[Cancelled] Sober Speed Dating Adventure! - PDX

You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take. And since this is a substance-free event, give it your best shot at sober speed dating!

in us at our stunning, quaint venue overlooking the Willamette River! We have 7 unique zones & 15 exciting activities to engage in to build new connections all at one venue!

## We’ll draw a straight-edge from you to your partners to give you the best chance to make a match, mingle, meet new people, and form genuine friendships. 

We’re not here to sedate you, but instead to have some exciting fun together. This event is all about building relationships and creating a supportive network. You may just get addicted to our events and want to party all the time. Even though you’re not imbibing, you can still indulge in the fun, conversations and activities. 

You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take. And since this is a substance-free event, give it your best shot at sober speed dating. You are welcome to abstain, but we encourage you to get involved and have a good time. You do not have to be in recovery to attend; but our aim is that it’ll be a stimulating experience. Bring your “dry” humor and make your dates laugh.

Feel free to reach out to our organizer, Lady Vivus, with any questions or suggestions you may have. We value your input and want to create an event that resonates with our participants.

*Open mingling includes free snacks, a non-sexual cuddle space, & $5 all-you-can-drink mocktails!*

Sober Speed Dating Itinerary

12 pm: Raise the Bar- (Doors Open)

12:15 pm - 12:30 pm: No Crutches, Just The Steps- (Event Instructions)

12:30-2:30: Multiple rounds - (Facilitated Speed Dating)

2:30 - 4: Clean Scene - (Open Mingling)

How Does the Rotation Work?

Each date is 8 minutes with 2 minutes between rounds; that's 15 dates for our facilitated speed dating. During the open mingle, you may meet the other potential dates, try new date locations, or visit your favorite location/person again! 

Are you Gender Balancing this Event? 

This event is geared at pansexual & gender expansive folks, so there will be a variety of genders in your personal experience. This means connections of all queer and straight varieties are possible! (If you're only interested in dating one gender type person, this event is not for you.)

About the Venue:

Hearth & Soul is located in North Portland; there is one stair to get into the house & a beautiful, black cat on site. 

Outfit Recommendations: 

We recommend comfortable inside & outside to wear! Wear what makes you feel your best, but please cover your bits.

Who Can Attend?

The craving for human connection has been powerful in recent years post-pandemic, and we wanted to create a hub for you all to spark that initial connection. All genders, sexualities, gender expressions, relationship styles, etc., are encouraged to attend. We support and promote all LGBTQ+ identities, trans, gender expansive, BIPOC, kinky, and relationship expansive or mono folks.

About your hosts:

Jamie (aka Gwynny) 

Jamie is the executive director of Sex Positive Portland; she has been hosting speed dating since 2019. She is polyamorous, queer, and kinky, with a love of shibari/rope bondage. She leads discussion groups and classes on relationships of all sizes, orientations, and dynamics. Her background is in communications, video production, and marketing; check out her YouTube channel (www.youtube.com/c/givenconsent) and or social media @ExploringJamie

Lady Vivus 

Lady Vivus (she/her) is a spiritually & culturally driven bootblack, Switchinatrix, & a leather cow. She's an out, proud, & fierce-as-fire transwoman. At a young age, she became a believer the first time she saw Arnold Schwarzenegger’s tight ass in leather pants while watching Terminator 2. Since then, Vivus has found a spiritual outlet through leather that's driven her love of bootblacking & leather care to new heights. While hailing from Detroit, Michigan, she has settled in Salem, Oregon, where she serves as the majordomo for her leather family, the Atomic Army.

In her previous 9-5, Vivus assisted in running one of the few behavior services agencies in the world dedicated to supporting folx displaying sexually maladaptive behaviors. During that time working in the field of social sexuality, she was grateful to be able to author sex & gender positive curriculum, as well as curriculum around healthy relationship development.

She hopes to inspire others to enjoy sexuality & dynamics from an authentic place, as well as helping folx their spiritual place with leather & be able to find healing within it as well. Her love of community, education, & sharing ideas with other sex-positive folx is insatiable. Vivus also serves as the lead organizer for the Salem Munch, as well as the Willamette Valley Shine On chapter. Vivus currently serves as a resident bootblack for the Portland Eagle & formerly 50 Shades of STFU & Jiffy Kink.