STING NYC is a relaxed, mens-only space where men can gather to explore spanking in all its forms.

Get ready for STING:NYC, Manhattan’s afternoon playground for men who live for spanking.

STING reflects the heart of what a BARE Connections event does best — creating bold, intentional spaces where men can show up fully, connect authentically, and explore shared desires without pretense.

Men of all experience levels are welcome—whether you’re giving, receiving, or trading—in this spirited, open environment rooted in that ethos. Feel the sharp snap of the belt, the disciplinary sting of the bath brush, or the satisfying smack of a hand as you push limits, explore techniques, and sink into the electric, erotic tension that only a good spanking can bring—leaving plenty of red, warm, stinging butts in your wake.

What to Expect 🎉

1:30 PM – Doors Open

1. This gives everyone time to arrive and settle in before we start.

2:00 - 2:30 PM - Arrival & Connection

1. Ease into the afternoon with time to meet others, settle in, and go over the house rules together. This is your chance to get acquainted and set the tone before the play begins.
2. The doors will not close at 3pm. Please plan to arrive in enough time to hear the rules and container agreements before beginning. If you are late, that's ok. Please do not be intentionally late.

2:30–6:00 PM – Open Play

1. With 12+ spanking stations and an open layout. It’s a space designed for movement, visibility, and choice—where watching, learning, and playing all flow together.
2. Play stations include a St. Andrew’s cross, spanking bench, kneeling benches, massage tables, and plenty of space for creative positioning.

All Day - Aftercare & Downtime

1. The social space is where the men gather and share stories and experiences. There’s always space to slow down—share snacks, sip coffee, provide aftercare and cuddle, or sit and watch between rounds

What You’ll Take Away ⤵️

STING is about freedom, camaraderie, and the joy of impact, where men can be men of kink, connect through touch and intention, and remember why a well- placed swat just feels right.

1. A supportive, mens-only environment to explore spanking openly
2. The freedom to play, watch, or simply get a feel for what spanking parties are like
3. Opportunities to connect with like-minded men in a relaxed, low-pressure space
4. A felt experience of consent, negotiation, and community- centered kink

Meet Your Facilitators

This event is led by Dan, a long-standing member of the spanking community and a trusted facilitator within The Kink Collective. Dan brings his passion for spanking and his easygoing style to create a space that feels safe, playful, and welcoming to all men-identified attendees.

Alongside Dan, other Kink Collective members help hold the container with the same guiding philosophy: People Before Kink. Together, they ensure the afternoon runs with care, consent, and community at the center.

🔴 House Rules 🔴

1. Consent is non-negotiable—always ask first.
2. Clean up after yourself (supplies provided).
3. Know your limits and expectations—negotiation forms available.
4. 18+ | Sober play only (moderate alcohol permitted).

Event Details

When: Saturday, March 28th

Time: 1:30–6:00 PM, Doors Close at 3PM

Where: The Sanctuary of East Harlem, 113 E 125th St., NY, NY

10035 (Push the outside door firmly; one flight of stairs, not

wheelchair accessible.)

🎟️ Tickets: Pre-Pay Online Here or Pay at the Door

$20 Members | $30 Solo Ticket | $50 Partner Tickets (2)

Or, Pay at the door (cash, Venmo, Zelle, Cashapp, PayPal)

↘︎ Interested in what membership at the Kink Collective has to offer? Check out our Membership page!

Sting NYC is a space to connect, laugh, play, and discover what spanking can mean for you. Come curious, leave connected.

🎟 And don't forget to purchase your Advance Tickets, here.

Hosted with the care and ethos of BARE Connections, this is a space to explore desire, intensity, and expression without apology. Bring your energy.

• B — Bonds: Trust & Respect
• A — Attention: Presence vs. Performance
• R — Rites: Knowledge, Skill,& Consent
• E — Energy: Intention & Desire

Intention = what you want to create

Desire = the authentic want behind the action

When intention is backed by real desire, every interaction, scene, and moment becomes present, caring, and fully felt.

Presence replaces performance, and the other person can genuinely feel your energy.

BARE Connections is about more than spanking as an act.

It’s about connecting intentionally and authentically.