Sustainable Intimacy: Reignite the Flame for the Long Game

Name: Sustainable Intimacy: Reignite the Flame for the Long Game
Start: 2024-10-03T02:00:00.000Z
End: 2024-10-05T04:15:00.000Z
Location: Oakland

Oct 2, 7 PM -

Oct 4, 9:15 PM PDT

Hosted by TurnON.love
Oakland
Oakland, CA
38 people on the list

Wednesdays October 2nd, 9th, 16th, and 23rd • 7-9:15pm • Oakland

Class recordings available for folks who can't attend in-person.

Early Bird Tickets available thru September 15th!

Renowned intimacy coaches and educators Dr. Alison Ash and her husband Sebastian Clarke of TurnON.love offer this course to give couples effective tools for rediscovering nourishing intimacy and practical steps for creating lasting change.

This safe and supportive environment will allow you to unearth the specific challenges and beliefs that have hindered your intimacy and learn tailor-made strategies to overcome them. Through carefully curated activities, exercises, and discussions, they’ll guide you on a sensual journey to reignite desire, explore new pleasures, and rejuvenate your romantic connection.

In this experiential course, you will:

* Uncover the various libido blockers that get in the way of your turn on, pleasure, and intimacy and receive the tools and skills that will help you overcome them together.

* Learn how to get out of the anxious-avoidant dynamic, cohabitator-coparent roles, and the pressure-rejection cycle and effectively explore feelings, needs, and desires.

* Explore how to make tailor-made verbal, physical, and romantic bids for intimacy that will allow you to successfully woo your partner.

* Discover how to create fun and exciting intimacy dates with a menu of ways to connect authentically and without pressure by attuning to the rightness of the moment.

* Acquire an array of practices that will support you to rediscover your desire and increase your capacity for giving and receiving pleasure.

Course content applicable to both monogamous and non-monogamous dynamics.

You will receive a customizable roadmap with the 35 page Sustainable Intimacy Booklet, which will support you to:

* Identify your specific intimacy blockers including pressure, insecurities, shame, conflict, stress, and more along with the skills to overcome them

* Engage in self-reflection exercises designed to foster a deeper understanding of your desires, needs, and fears when it comes to intimacy.

* Use the informational handouts to easily refer back to and remember the concepts, activities, and tools shared throughout the course.

* Select and record the specific practices and techniques that will empower you to continue to nurture your intimacy long after the course concludes.

Tickets

$100 Early Bird Discount thru September 15th!

Early Bird Ticket — $495 for 2 people

Regular Ticket — $595 for 2 people

Reviews

"My partner and I have been so caught up in parenting, work and life that we had started to feel more like coworkers than in a relationship. We left the workshop feeling more connected both emotionally and sexually and also so much clearer about what caused us to fall into that rut and how to avoid it moving forward. We wholeheartedly recommend this course!" - S. M.

"We have tried so many things that haven’t worked and I can honestly say this was the profound reset for our relationship that I had started to question if it was even possible. I am so grateful to Dr. Aly and Seb for their assistance, humor, and thoughtfulness in the ways they made the material so accessible and applicable." - C. T.

"This workshop gave us the traction we’ve been hungry for in a way that feels authentic, accessible and real. We know what we need to work on and what each of us can do to show up more fully for the other. We already feel so much closer and are excited to continue to put this into action so we can maintain our intimacy." J. J.

Instructor Bios

Dr. Alison Ash, aka Dr. Aly, is a trauma-informed sex and intimacy coach and educator, Stanford University Lecturer, author, and founder of TurnON.love. As a sociologist with a PhD from Stanford, she has a comprehensive understanding of the complex societal challenges that often lead to unsatisfying and disempowering sexual experiences. She designs workshops, courses, and retreats and offers individuals and couples coaching to give others the tools to discover their desires and confidently pursue them.

Dr. Aly is teaming up with her husband and intimacy coach, Sebastian Clarke. In their coaching practice, they frequently work with couples in long term relationships who are struggling to keep the spark alive. Through offering experiential practices, they support these couples to find new ways of being in connection with each other. Sebastian also has more than a decade of experience working with neurodivergent folks, supporting them to increase their capacity for healthy relating. In addition, he's a trauma-informed massage therapist specializing in nervous system regulation.

Important Info

* Tickets are sold in pairs. If you want to come as a group of 3 or more, contact coordinator@turnon.love

* We welcome folks of all genders, sexual orientations, relationship structures, ages, body types, races and ethnicities.

* A limited number of sliding scale tickets are available. Apply for a sliding scale ticket or send an email to coordinator@turnon.love to volunteer.

* Please note tickets are not refundable. You may transfer them to another pair of individuals but not to a future event.

* Please take an at-home antigen test on the day of the workshop and take a photo of your results. Tests can also be purchased at the door for $10. If you are feeling unwell or develop symptoms, please stay home. Masks will be optional.

For more info www.TurnON.love/sustainable-intimacy

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Upcoming Workshops and Courses

Sept 10th - The Secrets of Passion, Romance, and Dominance

Learn to feel confident creating the diverse kinds of erotic energy! Explore how to use words and touch to cultivate passion, romance, and dominance. Master romantic affirmations, passionate dirty talk, and dominating commands. Seduce with romantic feather touches, passionate grabs, and dominant spanking and hair pulling. Discover how to (safely) throw someone against the wall and what to do once you've got them there. Create more variety and spice in the bedroom!

Sept 18th - Navigating Non-Monogamy: Level 1 (also available as an on-demand rental)

Exploring non-monogamy can feel overwhelming and downright terrifying, but with the proper support and tools it can be exciting and empowering! Examine how your values and needs influence which relationship styles will work best for you. Explore how to open up and find poly people to date. Examine the most common pitfalls and how to avoid them and gain concrete tips that will help your relationship(s) survive and thrive. With these resources, suggestions, and tools you’ll receive the support you need to explore ethical non-monogamy with greater clarity and ease! Also available as an on-demand rental!

Sept 25th - From Pressure to Pleasure: Reclaim Your Desire (contact Dr. Aly for the on-demand version)

Feeling pressure around intimacy and sex is common, and if unaddressed can feed on itself creating long-term consequences for your ability to feel pleasure and comfort with lovers and partners. Navigating performance anxiety, differences in libido, and expectations that you should feel differently than you do can make enjoying intimacy feel inaccessible if not impossible. Whether you're navigating a new romance or in a long-term relationship, addressing and alleviating this pressure is a crucial step toward feeling more connected with your body and your lover. Learn how to reduce pressure so you can reclaim your authentic desire and feel empowered to move towards intimacy and pleasure.

Oct 1st - Mastering Non-Monogamy: Level 2 (also available as an on-demand rental)

Empower yourself with the know-how and tools you need to have secure and fulfilling non-monogamous relationships. Discover tools for navigating jealousy and how to support a partner when they're feeling jealous. Examine power dynamics in and across various types of relationship structures, and learn how to empower all participants. Explore techniques for discussing fears and needs and negotiating agreements with lovers and partners. Gain tips for having healthy dynamics with metamours (your partners’ partners). Up level your ability to maintain multiple nourishing relationships! Also available as an on-demand rental!

Oct 2nd, 9th, 16th, & 23rd - Sustainable Intimacy: Reignite the Flame for the Long Game (also available an an on-demand rental)

Struggling with different libidos, relating to sex like it’s a chore, and feeling rejection and resentment are just some of the challenges couples in long-term relationships face. When intimacy gets stagnant it can be hard to find ways to reconnect sexually that feel genuine and pleasurable. Rather than giving you a momentary boost of passion, Seb and I will provide you all the tools you need to create a sustainable and personalized path to lasting intimacy for the long run.

Learn how to get out of the anxious-avoidant dynamic, cohabitator-coparent roles, and the pressure-rejection cycle
Uncover the various libido blockers that get in the way of your turn on, pleasure, and intimacy and how to overcome them
Explore how to make verbal, physical, and romantic bids for intimacy that will allow you to effectively woo your partner
Discover how to create fun and exciting intimacy dates with a menu of ways to connect authentically and without pressure.
Acquire an array of practices that will support you to rediscover your turn on and increase your capacity for giving and receiving pleasure.
Receive the 35 page Sustainable Intimacy booklet that will enable you to identify your specific intimacy blockers, engage in self-reflection exercises, and record the specific practices that will empower you to continue to nurture your intimacy.

Nov 6th - Pick Your Person(s) (also available as an on-demand rental)

How do you know if this person is a good fit for you? Are you afraid you’re settling, or perhaps you’re worried you’re being too picky? Learn how to identify your needs and learn how to honor them as your non-negotiables while also explore how to be flexible with you wants. Develop a filter so you can feel confident about your choices. Discover how to gently and compassionately end connections that aren’t nourishing and how to courageously and vulnerably invite deeper intimacy with the right person(s) for you!

Nov 10th - How to Eat Pussy like a Champ (also available as an on-demand rental)

Givers will learn how to discover what turns their lover(s) on and explore a wide range of techniques for maximizing pleasure. Receivers will learn how to surrender into sensation while also taking a more active role in cultivating their own pleasure. Discover all the nerve pathways involved so you can understand the different kinds of orgasms possible as well as science-based techniques for how to explore them. Plus, there's a thorough live demo so you can see all the skills put into action. Both individuals and couples are welcome!