sensation, containment, something else entirely? We'll open with a brief facilitated discussion around building intention and mindfulness in self tying, then move into some simple exercises that folks of all experience levels can use to start or deepen their own practice. No prior self tying experience needed.

As always, participation in the skillshare is optional. Those who prefer to head straight to open tying time are welcome to do so.

Doors are open during the social hour, from 6:30 PM to 7:30. Play space opens at 7:30pm. Doors close at 8:30, no late entry.

About Squeeze

Squeeze is a rope jam and social for femme or sapphic-identifying individuals to share space, mingle, tie, and embrace the femme identity as a community.

Who is Squeeze for?

Squeeze is by femmes, for femmes. We center and embrace femme identities in all forms, regardless of presentation or sexuality. If you identify with the term femme or sapphic in any way, you belong here. If you are trans, nonbinary, or genderfluid and identify with the term femme or sapphic YOU BELONG HERE. If you are questioning and curious YOU BELONG HERE. We will never police this space based on gender expression. We ask that attendees embrace the intention of a femme space and come to experience that energy.

What is the vibe of a Squeeze jam?

At Squeeze, we aim to prioritize socializing and community building. We encourage those who just want to be in a femme environment to attend, even without an intent to tie. If you have plans and just want to tie, we also love to see that. This a space to tie and connect with other femme or sapphic-identifying folk. Please note that sexual play and forms of play that are not centered in rope are not welcome at this event currently.

What is the structure of a Squeeze jam?

At Squeeze, we prioritize the community and social aspect of our identities and rope, not just the tying. We begin each Squeeze with a social hour where everyone can chat, have a snack, and meet other attendees. From there, we will have an optional opening circle to go over event rules and intention-setting, followed by a facilitated discussion or beginner-friendly skillshare and open tying space.

Our typical schedule:

• 6:30-7:30 Doors open; social hour. No play allowed during this time.
• 7:30-8:30 (Optional) Opening Circle; Discussion or Skillshare. Doors close at 8:30.
• 7:30-10 Open tying time; open socializing time.

Venue & Accessibility

This event will be held at Stopgap in San Francisco. The address will be provided to ticket holders for privacy and safety reasons. For planning purposes, it is in SOMA and a 10 minute walk from the UN Plaza/Civic Center BART station.

Stopgap is a historic space in the SF kink community, near 9th and Mission, transformed by club lighting and an ambient music backdrop, this event promises an atmosphere where you can relax, learn, and play freely. The venue consists of a ground floor and basement; the basement is only accessible via stairs and has ample space and mats for floor ties and at least 14 hardpoints for those ready to practice suspension bondage.

The ground floor is accessible with two accessible bathrooms, lockers, and a social space. The social hour, opening circle, and discussion/skillshare will be hosted on the ground floor, and mats will be made available there for floor ties. A suspension rig can be set up on the ground floor for those with mobility needs by advance request. Please reach out by email to info@afterdark-events.com.

Event Rules & Guidelines

• Ask for affirmative consent before touching another person or their things, engaging in play, or escalation of play.
• Don’t cruise for play. Emphasize socializing, skill sharing, and learning.
• Depending on the number of attendees, available play spaces may be limited. Be prepared to wait or get creative with your playspace.
• Clean your play spaces after using them.
• This is a sensual, not sexual space. Penetration with toys, fingers or other body parts, vigorous genital touch, and oral sex are not allowed. We ask that you play with the intention of centering your community and rope practice, managing your energy in scene and not disrupting other scenes. Keep scene volume below the volume of the music.
• While other forms of kink furniture may be present, Squeeze is a rope jam specifically; please respect that intention. Feel free to explore rope and other activities together however!
• Photography of your own scenes are permitted with the consent of everyone in the photo and prior discussion will be done with them (posting, tagging, etc.).
• Breathplay is not allowed. Additionally, please read our AfterDark & Stopgap Neck Rope Definition Announcement.

The rules and guidelines are in addition to the general AfterDark Events rules/guidelines found here.

Venue & Accessibility

This event will be held at Stopgap in San Francisco. The address will be provided to ticket holders for privacy and safety reasons. For planning purposes, it is in SOMA and a 10 minute walk from the UN Plaza/Civic Center BART station.

Stopgap is a historic space in the SF kink community, near 9th and Mission, transformed by club lighting and an ambient music backdrop, this event promises an atmosphere where you can relax, learn, and play freely. The venue consists of a ground floor and basement; the basement is only accessible via stairs and has ample space and mats for floor ties and at least 14 hardpoints for those ready to practice suspension bondage.

The ground floor is accessible with two accessible bathrooms, lockers, and a social space. The social hour, opening circle, and discussion/skillshare will be hosted on the ground floor, and mats will be made available there for floor ties. A suspension rig can be set up on the ground floor for those with mobility needs by advance request. Please reach out by email to info@afterdark-events.com.

Entry

• Doors open at 6:30PM. Doors close at 8:30PM and there will be no late entry so please arrive early and plan accordingly.
• Advance tickets are recommended to save money and secure your spot.
• Community Angel Tickets contribute to affordable kink education for those who need it. These tickets help keep classes affordable and help fund Financial Access Tickets to those in need. Please consider supporting our community if you are able.
• We have a limited number of financial access tickets available. If you are in need of a financial access ticket, please email us at info@afterdark-events.com
• Ticket sales are final. Refunds are not available.

Inclusivity

While we are an event only open to femme and sapphic identified individuals, Squeeze is an inclusive celebration where people of different ages, races, ethnicities, gender expressions, gender identities, sexualities, and abilities hold space together. We expect all guests to honor the diversity of our community and we will not tolerate behavior or language to the contrary at our events.

About the Hosts

@IguanaBonds (she/her) is a rope switch who supports SQUEEZE through volunteering while constantly building her skills as a top and bottom, laughing through suffering ties, and fangirling over fat people in rope. She identifies as equal part lizard sprawled on a rock in the sun and Team Mom. She’s been studying rope since early 2023 and is also a host of Wrapt, another AfterDark rope jam held on fourth Mondays.

@kelpnoodles (she/her) is a queer rope switch and self-suspender with a fondness for the bite of rope and the trouble it gets her into. She’s a masochist at heart and likes exploring intensity, vulnerability, and the occasional test of endurance in her play. When she’s not in rope, she’s probably getting tattooed or co-hosting Praxium’s monthly Sharps Jam.

@Rizz (she/they) is a switchy rope brat, though you’d be forgiven for thinking she’s a bottom. She started her journey with rope mid-2023 and has been serving as the Society of Janus Social Activities director since early 2024. Beyond SQUEEZE, you can find her hosting Ignite at Stopgap every second Saturday and helping out with a variety of other events.

@bugbight (they/them) began their relationship with rope in 2022, but it was not love at first tie. These days, they’re a rope switch with a consuming infatuation for suffering, all things rope, and playful torment. They hope to offer resources they wish they’d had when starting out, and to foster our queer community. Outside of kink, they’re a crafty, planty gremlin with a soft spot for cats.